Bridesmaids Trouble

Ali092011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:abff11a8-af60-499b-9e2e-8e23c6e61aecPost:51a852c0-5042-42e9-8553-a99066e70aea">Re: Bridesmaids Trouble</a>:
[QUOTE] I dont think you should feel bad. You should just explain that she hasn't been in contact with you for 6 months and you aked someone else and your very sorry and never intended for her feeling to be hurt. Besides, the fact that she didn't try and contact you once in all of these 6 months says to me that maybe she's not such a great friend. I'm getting married in september and i try and make an effort to keep up what's going on in all my bridal party's lives and they do the same.
Posted by blaze9[/QUOTE]

Remember that time that someone else said the exact same thing and they got shut down? Your way is NOT the way to be a good friend.

KellyBrian2013

You people DO know it's entirely possible to update FB without an internet connection, right? Because I used to do it all.the.time before I got a smart phone... everyone has an address that they can TEXT photos and status updates to without using data.

So it is very possible that OP's friend was able to update her status and add photos without actually having an internet connection.

tidetravel

I think the more important issue here is that you need to get a facebook account.

Comeon.  Everyone's doin' it.

maryparrish

I would say tell her that because she was gone and you didn't know what to do, she is no longer a bridesmaid, but instead offer her another thing, like a reader or candle lighter or some other job in the ceremony that would make her feel like you didn't drop her entirely.

RaptorSLH

Then she could have texted a message to the bride.

Mofongo

I am browsing the knot b/c for some reason the nest is down. I feel like I went back to 7th grade by reading this. You guys are seriously fuuucking ridiculous. I'm not talking about OP either. Do you people ever read what you write? and realize what morons you sound like? hmm, I guess my post count is different from the nest to the knot...

chelseamb11

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:abff11a8-af60-499b-9e2e-8e23c6e61aecPost:00258c01-64b5-4d3d-8703-7004b7ef0b0c">Re: Bridesmaids Trouble</a>:
[QUOTE]I am browsing the knot b/c for some reason the nest is down. I feel like I went back to 7th grade by reading this. You guys are seriously fuuucking ridiculous. I'm not talking about OP either. Do you people ever read what you write? and realize what morons you sound like? hmm, I guess my post count is different from the nest to the knot...
Posted by Mofongo[/QUOTE]


Well aren't you a special snowflake....

libby1990

Dear Bride,

I just want you to do me a favor, read yoru thread, write down the usernames of the mean people. and then go look at every other thread, and you'll see, that really, they're bullies. And they control this whole website with their meaness. They find one thing, that's probably not true, tag onto it, and then go off of each other from there. It's actually very interesting. They're probably not even engaged, just lonely girls who think it's fun to make other people feel miserable, because they have nothing else to do with their lives besides make people feel bad. so do yourself a favor, and find a different blog. If you private message me, I can give you a few very nice ones that people will tell you what they thing, but in a very nice way that will not make you feel like a terrible person : ) And honestly, all you other people, you really should be ashamed of yourself, regardless of if you are right or not, you should never treat people the way you do, it's wrong, messed up, and just plain old nasty.

Sincerly,
A mad bride about mean people.

magsugar13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:abff11a8-af60-499b-9e2e-8e23c6e61aecPost:ebc409e0-db2f-449d-a4ba-72b47638e658">Re: Bridesmaids Trouble</a>:
[QUOTE]Dear Bride, I just want you to do me a favor, read yoru thread, write down the usernames of the mean people. and then go look at every other thread, and you'll see, that really, they're bullies. And they control this whole website with their meaness. They find one thing, that's probably not true, tag onto it, and then go off of each other from there. It's actually very interesting. They're probably not even engaged, just lonely girls who think it's fun to make other people feel miserable, because they have nothing else to do with their lives besides make people feel bad. so do yourself a favor, and find a different blog. If you private message me, I can give you a few very nice ones that people will tell you what they thing, but in a very nice way that will not make you feel like a terrible person : ) And honestly, all you other people, you really should be ashamed of yourself, regardless of if you are right or not, you should never treat people the way you do, it's wrong, messed up, and just plain old nasty. Sincerly, A mad bride about mean people.
Posted by libby1990[/QUOTE]

Libby did you forget to take your meds again? Bad girl. The Dr. said it is very important to remember so  that you don't have these episodes.

zitiqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:abff11a8-af60-499b-9e2e-8e23c6e61aecPost:ebc409e0-db2f-449d-a4ba-72b47638e658">Re: Bridesmaids Trouble</a>:
[QUOTE]Dear Bride, I just want you to do me a favor, read yoru thread, write down the usernames of the mean people. and then go look at every other thread, and you'll see, that really, they're bullies. And they control this whole website with their meaness. They find one thing, that's probably not true, tag onto it, and then go off of each other from there. It's actually very interesting. They're probably not even engaged, just lonely girls who think it's fun to make other people feel miserable, because they have nothing else to do with their lives besides make people feel bad. <strong>so do yourself a favor, and find a different blog.</strong> If you private message me, I can give you a few very nice ones that people will tell you what they thing, but in a very nice way that will not make you feel like a terrible person : ) And honestly, all you other people, you really should be ashamed of yourself, regardless of if you are right or not, you should never treat people the way you do, it's wrong, messed up, and just plain old nasty. Sincerly, A mad bride about mean people.
Posted by libby1990[/QUOTE]

This isn't a blog, Libby.

OP, I'll save you the trouble of PMing Libby. She's going to direct you to <a href="http://www.weddingbee.com/" rel="nofollow">www.weddingbee.com</a>.

BettyBookworm

OP-- it is in terrible taste & not a good thing to do by your friend to "disinvite" her to be a bridesmaid. Even if you fell out of touch I see no mention of you going to great lengths to stay in touch with her about your wedding. If she is as important as you claim & you care about her feelings then you will have to make it work. Find a dress that will compliment the other style & your bodacious friend (who is traveling to your wedding from out of the country FFS & buying the dress!!) can wear with grace. Also, I think it's shallow, & fuucking mean to even consider how she can't fit into the dress so that must mean she is cut from your wedding. WTF? Would you want someone to treat you like that? How disgusting! Maybe you should come clean & tell her all the reasons you've considered cutting her. Then she won't waste time, money & affection on someone who can't see the forest for the trees when it comes to friendship. This girl is willing to travel for your wedding & is under the belief that you are happy to have her. Instead you are debating about whether to nix the fat girl? Gross.

BettyBookworm

PS-- Libby: I am already married. You must still have your knickers in a twist over someone daring to have a wedding date the same year as you. Grow up!