Yesterday was literally a day from hell for me. I left work early so that I could take FI to the doctor to get his staples out. I get home and he's not there, neither is his old hot rod. FI doesn't have a license and there should have been no reason for him to take that car out. It's a loud police magnet, basically. That's just asking to get pulled over and arrested.
I call him to see where he is and he's very short with me, telling me he's right down the street looking at a car and then he hangs up on me. I call him back; he doesn't answer. I let a few minutes pass before I call him again. He answers and I ask him exactly where he's at. He tells me a street name and hangs up. I'm pretty pissed off by this point. I figure that I'll sit down and try to calm down before I try calling him again.
I try calling about an hour before his doctor's appointment and I don't get an answer. I text him saying "you are aware that you have a doctor's appointment at 3 right?" No reply. I'm pretty upset at this point, given that it's been an hour and he's blatantly ignoring my phone calls. I called his mom to see if she could try get in touch with him (was I wrong to do that? Maybe, but I figured he was just ignoring me and he might answer for her). Well, he didn't answer her call either.
At 3, I call him again. No answer. I call the doctor's office at 3:15, hoping that he was smart enough to go to the appointment and not blow it off compeltely. He never showed for the appointment. He finally calls me at 4:30. When I ask him where he is, he tells me he's broken down at this intersection. I ask him what he's been doing this entire time. His response? "Nothing." When I questioned him further, he hung up on me. I tried calling him back and he continued to ignore my calls. Since he said he was broken down and gave me the intersection, I drove out there and, lo and behold, he was not anywhere around that intersection.
He calls me and I ask him where he is. He finally tells me, so I head over there to see what he's doing. Sure enough, the car is broken down. And he's with this really shady looking guy. I pull FI aside and I ask him what he's been doing all day. He just says he was "hanging out". I didn't want to argue in front of shady dude, so I just walked away.
We get the car towed to FMIL's house and drop shady guy off at his house. On the way home, FI asks why I'm so upset. I told him that he chose to do something very stupid today by driving (and drinking to boot). I also told him that the fact that he was ignoring my phone calls doesn't sit very well with me. He got all defensive. I was like "I know for a fact that if I went out, didn't tell you where I was and ignored your phone calls for hours, you'd be mad as hell and you'd have a hard time forgiving me for it." He agreed with that but still was adamant that he did nothing wrong.
Today, he called me at work to tell me that he was looking for a ride so he could go fix the car. I was like "I think you really should wait until I get home". He asked why I was trying to control him. I told him that after the stunt he pulled yesterday, I had a hard time trusting that he really was just going to his mom's house. He got angry with me and started yelling at me.
I just honestly don't know what to do right now. I feel so sick about the way he acted yesterday. I get that he's bored at home since he isn't released to go back to work yet, but to drive around without a license and do it while you've been drinking is just ridiculous. And then the fact that he ignored me and he still hasn't come clean with me about what he was doing yesterday. I'm just so hurt.