I have recently learned that the Pastor at our church (Lutheran) does not allow people to stand when a bride enters and exits the church. For some reason, I am very bent out of shape about this. I have been to a lot of wedding of varying denominations and everyone has always stood when the bride and FOB enter and when the bride and groom make their exit. I guess the Pastor believes that "you only stand for God." Has anyone else experienced this? Any ideas on how to best approach this? Or should I just get over it?
Re: Standing for the bride?
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[QUOTE]Sounds like a pretty firm rule that she's not likely to bend on. It's probably something you'll have to get over if you want to marry t here. <strong>How will this be conveyed to your guests?</strong> I'm used to standing when the bride enters so I'd feel awkward if I stood and then got told to sit down or something.
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This. Will the pastor start yelling at everyone to sit down or will there be an announcement prior to the ceremony? Most people are used to standing when the bride enters so I think this definitely needs to be addressed.
If you really want to get married there then you are just going to have to get over it, but if people standing for you is more important then ceremony location I would start looking elsewhere.
Well i am absolutely getting married there. The invites are printed and I didn't sit through hours of pre-martial counseling for nothing!
But that is a very good point. I have no idea how it will be conveyed to everyone. And what if people don't stand for the entrance but in the excitement of the "you may now kiss the bride" people stand up. Will he yell at them to sit back down?
I don't feel comfortable questioning a pastor on how he conducts his service but i don't want our guests to feel awkward when half the people stand and half sit.
[QUOTE]I'm Lutheran, and have never heard of this from any Lutheran pastor. He sounds weird.
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<div>Also Lutheran and I've never heard of this. Are you ELCA, Missouri Synod or another branch?</div>
Take two: This time I am getting married outside and have one center aisle, but I would still prefer the guests to remain seated so that my groom and I can see each other as I enter. However, I'm not having programs and an announcement to remain seated sounds kind of silly to me, so everyone will probably stand and we'll just see each other when I reach the "altar".