Hello, I've lurked here for quite a while and I'm now about 4 weeks from my wedding, and the RSVP's are starting to come in. I sent a friendly reminder to the mother of a family friend (we are friends with the whole family) to ask about whether or not one of her daughters and her date were coming to the wedding. I sent it to the mother b/c I didn't have contact info. for the daughter.
Here is the response I got:
"Daughter" will be attending. "Date" wants to come but will not know his work schedule until the weekend before the wedding. He will request off but that doesn't mean he will be off!
Is this normal? It seems that it defeats the purpose of having an RSVP date- which is this Tuesday. How would you handle this? It seems like she is expecting me to go ahead and pay for everything for this person, even though he doesn't know if he'll be able to come. How would you handle this/word a response?