O ladies of Etiquette, I require your advice!
Here's my deal: In putting together our initial guest list, I was super focused on the fact that you cannot uninvite guests later (as we all know that's a etiquette faux paus) and as such, we were a bit ruthless with the guest list and cut quite a few people off that we're semi-close to (more background info: this is a destination wedding in Las Vegas).
Wedding is this May, and the Save the Dates were sent out this past August, planning to send invites out in late February (again, long lead times considering it's a DW). I'm now feeling like I was a bit over-zealous and one of the girlfriends I left off our initial list should warrant an invite. I have major guilt about it because she and I have gotten closer than we ever were in the past few months. I'm stepping on eggshells here because I'm almost certain that she's very much aware she never received an STD (a few mutual friends of ours were invited) but I'm also pretty sure she's hoping for an invite as well.
Do I:
A) Go ahead and invite her-- either by sending her an STD now, or making up some "Oh, you didn't get your STD in the mail last August?" lie so she won't feel B-listed (I feel like she would see through the latter option and that might be dangerous). If I do invite her, do I need to explain to her why she didn't get her STD until this late? Do I just tell her the truth and say we were trying to cut down our guest list but I felt that I wanted her to be invited?
or
Keep her off the list-- sending her an STD at this point, after she's known other friends to have them, would just cause more hurt feelings and is a breach of etiquette.
Thanks for your two cents, gals.