*playtnteppg27 *

pumpkinpumpkin

Firstly, you have been around here long enough that only whiney baby brats DD. For real. Secondly, re-assurance. Third, 90% of the time, in a thread, somewhere, someone has quoted your OP, so good thing your DD did nothing but make 1/2 of us dislike you back.

shellydiane820

wow, as if she didn't feel bad about herself right now as it is.

kikibaby

I've been biting my tongue because everyone seems to feel sorry for her, but I still think she's whiny and irritating.  That just confirmed it.

EDIT: If my FI broke up with me, this is the last place I'd be hanging out.  Especially when people weren't particularly nice to her in the past.

pumpkinpumpkin

I mean, yah I feel sorry for her, her and her FI breaking up and all...but still, she knows how we are around here, so I don't feel badly that she DDd for a whiny reason.

shellydiane820

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:457da22a-9d14-4e9c-a63b-c01f48dc1441">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]I've been biting my tongue because everyone seems to feel sorry for her, but I still think she's whiny and irritating.  That just confirmed it.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I feel bad for her.  I can't imagine ending an engagement.  I'm sure its a difficult time.

ohwhynot

I do feel sorry for her, and I wish she could have seen the full part of the glass, not just the empty part.  That makes it kind of hard to keep reaching out in a positive way. 

FutureMrsTR

I feel for the girl I do, but I could do without the constantly updated "woe is me" sig quotes.  I block enough of that crap on Facebook and I don't want to block sigs here because I like seeing everyone's pictures.

kate51485

I would never wish the end of an engagement on anyone.  I can't imagine how difficult it is, and I do feel for her.  But that is an entirely different issue from deleting when she got a lot of support which is what she was looking for, and the fact that the thread went on and on about stuff totally unrelated to her. 

pumpkinpumpkin

Deleting isn't going to earn support though...

kikibaby

It's just that all of her posts are doom and gloom, debbie downer type things.  I understand that it sucks to end an engagement, but does dwelling and being all gloomy help anything?

pumpkinpumpkin

I don't know. Maybe it's stress but there is no reason for her blow-up. If I am in her situation, I won't be talking to people on a message board; I'll be talking to my friends and family.

ESPECIALLY a wedding board. That's unhealthy.

buddhagouda

I think I was the first person to say "Hey, don't ask us just take the test" but I said that after giving her very helpful information about implantation bleeding and other things to reassure her. 

mandapanda78

Sigh. I say this not as a medical or a psychological professional, but play? I didn't respond in your TMI thread because I couldn't shake the feeling that maybe you were kind of sort of just a little bit hoping you were pregnant. Why else ask "should I test"? A test is something you can do in five minutes and have it be completely private. Maybe part of you wishes you were pregnant so you'd still have an attachment to him? Or some part of him with you? Or that you could get back together?

I don't know you, but you don't seem to be handling the break up well. Maybe talk to someone who is a professional. 

shellydiane820

I don't know.  She's probably in a vunerable place right now and takes a lot to heart.  And sometimes (I find) its easier to talk to someone you don't exactly know.  It is easier to vent to a message board.

I do agree, she should probably be with family and friends right now.  Maybe they aren't close by, who knows.

I just feel like this callout is one more thing to upset her when she's already down.

pumpkinpumpkin

I mean, for me...it was the "I don't know what to do!!!!" title, followed by, "my period is late". Most people know what to do if your period is late.

FWIW. I had a friend say this just the other day. We had gone to the hospital to see my friend and her new baby...and this friend (she's not really a good friend, her bf is very good friends with our Hs and FIs) kept going on and on about how she's not sure if she's pregnant, blah blah blah. I finally got insanely irritated and said, "why don't you go take a test". And she said, "well, I never thought of that". WTF.

goheels05

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:ef0965dd-8523-4775-9668-4a62e6e7f381">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *playtnteppg27 * : I feel bad for her.  I can't imagine ending an engagement.  I'm sure its a difficult time.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]


Me too.  She moved across the country and probably doesn't have any girlfriends to talk to where she is.  If I were single and worried about being pregnant, yeah, duh, I'd take a pregnancy test, but I would also call a friend just to talk and try to calm down.  And I have no problem admitting some of my closest friends are girls I met here.  Yeah, I'd probably call or chat rather than post it publicly on the board, but I'm in favor of cutting play some slack. That girl just can't catch a break lately. 

kikibaby

Even if you don't want to talk to people you know, there's gotta be much better message boards out there for this stuff.  There are probably a million sad breakup message boards out there.  Even a club board here would probably give better sympathy.

jajph1974

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[QUOTE]It's just that all of her posts are doom and gloom, debbie downer type things.  I understand that it sucks to end an engagement, but does dwelling and being all gloomy help anything?
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

Kiki, this exactly. And I don't think anyone would have said anything about the doom and gloom if she hadn't gone off the deep end just now. I think everyone was trying to be as supportive as possible.

pumpkinpumpkin

Shelly...maybe it was unnecessary, but she deleted and then posted in place of her OP about how she dislikes 1/2 the board...it just needed an "I feel sorry for your fiances" to be perfect. She acted like a whiny fucking brat, and like Kate said, for a matter totally unrelated to her ended engagement. If she had DDd about her ended engagement, I might have been less likely to call her out on it.

kikibaby

Yep, Jen.  I was rolling my eyes entirely privately and to myself before this. 

AmoroAgain

I don't think this post was necessary at all.  Kick a person while they're down, eh?  Come on.

shellydiane820

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:a7279c91-0c4e-488b-9141-2862307947eb">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]Even if you don't want to talk to people you know, there's gotta be much better message boards out there for this stuff.  There are probably a million sad breakup message boards out there.  Even a club board here would probably give better sympathy.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

but she thought she could be comfortable here.

tidetravel

Panda - I'm nodding my head in agreement with you.  Just so you know.

danieliza1127

I thought she already hated everyone here because Capri called her methy and people agreed and so she thought we were all jerks?  No? 

ohwhynot

Geez, I've received tons of sympathy and help from this board.  I don't think it was rildiculous for her to think that she might, too. 

AmoroAgain

I don't usually respond to Play's posts because they don't hold much interest for me, but I sure as hell won't go out of my way to humiliate her anymore than she already has been.

Way to be sympathetic P2.  How would you feel if people were unsympathetic about your situation?  Oh wait.  Someone was, and she was hounded from the board. 

I'm sorry, but your biitch is back in full force P.

BecW2be

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:ee1017ce-9d76-4cc1-9d24-d1ffa7b4ec04">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think this post was necessary at all.  Kick a person while they're down, eh?  Come on.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

This is how I feel about it, too. She talked to us a bit when she was planning her wedding. I think she was comfortable here. The DD was idiotic, but I still hope everything turns around for her and I hope she's NOT PG with that crusty penis head's baby.

pinkpinot

I felt bad for her since the FFF when someone said she looked methy in her sig pic. 

kikibaby

But, OWN, you're fairly well-liked and a reg.  I'm sorry, but if people here said I  looked 'methy' and that I was a moron, I would NOT come here for sympathy. 

pumpkinpumpkin

I didn't know about her ended-engagement until today. Honest.
And Amoro - really....you've done it countless times too.
Play should've known that's how people would react. Especially since she knows us well enough to know that she dislikes 1/2 the people here.

danieliza1127

I'm sorry, this is all confusing to me.  Heels and Amoro, you guys are usually the first to jump in with snarky comments but now it's not cool?  Also, I seriously thought this chick GBCK and talked bad about E and everyone didn't like her, now everyone does?  I must not pay enough attention sometimes because I am thoroughly confused.