Confessions

kcscejal

I confess I hate being estranged from my brother's kids, but his wife has made it very clear we were never good enough for her and she doesn't want us to see them.  I hope that someday they will want a link to their father and want to see us, but I cannot try anymore.  I hate knowing they will grow up thinking we are awful people who don't love them.

salt78

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[QUOTE]And that fucking Christmas Shoes song gets me every time
Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]

<div>That song makes me want to stab myself in the face repeatedly.</div>

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : That song makes me want to stab myself in the face repeatedly.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

The lady that called in to request it last night was all like "I've been out shopping all afternoon, and I haven't heard you play Christmas Shoes at all!  Please please play it!" 

Why?  Just why?  Do you like being sad?  Seriously.

Anysunrise

I confess that I cry when I read about people here who've been having trouble getting pregnant, but I barely blinked an eye when I found out my dad has cancer.

kcscejal

I don't know.  At the funeral her father told my dad "I guess *insert bro's name here* can finally provide properly for my daughter."  She blocked me on facebook.  I called on my niece's bday.  She said she would have her call me after her birthday party.  That was July.  No call.  I called last Christmas; she texted they were busy and she'd call back later.  Nothing.  I've cried for hours every time I get hope I will get to actually know them, and I can't take it anymore.

salt78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : The lady that called in to request it last night was all like "I've been out shopping all afternoon, and I haven't heard you play Christmas Shoes at all!  Please please play it!"  Why?  Just why?  Do you like being sad?  Seriously.
Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]

<div>Songs about a kid's mom dying and going to meet Jesus sure get me in the Christmas shopping mood!</div>

Birdie1483

Kiki, how long have you been TTC? I didn't know you were. I'm sorry xoxo.

Dodgers, I confess that it irritates me sometimes to see my aunts/uncles/cousins on my dad's side write things on Facebook like "I bet daddy is having a blast up there with mamaw and papaw" about their deceased father. I'm like Hello? What about your uncle too? He's up there too ya know. Actually he arrived first. After my dad passed, my dad's side never put in much effort to see me or my brother.

My dad's first wife (my half-brother's mom) and her new husband are more family to me than any of my blood relatives were. Which is crazy since she was in a big custody battle with my parents over bro before I was born.

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Songs about a kid's mom dying and going to meet Jesus sure get me in the Christmas shopping mood!
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

Oh for sure.

Sorry about your dad, Any.  How is he doing?

crfische

Jal, Man. That's harsh. Sad. I'm sorry.

kikibaby

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[QUOTE]I confess that I cry when I read about people here who've been having trouble getting pregnant, but I barely blinked an eye when I found out my dad has cancer.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

Well, you relationships with people here are probably a lot less complicated.

I have no idea what this Christmas Shoes song is.

FutureMrsTR

If you hate Christmas Shoes, you MUST watch this:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iq10bz3PxyY

L-Bride

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[QUOTE]I confess that H's and my decision not to buy Xmas presents for each other (H is out of work, money is super tight and we don't want to dip into savings) is totally the right decision- because Xmas isn't about presents anyway, right?- I am totally bummed that we are not exchanging gifts on our first Christmas together.
Posted by aplatanada[/QUOTE]

You know how you can make this fun? You each agree to spending $15 tops on each other for Christmas and you have to be as creative and thoughtful about as possible. You can use the money to make eachother something or to buy goody bags of random things of things he loves. i.e.: Kraft Mac and Cheese...things like that.
I remember Jessica and Nick did it on Newlyweds for V-day years ago because they already had everything they needed and they wanted it to be meaningful. It's kind of corny but you will most likely remember your first Christmas together because of it <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

DodgersBride

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[QUOTE]I don't know.  <strong>At the funeral her father told my dad "I guess *insert bro's name here* can finally provide properly for my daughter</strong>."  She blocked me on facebook.  I called on my niece's bday.  She said she would have her call me after her birthday party.  That was July.  No call.  I called last Christmas; she texted they were busy and she'd call back later.  Nothing.  I've cried for hours every time I get hope I will get to actually know them, and I can't take it anymore.
Posted by kcscejal[/QUOTE]

I am literally filled with anger right now over this statement. What kind of asshole says that a funeral and ever worst to the person's parent.

I'm sorry you have to deal with ex SIL. I hope one day their kids grow up and realize that their mom has been keeping them from a family that loves them.

kikibaby

Only a few months, Birdie.  I think I'm still normal and healthy at this point, just disappointed.

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Well, you relationships with people here are probably a lot less complicated. I have no idea what this Christmas Shoes song is.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

Google it. 

Lyrics off the top of my head to the refrain:
"Sir I wanna buy these shoes, for my mama please.  It's Christmas eve and these shoes are just her size.  Please hurry sir, daddy says there's not much time.  You see, she's been sick for quite a while, and I know these shoes will make her smile, and I want her to look beautiful, when mama meets Jesus tonight."

Stabby.

Snippylynn

Who on SB is pregnant?

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Well, you relationships with people here are probably a lot less complicated. I have no idea what this Christmas Shoes song is.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I think it's the opposite actually. I don't really have ANY relationship with my dad. I found out last week I have two half siblings though, one of which is 9 years younger than me. Nice to know what he was doing when I wasn't seeing him more than once a year.

*cough* Anyways.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]Who on SB is pregnant?
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

KatieWhompus (which you probably know) and Allisong.

Birdie1483

Which is understandable. Just don't let it stress you out to the point where it takes the fun out of trying. It'll happen!

Even though I freaked out at the thought of being pregnant, I secretly can't wait until we can try. We just have to get all married and stuff first. We say we'll wait like a year or something after the wedding, but I seriously doubt that's going to happen. I've been having dreams like crazy lately that I was pregnant and it's been giving me the bug.

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]If you hate Christmas Shoes, you MUST watch this:  <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iq10bz3PxyY" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iq10bz3PxyY</a>
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

Bwahahahaha.  Thanks for that.

kcscejal

Thanks Fishy.  When I read poster's here talking about how their father's famiily never made an effort to see them I know that's how they're going to feel about us, and it makes me really sad, but I don't know what else to do.

Celles

This thread is breaking my heart.  Seriously. 

I am sorry Bubba and Broccoli and Kiki and Kcs!

[Deleted User]

Ahh I actually had to work for a minute there!

Sorry Kiki   Hoping everything works out soon for you!

And I also do not know the Christmas Shoes song.

Mrs.B6302007

Kiki - I don't know if I ever told you but it took us 11 cycles and 1 miscarriage to get our Baby Bee.  I was disappointed every time AF showed up but 6-12 months TTC  is fairly average.

doctabroccoli

Here's the actual Christmas Shoes song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VNsvE33pRSw&feature=related

[Deleted User]

Here's a new confession...

I don't know what TTC is..I hadn't heard of it until recently here on the Knot.

crfische

TTC -- Trying to conceive.

The Bump is full of acronyms that I don't want to know.

kikibaby

B, I'm sorry about your loss.  I can't imagine how hard that would be.  My sister lost a baby, too, and it was heartbreaking. 

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]Kcs, your story really hits home for me.  I just found out that my biological father's family has reached out to my birth mother many times over the years, hoping that she would help them to contact me.  She has always refused because of how awful they were to her when she was dating their son.  The thing is, my biological father died from cancer when he was only 17 years-old, about a year after I was given up for adoption.  I understand that my birth mom was hurt by their rejection -- of her, and me -- but it was 29 years ago and I'm all that's left of him.  Let it go. She also confessed to me over the weekend that his dying wish was for me to someday come back into her life.  I've been all weepy since then, especially since I'm getting married in two months and the whole adoption scandal -- I don't know why it's a scandal, but it is; my parents treat it like some big taboo and freak the hell out when anyone so much as alludes to the fact that I was adopted -- has caused such a rift in my immediate and extended family that I have no idea who's coming.  And some of the people who want most to come (my birth mom and her family) can't because my parents refuse to acknowledge them, let alone host them.  It's a huge mess and I think I'm going slightly batty because of it.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

That really sucks :(.  So how did you reconnect with your birth mom in the first place?

Birdie1483

OMG I'm cracking up at TR's video.