Poll: Updating your status from the altar?

laimabean

I had a fb friend last summer that would update everyday, like a countdown, how many days she had left, I was just waiting to see something like this at like 2pm "Im walking down the isle right now" surprisingly she didnt, but man that would be messed up. 

zoey567123

I agree with the ongoing sentiment that this is something I would definately not do at the altar, and probably not until after my honeymoon. There's going to be FAR more important things on my mind then letting the world know of my marriage. 

I agree that if my FB friends weren't important enough to make my guest list, my thought is that they really don't need to know until a later date. My phone will not be anywhere near me at all from the day of my wedding until after I get back from my honeymoon. :-)

Besides, if you even want to look at the etiquette, I think it would be very rude to pull out your cell phone in front of all those people, just to let the rest of the world know, when your closest friends and family are already there sharing the day with you, having most likely put a fair amount of time, money and effort to be there to share the day. Sounds like a bit of attention seeking to me.

And not to offend anyone, but really, how many of those FB, Twitter etc. friends really even care outside of those that we're actually at your wedding? It'll be nothing more for most than an, "Oh that's cool" and move on without another thought about it.

But to each his own...just something I'm going to stay FAR away from. :-)

geordieboysgirl

It was cute, it went viral, now it's soooo last week.

Of course I am always amused at how people go off about how rude, classless tacky, immature... some silly thing like this would be. Lighten up ladies,

CCH

Ishaba11

Definitely not at the altar. Maybe afterwards in the bridal suite. I can see myself doing that.

sjnsjnsjn

I have friends that are updating their FB status when I'm out with them... I find out later that that's what they were doing on their pda/berry when we were hanging out, when I see that 3 hours ago they updated that they were out doing what we were doing....  So fricking weird.  Such a sign of our society that you'd be trying so hard to connect with 500 people you barely know instead of actually focusing on the time you're spending in person with someone you know well.  Strange universe.

mrsdevilguy

Wouldn't do it at the alter - IMO it's disrespectful to the priest/deacon, DH/DW and guests. Earliest I'd consider doing it would be back in the limo between places.

antimony

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_poll-updating-status-altar-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:adf78d76-4d49-4a70-87a9-7abb32fdc7a7Post:4af2bf47-fc36-4485-85e8-4f60d3c0ff6a">Re: Poll: Updating your status from the altar?</a>:
[QUOTE]Besides, both of us wanted to stop seeing the million ads for wedding products we got on Facebook once we had listed our status as "engaged." 
Posted by 2dBride[/QUOTE]

Oh, THIS.  If I had a time machine, I'd have conveniently forgotten to ever set my status *to* engaged in the first place; every time I log into FB I cringe at the ads.

csantos1182

If my FI brought his cell phone to our wedding (which I know he wouldn't) he would get a swift kick in the butt! LOL
Facebook is gonna be the last thing on my mind that day.  My facebook friends can wait for my status change.

2xscharm

I think it depends on the couple.  My FI and I are huge FB'ers and trust me none of our guests would blink twice if we did this.  Not saying that we are because that would be one more thing to think about/carry with me.  But I say, to each their own.

ChrissyDipi

I will most likely be updating mine -- not in the church but sometime that day I am sure. If my phone is around lol

septemberanniv

that is jsut tacky, eveyone who matters is at the wedding, u can wait till the next day

nhand2206

I would at least wait until we were back at the hotel. Fiance updated twitter right after we got engaged though (I did not know this) and I got a call from my mom like ten minutes later asking if we were engaged. So not cool! Neither of us will have our phones during the wedding or reception.

gamingangel

No but you can bet that while we're getting arranged for pictures I might! haha That is on twitter. I'm quite addicted. lol

Lenore2010

When we get home on April 13 from Vegas we will update the Facebook status and that's all.

I confess to doing FB posts during the planning process and even sending out some text messages like "got the dress"!

The wedding, though is very small and I just want to leave those two days out of town for us and our little crowd.

jessNlane52804

I think this is very tacky. There are more important things in life than Facebook and Twitter. By the way, I am 22 and not new to the "facebook thing".

bexter_fish

surely everyone you actually care about knowing will be there on the day! im sure il put a comment on facebook at some point at the end of the day or the next day - il prob have a 'off to get married' one before but i intend to leave my phone in my bag all day and not update anyhting - DEFO not at the alter! i thought the bloke who did it really tacky and i wouldnt be impressed!

mrsplowman

I would never do this, and if my FI did it, he would be sleeping on the couch for a good year or so.  I saw the vid and was horrified.  The bride looked like she was going to roundhouse kick him in the face.

swelchphr

My vote is for shortly after.  Probably the next day or so, because there's so much going on.

cuddleberry

I don't plan on having my phone, I think i'll use my pockets for something else.

fallingobsession

Yeah... No. That entire day - and night - I will be otherwise occupied, and if I really choose facebook over my new husband, then my addiction to facebook is far worse than I ever imagined.  It's one thing to be excited to tell other people about. But another thing entirely to have to tell people RIGHT THEN. Not to mention, I would find it rude if you were at the altar on your phone. Definitely not appropriate in the slightest. Whoever said the cute moment the next morning... that I could see FH and I doing. But even still, I just think we'll disappear off facebook land until we get settled into our new home together.

jakeryan08

The only people you should want to "update" is your friends and family. And, they should be at the wedding!!! So, no don't do this. I can understand wanting everyone to know you are now Mrs. _______ but come on it's rude!