My best friend's (the matron of honor) mom who is also like a 2nd mom to me, is going to do part of the ceromony along with our regular pastor. I see everywhere that you have to pay or give donation to your officiates, but they are both close friends of ours and both pastors of course who will be officiating our wedding. Should we pay them or give them a donation? I don't think either of them would accept money from us and i don't want to be rude and offer or be rude and not. What should I do?