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MOG problems
Last night at dinner, my FI's mother was asking where the venue would have us (the girls in the WP) when guests are showing up. After talking a little more about it with her, she thinks she is going to be spending the entire day with me before the ceremony. I was shocked that she assumed this! Is this normal? I really just thought it would be my mom and my bridesmaids. She can drive me crazy sometimes and I really do not want to be stressed out from having to listen to her all day. She also is about as senstive as a 5 year old. Is it normal to have the MOG with the bride all day? Any suggestions on how to avoid it?
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Re: MOG problems
DDIL did not invite me to spend the morning (afternoon wedding) with her but - we got up and started getting ready, the groomsmen arrived at our house to get dressed and it was off to the ceremony. I really wouldn't have had time to go over there with as early as the wedding was.
I do think it depends on how well you get along, if her talking is annoying and stressful for you then you won't want to have her. If she's fun and a calm person that it would be ok.
[QUOTE]I wouldn't, because that is time with my mom, but that's just me. Others are close and don't mind, but I want my mom to feel special too. My FMIL is great though. She hasn't tried to get in on any of the stuff that we feel is MOB territory.
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]
That is how I feel! Things are going to be super busy and I kind of just want some time with my Mom. To let her know how thankful I am for everything and to make her feel special too.
I am thinking about having my FI explain to her that she can spend some of the day with us, but I also want time with just my mom. My FI understands completely, we talked about it last night.
[QUOTE]OH, I'm having this battle currently. FI said that we may have to have her pictures taken after the ceremony because he "expects her to be with my the whole time". Yeah, no. I don't want her in there except for a few minutes AFTER I'm dressed and we're all hanging out. Otherwise, I want to be with my family and my friends. I also know she'll try to force her way into the room while I'm getting dressed, or when I show it to my dad the first time. In the end, you just need to be firm with her, and make sure your FI is on your side. <strong>Luckily, she's going to our hotel at 3 to pick up the key, "clean the hottub" and decorate (100% against our wishes, but she didn't listen), so hopefully I can avoid the awkward situation of kicking her out.</strong>
Posted by SarahR11[/QUOTE]
<div>When my parents got married, my dad's twin sister did that for them. They pulled the covers down and found a note stuck between the sheets. "God is watching."</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOG problems : When my parents got married, my dad's twin sister did that for them. They pulled the covers down and found a note stuck between the sheets. "God is watching."
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
Um, creepy much?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOG problems : Um, creepy much?
Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]
<div>Every family has a crazy person. My aunt fulfills that role.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOG problems : When my parents got married, my dad's twin sister did that for them. They pulled the covers down and found a note stuck between the sheets. "God is watching."
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
Wow! That is strange!
[QUOTE]<strong>Can your FI tell her he wants her to be with him?</strong>
Posted by GeauxTigers17[/QUOTE]
This is what I would do. I would actually love to have FMIL hang out with me all day, but I have a feeling she's going to want to spend time with her son and that's cool =D But if I didn't want her around, I'd probably have FI tell her that he wants to spend some time with her before the ceremony.
Also, off topic, but GeauxTigers, you are freaking beautiful!
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