Ok, so here's the situation. We are planning a smallish ceremony and reception at a local restaurant. I was talking with my mother this weekend about the guestlist. I have included a couple of family members on the list who are older and likely not able to make it to the wedding.
My thinking was, that in an ideal situation, yes these are people who I would like to be there on that day. Also, because of who they are that it is appropriate that they should be invited--that they should get the respect or honor of the invitation. Yes I would hope they could make it if they can, but I certainly wouldn't want them to make a trip that was too difficult or burdensome. I would not want to hurt feelings by not inviting them.
Her thinking is that while that sounds right, she is worried that if some of these people get an invitation they will feel obligated to make a trip that might not be good for them. And I certainly can see her point. She also thinks that if it is small, there is less chance of hurt feelings for not getting an invitation.
I really am stuck on what to do here. Certainly some of you have been in this situation. I should also mention that these guests are mostly from her family, so I also sort of feel like she has a vote? She hasn't "put her foot down" or anything, but I feel like if I do what I am inclined to do (invite them) I will be going against her wishes. I think we both have our hearts in the right place, I just don't know what to do. WWYD? Thanks!