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Question about addressing invites

I'm gearing up to start addressing the invites for my December wedding.  We sent out our save the dates in April since the wedding is a week before Christmas.  One of the save the dates was addressed to FI's friend and his fiancee.  They have since broken up and he is dating someone new.  Neither FI nor I ever really got to know his fiancee. 

So here's the question:  Should I invite his ex as well?  My gut is telling me that it's probably good etiquette since her name was on the save the date, but I would hate for it to make the evening super awkward for FI's friend and his new GF.

TIA!

Re: Question about addressing invites

  • I'm gearing up to start addressing the invites for my December wedding.  We sent out our save the dates in April since the wedding is a week before Christmas.  One of the save the dates was addressed to FI's friend and his fiancee.  They have since broken up and he is dating someone new.  Neither FI nor I ever really got to know his fiancee. 

    So here's the question:  Should I invite his ex as well?  My gut is telling me that it's probably good etiquette since her name was on the save the date, but I would hate for it to make the evening super awkward for FI's friend and his new GF.

    TIA!
  • Are you guys friends with the ex apart from her ex-fiance? If she was only originally invited because she was FI's friend's fiancee, I don't think she expects an invitation.
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  • No need to invite the ex- since you weren't friends with her and she was only being invited because she was engaged to him. I'm sure she doesn't expect an invitation now (and too bad if she does).
  • No his ex wouldn't be invited now that they've broken up, since she was just his date and not really your friend independent of their relationship.  If he's still with this new girl by the time you send out invitations, put her name on the invitation instead.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_question-addressing-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a1279448-0a8c-4b6f-9d18-a5414d9ae161Post:7e8dd47c-a116-4254-b9e7-109f5bef8ea4">Re: Question about addressing invites</a>:
    [QUOTE]No his ex wouldn't be invited now that they've broken up, since she was just his date and not really your friend independent of their relationship.  If he's still with this new girl by the time you send out invitations, put her name on the invitation instead.
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  • Also, just a piece of advice, you might not want to address the envelopes this early.  I remember when I was doing my save the date envelopes, I had to change several because relationships change, people move, etc.  You could do the ones you know won't be changing, but for people like your friend here or others, you might want to wait until closer to mailing time so you don't waste envelopes if people move or change significant others.
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