Do you have to invite your boss?

maribeth721

Is there etiquette some where that says you have to invite your boss to your wedding? I can't stand my boss and I really don't want him there but I'm worried he's expecting an invitation.

annakb8

No.

aragx6

Nope.

dumdumfroggie

No, absolutely not.

Kate61487

nope.  As long as you're not talking about it at work a ton I don't think he'd expect one either.

RaptorSLH

There's no etiquette rule that says you have to...but sometimes office politics are a different matter.  If you don't have a close relationship, aren't inviting other coworkers, and there's been no pattern set by previous office brides, you're probably fine.

HannahK15

I would think if you aren't close with your boss then you wouldn't have too. I am inviting my boss but her and I are very close outside work and inside work.

caterpillar85

Nothing says you have to, but I don't see the harm in it.

My boss keeps asking me about wedding details and "how are your plans coming along?" EVERY. DAY.

I wasn't originally going to invite him, but thought what the hell, why not? I don't dislike him, but he's definitely just a boss to me, nothing more. I am inviting him only and not his family, so chances are he might not even go, or just the ceremony and bail out after (he's a big family man and devoted Christian, he hates dancing and drinking, which is 90% of my reception, other 10% overeating)

What's the worse that could happen? You will be so busy entertaining the other 99% of your guests that all you really need to do is go up to his table and say "thanks for coming!" and leave it at that. If your relationship isn't that great, then he probably isn't expecting anything more than that. And you might just get a badass gift out of the deal.

I would be slightly worried that if he IS EXPECTING an invite and doesn't get one that it could cause problems. He is, in fact, your superior. (unfortunately)

EDIT: obviously if there is a budget issue where you are trying to keep the guest list down to a minimum then disregard my ramblings. If that is the case, then that could be your reasonings to not inviting him. If he asks or brings it up then there's your excuse.

JacklovesSarah

I'm inviting mine, but that's because we're friends outside of work. Which is against company policy and we have to let her "overhear" our plans for Saturday night. Then she has to "accidentally" bump into us and decide to join us.

If you're not going to these measures to socialize with him outside of work, then no invite. Unless you can afford it, I guess?

mica178

Nope.   I didn't.  He still likes me.