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No RSVP card?

Is anyone not including an RSVP card in their invitation? The past couple of invitations i've received didn't have one, it just had the reception information. The announcements in the newspaper said all friends and family are invited so I'm guessing they are just planning to have everyone on their guest list attend? Just wondering if this is common.

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  • My best friend didn't send RSVP cards for her wedding in June.  They just had appetizers instead of a sit down dinner, so they just planned for everyone to come.  That being said, they had waaaaaay too much food, and they probably could have saved a lot of money if they actually had a head count.
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  • It is uncommon not to have RSVP cards. Normally you have to provide a headcount to the venue.
  • I didn't include an RSVP card for my wedding.  But I provided our phone number to RSVP.  This worked for me since we sent out 12 invitations.  Most people have larger weddings and fielding 70 phone calls would be a chore.  If you are providing food, you'll want to know how many people are coming.  
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  • I believe it used to be proper to not include them, but back then, everyone knew they needed to call and rsvp. Nowadays, I can't think of a good reason to not include them.
  • Since only one person on our guest list (my Oma) doesn't use a computer on a daily basis...we're only doing online RSVP (or phone - we'll do both).
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-card?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7657f1b-8ab7-4a6d-80d2-c7a3bc6d4621Post:34f9030b-e136-4374-b549-b1f2b2310c68">Re: No RSVP card?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I believe it used to be proper to not include them, but back then, everyone knew they needed to call and rsvp. Nowadays, I can't think of a good reason to not include them.
    Posted by flamingtwig72[/QUOTE]

    You were actually supposed to respond on your personal stationery.

    An open wedding with no headcount sounds like a nightmare to me.
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  • I've never seen an invite without an RSVP.  That sounds horrible to me.  I'd have no problem paying for 100% of my guests if they came but wouldn't want to shell out that money just because they "might".
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-card?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7657f1b-8ab7-4a6d-80d2-c7a3bc6d4621Post:985dfdd4-6f22-4541-b91c-78866b658598">Re: No RSVP card?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've never seen an invite without an RSVP.  That sounds horrible to me.  I'd have no problem paying for 100% of my guests if they came but wouldn't want to shell out that money just because they "might".
    Posted by mysticl[/QUOTE]
    I agree with this. Also, how would you know how many chairs to have, etc.?
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  • I've received them in the past.  You reply

    "Mr. and Mrs. Smith
    accept with pleasure
    the kind invitation of
    Mr. and Mrs. Jones
    for Saturday, July fourth"

    It's not that common these days but it is technically correct etiquette.
  • We didnt do rsvp cards for our 30 person wedding since we already know everyone is coming.
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  • we are including rsvp by website or phone on our cards(mostly for my own curiostity and so we can let ffil invite his friends after we get no's back). but we arent going to be sticklers for how many people, we will just plan for 100% yes we will have a lot of food, but we are having 8 houseguests for a few days after the wedding, and also we are throwing another party a week later and a week after that, so some things will save until then, and we would plan to have too much food anyway, since its a guest list of 200 and buffett style.

    i can see a lot of reception styles that would need accurate #s but ours doesnt. its a lot less to worry about.
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  • I cannot imagine planning for 100% acceptance for a medium to large wedding.  It just seems like a waste of money to me.  How hard is it for someone to RSVP, this is not a new concept for anyone that would have to RSVP...call me crazy but I just dont' get not having a RSVP (unless its a tiny wedding of course).
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  • We are doing a postcard style RSVP card to save money on postage and envelopes. I have never seen an invitation without some type of RSVP card
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  • I didn't do an RSVP card I just set up an email through yahoo that had our new married name on it and just did it that way...I screwed up cuz i didn't put a date that they had to RSVP by so not many people did it. But I saved like $70 so it was worth it to me to make some calls and hound both my and Dh's facebook accounts!
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