Dis or Un Inviting Guests

flyjawn

ummmm would this girl really want to show up at your wedding after this????

wouldn't she be too embarassed to show her face????

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dis or Un Inviting Guests : You haven't been around these parts for very long, have you?
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]


Haha, no I have. And I've seen a lot of craziness in my life. But I guess I'm a bit of a dreamer. No matter how many times I see or hear things like this, it still shocks me again and again.

salt78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dis or Un Inviting Guests : Haha, no I have. And I've seen a lot of craziness in my life. But I guess I'm a bit of a dreamer. No matter how many times I see or hear things like this, it still shocks me again and again.
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

I admire your optimism. :)

RachNRich

I'm dying here. DYING. 

puppiesandrainbowschiweenie

It is certainly possible to get that drunk in 2 hours. And, lets face it, if she was willing to get that drunk...pooper pregamed the shower. 

akhensley81

Well, this is... interesting.

RebeccaB88

Don't believe it for one minute. 

PharmacyBride

Yea.. she needs help.. it is okay to disinvite someone this self destructive.

I would say.. tell her she needs to get help or you are cutting her out of your life.  By remaining friends with her.. there is the belief that you are enabling her.  While you may not be encouraging this type of lifestyle.. you are also not telling her that she crossed a line a long time ago.

You can't save everyone.. but you it is important that you point out the line when they cross it.. then give them the choice to come back.. or to stay on the other side.

You are actually helping her by giving her boundaries.. and I don't think you need to worry about the dis-invite.  Tell her to get her act together and get real help- or she can't be a part of your life.

If she does get her act together.. she may thank you one day for forcing her to look at herself this hard.

polichik

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[QUOTE]Yea.. she needs help.. it is okay to disinvite someone this self destructive. I would say.. tell her she needs to get help or you are cutting her out of your life.  <strong>By remaining friends with her.. there is the belief that you are enabling her. </strong> While you may not be encouraging this type of lifestyle.. you are also not telling her that she crossed a line a long time ago. You can't save everyone.. but you it is important that you point out the line when they cross it.. then give them the choice to come back.. or to stay on the other side. You are actually helping her by giving her boundaries.. and I don't think you need to worry about the dis-invite.  Tell her to get her act together and get real help- or she can't be a part of your life. If she does get her act together.. she may thank you one day for forcing her to look at herself this hard.
Posted by PharmacyBride[/QUOTE]

PB, I don't mean this as a slam against you, but that's very untrue and can be a harmful way of thinking. If you went out with her and then laughed off her behavior the next day, you'd be enabling her. By remaining friends with her and letting her know that you're concerned about her and take her behavior seriously, you're helping her beyond measure. Sometimes a person needs to cut ties with an addict (if she is indeed one) for their own self-preservation, but anyone struggling with an issue like this needs support.

lisalou402

I think this was the best thread I've ever read on TK.  The closest 2nd is the girl who wanted to only have red skittles and was buying skittles up and hand picking the red ones out.

I don't believe it.  I have some crazy friends who get very drunk.  No poop.

We drank at my shower.  No poop.

We've pregamed many events. No poop.

Now, sex with a caterer? That could plausibly happen with a few friends.

Bottom line, no poop.

If this is true, then in my stern talk, I was ask her if she thought she had a drinking problem. And then maybe give her some cottonelle wipes.

doctabroccoli

Did anyone else notice her profile says her wedding date is January 1, 2014?