Do you get upset when people RSVP no?

rbtrumpet

haha - my church doesn't fit over 200 (at least not comfortably!) so I was desperately praying for "no"s (although if this ratio keeps up, I'll be WAY under the 200 favors I already bought...)

I had one girl who, like OP, she and I were talking about wedding stuff (she just got engaged last week) - and she was saying how much she was looking forward to mine (which is the really odd part), and I came home to find a "no" RSVP from her.  

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As this started as a serious post I thought I'd add in my humor too, all of my groomsmen (well his groomsmen?) thought it'd be funny to RSVP "no"... my planner didn't find it funny HAHAHA

Theresa626

You know of all the people that AREN"T coming to my wedding, most of them didn't even send the RSVP card back. They emailed me or called my parents to say they wouldn't be coming.  But, they didn't want to tell me directly.  I think that people feel guilty or bad about not being able to make it so they want to tell you in an indirect way.  

Theresa626

Also, to answer your question, I got ridiculously excited every time I got a no RSVP.  There were certain people who I wanted to come and who I always knew would be there no matter what.  Then there were a ton of people who I don't know or met once ten years ago and didn't really want to pay for but was required to invite anyway.  So, I got really excited when a lot of them RSVP'd no.  I also got excited when tons of single people RSVP'd without a date.  It made me happy.  

quotequeen

I haven't sent out my invitations yet, but I think I will definitely have mixed feelings depending on who it is that says no.  I wouldn't expect anybody to tell me in person though.  I don't think I would tell anybody in person either - that's what the card is for.  If you bring it up in person, then the bride will probably expect some sort of explanation, which isn't owed, and could just make things awkward.

myother1

More annoying, to me, was getting "yes" RSVPs and then the people not showing up at the wedding.  This happened with about 7 people, and only a couple of them had legit reasons (work emergency, illness).

Thanks, I just wasted a lot of money on your empty chair. 

danieliza1127

There were some people that I didn't really care that they declined, but there some good friends that I was really disappointed in and kind of hurt, yes.  It happens though.  It is weird that your friend didn't mention it at lunch or tell you why she couldn't make it...

Soon2BeMrsTing

I've definitely been sad to receive a lot of unexpected 'No's.  A good number of them, those from the dear friends who are hating that they can't be there, are just due to circumstances that can't be helped- a surgery here, an adoption there, etc. 

But then we asked our caterer what it would cost to upgrade from beer and wine to a full open bar now that we have 100 fewer people coming than we were planning for, and we're going for it.  I'm psyched about that!