Hi Everyone! I'm new here. Joined awhile back, have gotten a ton of inspiration from everyone's beautiful weddings and I sit here thinking to myself, I need to know what these ladies would do...I know this happens all the time and I'm not the only one who goes through this, I'm just not sure how to respond to this, if I should respond at all?
FI and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, we decided that unless someone has a significant other(boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse) they did not get a +1. I know some pepole say thats not right, but we did what we could afford...and we had both been invited to weddings previously solo bc we were single and were not offended!
We have gotten multiple rsvps with +1s even though they werent invited with one. We're not sure if we should put our foot down and call these people and say we're sorry but we can't accomodate you? Or just let it go and try to enjoy the last two weeks left. We're still a little under budget which is nice, but there are now 10 extra guests that we have to pay for...if it was one or two people doing it, wouldnt be so bad...but its 10 cousins that have all done it, all in their early 20s. (I am too by the way!)
Is it best to just keep our mouths shut because we are under budget so we can essentially afford it? I just think its rude to impose on people, and not even ask first if its ok! But I don't want to be rude in and tell them they cant bring a date, even though they werent invited with one in the first place!
Re: Guests adding +1s?
They're rude - you're not. Put your foot down. Call and explain that due to capacity/budget limitations, you cannot accomodate extra guests.
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You're not being rude at all. It isn't a matter of being able to afford it (way to go, underbudget!), but your guests are being rude by adding +1. Like everyone else said, call them and explain that you cannot accommodate their extra guests, but you still hope they can make it.
Thanks ladies.
[QUOTE]Ok makes sense....I'll talk it over with FI, if he'd rather just eat the cost and not have to have the conversations with people then I'll suck it up. I did hear that one cousin said well "Uncle Bob" passed away so he obviously wont be going, so its not like this is really an extra person. Yes, that really happened...don't think about your cousin who just lost her father, think about a way to bring a date! I really want to tell her no you can't bring a date, <strong>because I believe in ghosts and I'm going to have a plate for "uncle bob"..</strong>. Thanks ladies.
Posted by tara1223[/QUOTE]
This is awesome. Tell her "no guest" and then sit her next to uncle Bob during dinner.
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[QUOTE]Hi Everyone! I'm new here. Joined awhile back, have gotten a ton of inspiration from everyone's beautiful weddings and I sit here thinking to myself, I need to know what these ladies would do...I know this happens all the time and I'm not the only one who goes through this, I'm just not sure how to respond to this, if I should respond at all? FI and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, we decided that unless someone has a significant other(boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse) they did not get a +1. I know some pepole say thats not right, but we did what we could afford...and we had both been invited to weddings previously solo bc we were single and were not offended! We have gotten multiple rsvps with +1s even though they werent invited with one. <strong>We're not sure if we should put our foot down and call these people and say we're sorry but we can't accomodate you? </strong>Or just let it go and try to enjoy the last two weeks left. We're still a little under budget which is nice, but there are now 10 extra guests that we have to pay for...if it was one or two people doing it, wouldnt be so bad...but its 10 cousins that have all done it, all in their early 20s. (I am too by the way!) Is it best to just keep our mouths shut because we are under budget so we can essentially afford it? I just think its rude to impose on people, and not even ask first if its ok! But I don't want to be rude in and tell them they cant bring a date, even though they werent invited with one in the first place!
Posted by tara1223[/QUOTE]
Yup, do this.
I would call your cousins, and assure them that they'll have tons of people to socialize with (aka THEIR FAMILY!), so there's really no need for them to bring a date, and they'd be doing you a HUGE favor by coming 'alone' (some people like to feel like they're helping out). Hopefully by appealing to their sympathies, and stressing that they won't be the only ones, the conversations will go smoothly. GL!
Also --- for a great many people, being stuck at a wedding ALONE with FAMILY is a level of hell.
[QUOTE]Most adult activities are designed on the couple model. So yeah I would think it is normal for adults to do things with their SO/date. <strong>Also --- for a great many people, being stuck at a wedding ALONE with FAMILY is a level of hell. :)</strong> I still hope this all works out ok for OP and no family/friends are insulted.
posted by flutgrl1[/QUOTE]
Dude, do you know my family?
signed,
a big fan of + 1's for all.
Now with more wedded bliss.
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