Pregnant Bridesmaid!

kacyleanne1

My fiances sister just announced that she is pregnant and she is supposed to be a bridesmaid in our April wedding... that means she will be almost 6 months pregnant! Can I politely kick her out?

Bubbalub

No.

IdRatherBeBaking

No, but you should unpolitely have your ass kicked for being such a brat.

number55

no.

crfische

No. You can't.

And congrats on being an aunt! That's so exciting!!

amber2123

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[QUOTE]My fiances sister just announced that she is pregnant and she is supposed to be a bridesmaid in our April wedding... that means she will be almost 6 months pregnant! Can I politely kick her out?
Posted by kacyleanne1[/QUOTE]
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it has all the info you need at a time like this

number55

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[QUOTE]No.
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]

<div>ha ha ha...I love it that I wasn't the only one who left it at that.</div>

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]My fiances sister just announced that she is pregnant and she is supposed to be a bridesmaid in our April wedding... that means she will be almost 6 months pregnant! Can I politely kick her out?
Posted by kacyleanne1[/QUOTE]
YGBFKM. (that means YOU GOTTA BE FUCKING KIDDING ME) Do you really think it will do much for family relations with your FI's family if you kick her out? Also, you're not even remotely close to having a good reason to want to. They make maternity BM dresses. Why the eff would you kick her out anyway? She more than likely will barely be showing at 6 months anyway, if it's about what she'll look like. If it's about what she'll look like, you're a douche.

Bubbalub

What else is there to say, really? I mean, I could go on a diatribe about being a selfish brat but there's always the chance that this is MUD, being a first post and all.

aurianna

Some women aren't too big by 6 months...

Have you picked out the dresses yet? Maybe when you're shopping for them, ask to see ones that might best hide the bump (or each gal can have their own dress?).

There's always the chance she'll ask to back out on her own since she'll clearly have a lot going on at that point and might have trouble tailoring her dress.

But if she still wants to be a part of your wedding and is willing to do whatever she needs to do to make the dress fit, you should be honored that she still wants to be part of your special day, despite having so much going on in her life.

ootmother2

Why would you want to kick her out?  Pregnancy isn't contagous

playtntsbpg30

All eyes will be on her baby belly and not on you, not how it works.
Many brides have the girls stand up for them that are very pregnant. Get over it, she didn't nor did she have to put her life on hold because you are getting married.

No, you should not and there is not a polite way of kicking her out all because she is having a baby.

ARod22

My friend will be almost 6 mos. prego at my wedding (and I didn't find out until after I asked her to be in my WP).  I do not understand why this pisses people off so badly.  I can't wait to look back at my pictures and say, "Oh, that's when Sue was pregnant with Mikey!"  Even if she's friggin huge, who cares?

JadziaDax

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[QUOTE]Why would you want to kick her out?  <strong>Pregnancy isn't contagous
</strong>Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

Thank god for that!
To answer your question, there's no reason to kick her out. She can still walk down an aisle and find a nice dress. Kicking her out is just mean.

ootmother2

Seriously, I was 6 months (27 weeks) pregnant when my daughter was born and the ER asked me why I was there because nothing showed.

relax

kellyjellybelly

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[QUOTE]Why would you want to kick her out?  Pregnancy isn't contagous
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]
I sure hope not.  4 of my friends are pregnant, and 3 of the surgeons I work with.  Babies growing everywhere.

kacyleanne1

ok ok thanks for the replies everyone... I know my post sounded really bitchy, it was not thought out, I have no ill intentions just starting to stress about the wedding and the news caught me off guard. 

I've thought about it and now realize its nothing to stress about.

All you ladies who have had babies though, is she going to be able to deal with a wedding 6 months along?

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]ok ok thanks for the replies everyone... I know my post sounded really bitchy, it was not thought out, I have no ill intentions just starting to stress about the wedding and the news caught me off guard.  I've thought about it and now realize its nothing to stress about. All you ladies who have had babies though, is she going to be able to deal with a wedding 6 months along?
Posted by kacyleanne1[/QUOTE]
Unless you're making her climb a rock wall with no harness, I'm sure she'll be fine.

LilMissScareAll

Not the best way to win the love and affection of your ILs.
Remember she's about to be your family and that bun in the oven will be your niece/nephew

kara811

NO. My sister will be almost 8 months pregnant for my wedding and she is my MOH no matter. I love her and I am happy for her. All I want is for her to be by my side when i get married. What do you expect out of your BMs? All they need to do is dress up and be there. She'll be fine being in a wedding at 6 months. 

amber2123

All you have to do is remember to do things that will make her comfortable.  If she has problems standing, have her sit for the ceremony.  Don't require her to get her hair/nails done.  Simple stuff.  And for the love of all that's holy, try not to be showy about drinking in front of her.  A glass of wine, fine.  But don't have a group get together at a club/bar and be mad if she leaves early.

bel138

She's pregnant, not terminally ill.

ARod22

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[QUOTE]ok ok thanks for the replies everyone... I know my post sounded really bitchy, it was not thought out, I have no ill intentions just starting to stress about the wedding and the news caught me off guard.  I've thought about it and now realize its nothing to stress about. All you ladies who have had babies though, is she going to be able to deal with a wedding 6 months along?
Posted by kacyleanne1[/QUOTE]

I think she can handle walking 50 feet and standing for 20 minutes.  Let her wear flats if she wants.  And don't get too much on her case with the bridesmaid responsibilites.  She's going through an even more serious life event than you are, believe it or not, so be happy and supportive of her, and don't put your wedding before her pregnancy.  Be grateful that she's taking time out to be a part of your day.

They make very cute maternity bridesmaid dresses, btw.

ETA: I second letting her sit if she is more comfortable.

ootmother2

She'll be fine.  The last trimester is the easiest, or so I'm told

missy68

Um, yeah. My cousin's MOH was 9 months pregnant at their wedding. They just made plans in case she needed to sit down, etc.

She even danced at the wedding.

It ISNT a big deal.

starrynight1658

How about just being happy that you're going to be an aunt? 

My cousin was my bridesmaid at 5 months pregnant, and I would've been lost without her (not to mention you can't even tell she's pregnant in any of our pictures!) Advice: make sure you take care of breakfast and/or lunch for her the day of--with all the stress and excitement, it's easy to forget, but she'll want and need food. I had someone do a quick sandwich run after our hair and makeup, and she was really appreciative. Other than that, chill. She's not gonna freak out, cry, pass out, or give birth on your wedding day. 

squirrly

Be sure you let her have her choice of shoes, and don't ask her to stand up for 2 straight hours of photos, but yeah.  She should be fine.  Focus on being happy that 1) you're getting married, and 2) you're going to be an aunt.  Let her worry about the being pregnant part. 

If somebody asked me to be a BM today, I'd probably decline if the wedding was the last month of my pregnancy or the first month after, but other than that - no worries. 

One other thing - don't just ASSUME she'll be the DD for your b-party.  If she offers, great, but that's one thing that irks me.  Mostly because at this point, I really don't stay up that late. 

2012JulyBride

Pregnancy isn't a problem for most women. I was a lucky one who never had a problem during my pregnancy and I was schedule to work the weekend that I went into labor (9 days before my due date). At 6 months she might be a little tired but she shouldn't be too bad. The only problem we (my friend who got married and me, the MOH) had with another BM getting pregnant was that she was too involved in herself that she didn't do jack for the wedding. She almost didn't order the dress in time and end up scheduling baby stuff when we had first planned wedding stuff (she was a maybe to attend stuff and then would come back and say that X is now scheduled at that time so she won't be able to make it). She gave birth a little over a month before the wedding and was kind enough to make it to the rehearsal and the wedding on time, of course she was one of the first ones to leave.
If she doesn't feel up to being in the wedding then she can back out. If you notice she's getting tired you can always ask her if she's feeling up to it, etc., but do not ever kick her out.

shoegal715

Kick her out. Your sister in law is a selfish biatch. How dare she think of her own life and procreate. This is YOUR year.

JerseyML

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[QUOTE]In Response to Pregnant Bridesmaid! : YGBFKM. (that means YOU GOTTA BE FUCKING KIDDING ME) Do you really think it will do much for family relations with your FI's family if you kick her out? Also, you're not even remotely close to having a good reason to want to. They make maternity BM dresses. Why the eff would you kick her out anyway? She more than likely will barely be showing at 6 months anyway, if it's about what she'll look like. If it's about what she'll look like, you're a douche.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

This is the greatest response.  EVER.

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid! : This.
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]

Aleigh - I certainly hope you weren't agreeing with Shoegal's (hopefully) sarcastic response. It is not YOUR year, you get one day. OP should be happy FSIL is pregnant and NOT kick her out.