*playtnteppg27 *

AmoroAgain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:dd9853d5-6867-4efd-89b9-ff2e1faa9837">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]But, OWN, you're fairly well-liked and a reg.  I'm sorry, but if people here said I  looked 'methy' and that I was a moron, I would NOT come here for sympathy. 
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

 I don't see why it's SUCH a problem to extend to someone a little bit of empathy when you KNOW they're going through a hard time.  If you can't do that, then just fucking ignore their post!

salt78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:d0655f5b-11a1-4ad0-978f-a81cac48546d">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel for the girl I do, but I could do without the constantly updated "woe is me" sig quotes.  I block enough of that crap on Facebook and I don't want to block sigs here because I like seeing everyone's pictures.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

<div>You took the words right out of my brain. </div>

ohwhynot

Well, thanks, Kiki.  But I think it's obvious that Play read the "methy" FFF, and saw how lots of other people jumped on bbckes and others who chimed in on that.  I think she was heartened by that.  I think her original thread was fine, she was getting some eye-rolls but mostly support & advice.  But she must have read the "I judge" thread, too, and seen some of the negative judgments of her there.

Like I wrote earlier, it would have been better for her if she'd focused on the full half of the glass - the support & advice.  But esp. when you're already down, it's too easy to focus on the empty half.  So yeah, I understand the frustration with her, but to pile on is just kind of mean-spirited, imo. 

AmoroAgain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:62789e0c-b5a3-4802-9d43-e155ac93cc58">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm sorry, this is all confusing to me.  Heels and Amoro, you guys are usually the first to jump in with snarky comments but now it's not cool?  Also, I seriously thought this chick GBCK and talked bad about E and everyone didn't like her, now everyone does?  I must not pay enough attention sometimes because I am thoroughly confused.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Not when someone's down and depressed like that and I know it.  Sorry Dani.  I know I can be rough, but I don't think I'm downright hateful like that. 

Honestly, I've not paid that much attention to her, I just know it's a difficult time, so I'm giving some leeway.

pumpkinpumpkin

Way to be sympathetic P2.  How would you feel if people were unsympathetic about your situation?  Oh wait.  Someone was, and she was hounded from the board.

Get fucking real. She DDd for something totally unrelated to her situation. My husband has cancer. I'm not being unsympathetic to the fact that her and her FI broke up. I'm being unsympathetic towards her whiny DD. If I had posted something unrelated to Mark's cancer, DDd for a stupid reason, then I wouldn't expect anyone to stand up for me because Mark has cancer.

kate51485

I just don't see the productivity in stating that she doesn't like half the board and saying "you're welcome for fodder for FFF" or whatever it was she had in there but then deleted.  Why put something out there for everyone to see if there's a chance that 50% of the responses will be from people you don't like?

I guess I'm just wondering this too about her comments in the who you'd like to meet poll, where she said she'd be afraid of everyone but two people.  If her preferences are that specific it would just seem that she'd correspond with them directly in PMs or on FB, so that she can get the support and friendship she needs and wants and apparently knows she'll get from those sources.

eastunder1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:62789e0c-b5a3-4802-9d43-e155ac93cc58">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm sorry, this is all confusing to me.  Heels and Amoro, you guys are usually the first to jump in with snarky comments but now it's not cool?  Also, I seriously thought this chick GBCK and talked bad about E and everyone didn't like her, now everyone does?  I must not pay enough attention sometimes because I am thoroughly confused.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

You and me, dani.  You and me. 

buddhagouda

I find the dynamics of this conversation very interesting. Personally, I wouldn't have cared enough to create a new post about this when people had already commented in the original thread. It was kind of overkill. That being said, I think empathy only reaches to a certain point before your actions have consequences. 

pumpkinpumpkin

Not when someone's down and depressed like that and I know it.  Sorry Dani.  I know I can be rough, but I don't think I'm downright hateful like that.

This isn't downright hateful. It's calling her out on STUPIDITY. Not her broken engagement.

shellydiane820

I had never heard about the FFF.

AmoroAgain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:6c60986a-cb4d-4f83-b224-03ec68a78303">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]Not when someone's down and depressed like that and I know it.  Sorry Dani.  I know I can be rough, but I don't think I'm downright hateful like that. This isn't downright hateful. It's calling her out on STUPIDITY. Not her broken engagement.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

Because she TOTALLY needs that right now.

pumpkinpumpkin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:a3015a60-e88b-446c-bc68-233c26d542f7">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *playtnteppg27 * : You and me, dani.  You and me. 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

I also agree whole-heartedly.

buddhagouda

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:9c493b1e-78d5-4e11-980d-b3eda27056cd">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *playtnteppg27 * : Not when someone's down and depressed like that and I know it.  Sorry Dani.  I know I can be rough, but I don't think I'm downright hateful like that.  Honestly, I've not paid that much attention to her, I just know it's a difficult time, so I'm giving some leeway.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div><span style="font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span"><table border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" class="Discussion_PostTable" style="border-top-width:initial;border-right-width:0px;border-bottom-width:0px;border-left-width:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;width:455px;border-top-style:none;border-top-color:initial;padding:0px;margin:10px;"><tbody><tr style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;"><td id="forumPostFormattedBody[10]" class="Discussion_PostTablePost" style="padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:10px;border-top-width:0px;border-right-width:0px;border-bottom-width:0px;border-left-width:1px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:top;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-left-style:solid;border-left-color:#e4efc7;margin:0px;"><div style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">How far does empathy go, though? That post was an AW from the beginning and only marginally believable as an actual concern. She got plenty of good support and advice before the thread turned to a goofy and completely different topic. </div><div style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">
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pumpkinpumpkin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:e484319b-9d1c-40ed-b919-983c5df0fbe2">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *playtnteppg27 * : Because she TOTALLY needs that right now.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

You know what? I recall being called out for being stupid, and a bitch PLENTY of fucking times since Mark got sick. Does anyone say, "you know, P2's H has cancer, layoff"? NO. Do I ask for it? FUUCK no.

AmoroAgain

At the end of the day, I find it incredibly ridiculous to call her out.  That's it, end of story.  Whatever P wanted to say to her, could have been said in the original thread, instead of creating a new one.  Clearly, however, she wanted to draw attention to it.

AmoroAgain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:97f9f9c7-5d62-4a8b-a1b0-5c8db644ae16">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *playtnteppg27 * : You know what? I recall being called out for being stupid, and a bitch PLENTY of fucking times since Mark got sick. Does anyone say, "you know, P2's H has cancer, layoff"? NO. Do I ask for it? FUUCK no.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

But that's because you're perfect in every way and never make any mistakes.

eastunder1

I don't give two sh*ts about this playttapus girl and her personal life one way or the other, but I find it amusing that people who are usually first in line to be d*cks are falling all over themselves trying to maintain some line of kindness now.  Plus, its as if people are racing to throw their "Oh, I feel sorry for her too!!!!" into the hat, like someone with a clipboard list and pen is checking to see who doesn't participate. 

Its all just very odd. 

pumpkinpumpkin

Um...when the fuuck did I ever say that? WTF is your problem?

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:bdf77fb7-dfa5-4f73-8c18-388f5f99868c">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *playtnteppg27 * : How far does empathy go, though? That post was an AW from the beginning and only marginally believable as an actual concern. She got plenty of good support and advice before the thread turned to a goofy and completely different topic.  She wasn't being bashed for her OP. She is being called out for DDing and throwing the internet equivalent of a foot stomping tantrum. 
Posted by buddhagouda[/QUOTE]

I agree, and seeing how she's been made fun of here before numerous times and already didn't like half the people here, I don't know why any of this is a surprise or why she would come here for support anyway honestly.

ohwhynot

I don't know, PP.  This may be an insensitive thing to say, but you seem more "together" than Play.  Like, you seem to be more than capable of taking care of whatever life throws at you.  Not that you're not in pain, or that you don't have low days or horrible times, but that you have the inner resources to deal with it.  I wouldn't really expect you to throw out a thread that was a thinly disguised plea for some attention and support.

I feel very badly about what you and Mark are dealing with, but I don't feel sorry for you, if that makes any sense. 

With Play, I feel sorry for her.  She doesn't seem to have a whole lot going for her these days and I hope she can whip up some inner strength. 

pumpkinpumpkin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:5efb58d9-922a-46c4-b2b0-26593703a718">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]At the end of the day, I find it incredibly ridiculous to call her out.  That's it, end of story.  Whatever P wanted to say to her, could have been said in the original thread, instead of creating a new one.  Clearly, however, she wanted to draw attention to it.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

Yep, don't you all know I'm a huge AW? DUH. Don't forget I'm perfect too.

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:ad18e1bd-d4b7-40a8-8c8b-051da4f84418">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't give two sh*ts about this playttapus girl and her personal life one way or the other, but I find it amusing that people who are usually first in line to be d*cks are falling all over themselves trying to maintain some line of kindness now.  Plus, its as if people are racing to throw their "Oh, I feel sorry for her too!!!!" into the hat, like someone with a clipboard list and pen is checking to see who doesn't participate.  Its all just very odd. 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

I agree.  This post makes me feel side-eye-y and suspicious.  Weird.

AmoroAgain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:b79821be-aea6-486f-a146-f839404f3686">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]Um...when the fuuck did I ever say that? WTF is your problem?
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

You don't say it, but you sure as hell act like it.  Sig pics need to conform to your standards, don't double post, don't say things that you find stupid.  Blah blah blah.  It's like a monotony of perfection.

pumpkinpumpkin

Yes Buddha...that's also exactly what I've been saying here too. I somehow think it'll be taken better from your "mouth" than mine.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:2d109d90-7dc8-4f78-851e-851b6fe1fcbd">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]I wish I still had her as a FB friend. I finally deleted her after getting sick of seeing her badmouth so many E regs, like Nebb and annaoskar with her statuses. I bet she's got an interesting one now. . .
Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]

Are you talking about Plytwsdfsiognar? Or MrsE?

Nebb

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:2d109d90-7dc8-4f78-851e-851b6fe1fcbd">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]I wish I still had her as a FB friend. I<strong> finally deleted her after getting sick of seeing her badmouth so many E regs, like Nebb</strong> and annaoskar with her statuses. I bet she's got an interesting one now. . .
Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]

Whoa wait, wtf now??

crfische

I don't know, but for a woman who hates the board and all of it's posters, there sure has been a lot of effort exerted in this here 4 pager...

buddhagouda

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_playtnteppg27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bee30e4d-41f0-486d-8034-3403fc337274Post:7a373909-8d7c-4828-bed4-ee225901bff0">Re: *playtnteppg27 *</a>:
[QUOTE]She talks about theknot message boards and its posters in her facebook status updates?  Thats just so pathetic. Wait, do people DO that?  I mean, I don't know about you guys but my status updates consist of things happening in my real life.   well, that and anchorman quotes.   Is that just me or.......  (?) 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Nope. The knot/nest is my guilty secret that only my close friends IRL know about. I would never vent about something happening here on FB. 

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beatlesgirl25

I really want to know what was in these FB updates.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Frankly, I'm kind of careful about my infrequent FB status updates. There are a lot of people from every aspect of my life who are my FB friends.