Bridesmaids height difference

Night_Sprite

She's going to wear stilts, clown stilts with big clown shoes on the bottoms.  She told me.

jerseydevil

Wow... just wow....

NatandIsaac

I wish that I had known about these boards before I was engaged. A couple of years ago, I was a BM and the bride made me ware 3" stilettos, and I never wear heals. I wanted to cry after a couple of hours my feet hurt so bad, but I thought that was a BM's job.

[Deleted User]

Orange hair might bother me, but height? Come on!

zitiqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:8edd0ec8-c75a-4765-8186-4036887668fb">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]Tell Mount St. Bridesmaid that if she were a real friend she'd walk in on her knees, Dorf-style. 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

I'm giggling.

sharoneeee

okay...geez some of you can be harsh. but i get it. thanks for pointing out and exaggerating my stupidity.

but can i just say this? i'm short, and if a bride asked me to wear high heels, i would do it and not complain. tall people are not the only ones who are self conscious about their height. i only brought up the kitten heels with her because i thought it would make her feel less self conscious if she wasn't significantly taller than the others. but if she wants to wear heels, it's fine. i don't care anymore.







thank you to those who posted their photos. i found this one online and still see that it's a beautiful photo no matter how tall everyone is.

ohwhynot

Hooray!  A poster who asks for advice, gets it, and actually takes it!  AND keeps a sense of humor about her!  I should play the lottery or something today.

crfische

MT ST. BRIDESMAID.

Holy crap, that's funny.

zitiqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:e5e34a36-0e26-4291-91d0-527e68f44a50">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]okay...geez some of you can be harsh. but i get it. thanks for pointing out and exaggerating my stupidity. but can i just say this? i'm short, and if a bride asked me to wear high heels, i would do it and not complain. tall people are not the only ones who are self conscious about their height. i only brought up the kitten heels with her because i thought it would make her feel less self conscious if she wasn't significantly taller than the others. but if she wants to wear heels, it's fine. i don't care anymore. thank you to those who posted their photos. i found this one online and still see that it's a beautiful photo no matter how tall everyone is.
Posted by sharoneeee[/QUOTE]

How do you know she's self-conscious about her height?

And if she wasn't before, she certainly is now, thanks to you.

salt78

5'2" to 5'7" is not a significant height difference. It's 5 friggin' inches. It's not like she's a foot taller than anyone. 

ohwhynot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:cde921c9-0790-4487-8a9c-0ee04967a3bb">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids height difference : How do you know she's self-conscious about her height? And if she wasn't before, she certainly is now, thanks to you.
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

Oh, that's a really good point.  Esp. since 5'7" ain't exactly Attack of the 50 Foot Woman territory. 


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 In any event, though, I think OP gets the main message.

mkrupar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:8edd0ec8-c75a-4765-8186-4036887668fb">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]Tell Mount St. Bridesmaid that if she were a real friend she'd walk in on her knees, Dorf-style. 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

FTW! That's hilarious OWN.

OP - It doesn't matter, short or tall, you shouldn't dictate what height your BM's shoes are. At least maybe you saw the light at the end.

kikibaby

Huh.  I can't imagine this even crossing my mind.

Snippylynn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:8edd0ec8-c75a-4765-8186-4036887668fb">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]Tell Mount St. Bridesmaid that if she were a real friend she'd walk in on her knees, Dorf-style. 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

Holy schit OWN.

The Mel and Todd Show

OWN, I think you win the internet today. 

sarah0725

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:e5e34a36-0e26-4291-91d0-527e68f44a50">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]okay...geez some of you can be harsh. but i get it. thanks for pointing out and exaggerating my stupidity. but can i just say this? i'm short, and if a bride asked me to wear high heels, i would do it and not complain. tall people are not the only ones who are self conscious about their height. i only brought up the kitten heels with her because i thought it would make her feel less self conscious if she wasn't significantly taller than the others. but if she wants to wear heels, it's fine. i don't care anymore. thank you to those who posted their photos. i found this one online and still see that it's a beautiful photo no matter how tall everyone is.
Posted by sharoneeee[/QUOTE]

You know, one other thing you could do is ask your photographer to pose you guys a little more sensitively when taking pictures. Sure, those lined-up pictures look kind of odd when one person is much taller than everyone else, but with a more casual approach, you guys could have all sorts of lovely photos. Maybe you could take a group pictures on a set stars but all stand at different heights, or lean against a wall, or she could sit and the rest of you could put your faces next to hers all cute-like.

I'd be sad if I were asked not to wear heels in somebody's wedding. For me, I don't feel dressed up unless I'm wearing heels, and I definitely prefer dancing in heels. Also, I find a lot of the flat shoes that are made now are more uncomfortable than my well-built heels. So I think there are lots of ways to let your friend be comfortable the way she wants, and still get what you want.

crfische

I prefer dancing barefoot with a glass of keg beer in hand.

DNAtime

I don't even know how tall my BMs are......hmmm. Well that moment as passed, I don't care how tall they are once again.

sharoneeee

FYI she's been one of my best friends, for a REALLY long time. she's a bridesmaid in my wedding, so I sort of know her (can you sense my sarcasm?).

Trust me, I know my friends, I discussed this with her and she is NOT self conscious about her height because of me.

salt78

My bridesmaids and I were all the same height. My wedding was perfect.

mandysmear

OMG.  OWN, that was awesome.

sharoneeee

We have discussed this and are now having a friendly discussion about how I want her to wear high heels and now she wants to wear kitten heels.

...you can stop posting now.

ohwhynot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:d892294e-4db6-41cc-ba95-63db05474ba5">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]We have discussed this and are now having a friendly discussion about how I want her to wear high heels and now she wants to wear kitten heels. ...you can stop posting now.
Posted by sharoneeee[/QUOTE]

Dang it.  I just "hoorayed" you.  Don't make me look bad. 

FutureMrsTR

:::posts:::

sarah0725

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:d892294e-4db6-41cc-ba95-63db05474ba5">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]We have discussed this and are now having a friendly discussion about how I want her to wear high heels and now she wants to wear kitten heels. <strong>...you can stop posting now.</strong>
Posted by sharoneeee[/QUOTE]

And I just went and posted something all helpful.

Well, it's nice to know that you are Miss Boss of the Internet who can tell us when a topic should no longer be discussed.

The Mel and Todd Show

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:d892294e-4db6-41cc-ba95-63db05474ba5">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]We have discussed this and are now having a friendly discussion about how I want her to wear high heels and now she wants to wear kitten heels. <strong>...you can stop posting now.
</strong>Posted by sharoneeee[/QUOTE]

Guys...hey...we can stop now.  OP, thanks for clearing that up.  These things go on for DAYS until someone blows the whistle.  One time my fingers were bleeding :( 

sharoneeee

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-height-difference?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6e9e0e-4597-4b5f-8307-23dd4fb6da1bPost:d56b964c-0e8f-4aa6-914e-9adbcb57b423">Re: Bridesmaids height difference</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids height difference : Guys...hey...we can stop now.  OP, thanks for clearing that up.  These things go on for DAYS until someone blows the whistle.  One time my fingers were bleeding :( 
Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]

i meant to say you could stop posting as in, i have my answer. i wasn't trying to be a diva or be "boss of the internet". if you want to go on repeating the answer to my question then please go right ahead. :)

thanks The Mel and Todd Show for actually being nice!

MattsPenguin

Isn't this why God put steps at the front of the church?  For this exact reason?

FWIW - mine range from about 5'-1" to 5'-10" (sans heels).  I'm 5'-5" and FI is 6'-3".  It all comes out in the wash!  I'm just glad to have such good friends to be bridesmaids, in all of their various shapes and sizes!

ETA:  Late as usual.  Dang this working thing!

annakb8

Wow this is like yesterday when that girl told everyone to play nice. I didn't know OPs could set up rules for their threads.

Birdie1483

All of my BM's are going to be taller and skinnier than me. The bitches. I should just shove twinkies down their throats!