Handling wedding guilt...

Liberty27

I got a call this morning from FSIL about the hotel block.  I feel guilty because not only does FI friends and family have to travel but they are also not used to the fact that things like hotels are more expensive in big cities.  I am not really sure exactly how to handle it, any advice?

louisvillebride21

You don't handle it. It's not your problem. If you found the lowest room you could, that's all you can do. People will find out how much it is and decide for themselves if they can afford it or not. Don't feel guilty about your wedding. As long as you're providing for your guests to the best of your abilities, that's the best you can do.

twilight.rose

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[QUOTE]You don't handle it. It's not your problem. If you found the lowest room you could, that's all you can do. People will find out how much it is and decide for themselves if they can afford it or not. Don't feel guilty about your wedding. As long as you're providing for your guests to the best of your abilities, that's the best you can do.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

This. You will never please everyone with your wedding plans. It can be hard, but you have to just accept that fact, and move on. I'm sure you will have a beautiful day, and your FI's family will deal with the hotel situation.

They aren't obligated to stay at the block of rooms. If it's really upsetting them, they can always look for other accommodations in a smaller town nearby and drive in, etc. There are other options if they choose to pursue them.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Handling wedding guilt... : They aren't obligated to stay at the block of rooms. If it's really upsetting them, they can always look for other accommodations in a smaller town nearby and drive in, etc. There are other options if they choose to pursue them.
Posted by twilight.rose[/QUOTE]

Exactly.  If the hotel you blocked rooms at is out of their price range, just suggest other low cost hotels/motels in the area, like Super 8 or something. 

golden1215

We have this issue with my in-laws too.  The rooms that were normally $150 range we got in a block for $89, and that's still expensive to them... like others said, you'll never please everyone and you shouldn't even try. 

Some will stay, some will find another hotel and some may not come, but you can't do anything about it.

Did you find the best deal possible?

TheCranberry

If many people are having this concern, I'd probably do some quick research to find out if there is a cheaper option for them and let them know about.  Maybe even make a block at that hotel.  You can let them know that the main hotel will be X but that you also found cheaper rooms at hotel Y.  They can make their choice then.  Definitely don't beat yourself up about it though.

AbbeyS2011

Have you set up a block at more than one hotel?  Or given your guests a list of various hotels available in the area?  I know of some brides that have done this.  As PPs have said, this is not really your issue to worry about.  If your guests want to attend, they will figure out accommodations on their own.  Some people like to stay at a particular chain of hotels to get points.