S/O - Strippers

jasmineh7777

I see what you're saying Mery. What I mean is the "last hurrah" thing. I don't get the last night of being single, because I'm not mourning losing my single life. So, I don't need to go wild as some sort of symbol of transition.

zippityb

My last night of being single was the night before I became boyfriend/girlfriend with my fiance.

ricksang

Yes, I'd be pissed.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I see what you're saying Mery. What I mean is the "last hurrah" thing. I don't get the last night of being single, because I'm not mourning losing my single life. So, I don't need to go wild as some sort of symbol of transition.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

Oh, yeah. I totally agree with that. We haven't been single for a while and our level of commitment is still the same the night before we are legally joined as it will be the night after.

hurricanekeri

so most of you are completely against strip clubs in general and lab dances are out of the question. I have been to many strip clubs and the strippers have rules and don't allow men to touch them. Part of marriage is trust and if you want to marry someone you should know that they will not have sex will a stripper.

KentuckyKate

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[QUOTE]The whole "he tasted like stripper lotion" makes the story sound somehow made up to me. Posted by ac_in_dc[/QUOTE]

I agree with this.  Especially because if I found out my FI went into a private room with a stripper for half an hour, hell would freeze over before I would kiss him that very same night.  I would have no clue whether or not he tasted like "stripper lotion."

noelle24

Why is it that someone *always* has to come into a thread about this topic to basically say "if you aren't comfortable with strippers, then you don't trust your FI"? 

We all have lines where we consider behavior "cheating" or "inappropriate", and everyone's can be at a different point.  I completely trust that my FI won't cross those lines.  My line happens to be drawn at lap dances.  I find the potential for contact inappropriate. I have no fear that my FI would sleep with someone else, stripper or not.  So my dislike of lapdances has nothing to do with a fear of FI cheating.

Hurricanekeri: You don't have that line about lap dances/strippers, and that's fine. 

All that matters is that your FI knows what you are OK with and you trust him not to cross that line... wherever you choose to draw it.

aMrsin09

East and AC pretty much spoke for me.

The very first night I met H, we all ended up at a stip club together.  Strip clubs don;t bother me, but the touchy does.  H was (jokingkly) giving me crap about lap dances, but as soon I said "ok, but that means it's OK for a guy to have his junk up in my face next to my mouth..." H quickly changed his tune and stopped joking around.

mocha beans

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[QUOTE]so most of you are completely against strip clubs in general and lab dances are out of the question. I have been to many strip clubs and the strippers have rules and don't allow men to touch them. Part of marriage is trust and if you want to marry someone you should know that they will not have sex will a stripper.
Posted by hurricanekeri[/QUOTE]

I am okay with strip clubs, in public, not private rooms, not strippers that come to hotel/house.  It has nothing to do with a lack of trust in FI.  It has everything to do with me just not liking the idea of having a stripper grinding her naked hoohaa on his crotch.  Only one naked hoohaa gets to do that, and if he wants a stripper to do it, then he doesn't need me around to do it.  I'm pretty sure he feels the same way.

And no, not all strippers have the no touch rule, and not all clubs are flawless in enforcing such rules.

MyNameIsNot

On the stripper lotion: My DH had a female stripper roommate when we first started dating.  (It was Key West, everyone had a questionable roommate.)  She always smelled like cheap fruity lotion, and so did her friends.  She would swim in the stuff.  She also used to spray scented body spray on her crotch while she was dancing.  You'd never really think about it, but when you're that active and getting sweaty, that stuff starts to stink, and then you put it in someone's face.  

To answer the question, I'm totally fine with strip clubs and everything that happens in the public room, but I would not be comfortable with DH being in a private room or at a private party where a stripper comes to your house.  I feel like I"m ok with anything you can do in front of people, but if you need to go in private, it's not ok.  He knows that, and if I found out he did it anyway, it would be a huge issue.  Luckily, living with a stripper sort of ruined his desire to go.

polichik

That's cheating. Beyond unacceptable.

If FI was the kind of guy who felt like behavior like that was ok, I'd reevaluate my decision to be with him.

tlv204

I would not be ok with that at all. I really don't mind strip clubs, and know that H has gone before and goes occasionally, almost always because of b parties, but I tend to think of strip clubs as more funny social places than having anything to do with actual sex. I'm on the fence about public lap dances, but private rooms, even if there is a no touching by the guy rule, would not be ok with me. He certainly wouldn't be ok with the same happening with me.

Somehow I don't think I've ever seen male strippers anywhere but on TV. Well, there was a chippendale's show at a bar in my college town once, but the tickets were like $50 and I was broke, so we just went to the bar afterwards. So technically I saw the strippers, but they were fully clothed and just having drinks bought for them by creepy cougars

kimheartsscott

I would be down with the girl strippers anyway, they are way more attractive.