Ok here's my question: (which I'm sure has been asked before but I'm going to ask away)
Is it rude to have a wedding on Sunday for your out of town guests?
Here's the background. We originally picked the date of July 2nd, 2011. My FI (hope thats right!) and I really wanted to have it on the fourth of july holiday weekend. He is in the Marine Corps and so are many members of my family so we really wanted to do kinda of a patriotic holiday theme. Also, it was a good in between date between when he got back from his deployment and when we had to move for him to attend law school. So we reserved the church and Ok'd it with our priest. Once we started to look at possible reception places we ran into a problem. Keep in mind we live in a relatively small town without the countless reception options of a big city, so we are very limited in our choices. There is a nice place downtown called the Ohio Building I had my heart set on... mainly because of the convenient location for our guests, the size, and the fact we could bring in our own caterer (who we really want to use because she is a friend of the family and does amazing work). Unfortunately once I got a hold of them, they had just gotten booked for that day recently. I was perplexed... move the wedding back a whole weekend for the place I want? Or pick another place that is less desirable for the date? Then my mom suggested doing the wedding that Sunday. Its a holiday weekend so that helps. But I still feel that some people wont attend because they may have to go back to work Monday. Some places Ive even read that people consider it rude!
So whats the general consensus? My family says "Do what you want!" but the problem is I'm not sure what I want! I'm just not sure what the best decision is! HELP!
Re: Sunday Wedding: Is it rude?
I'm having a Sunday wedding. You can do it earlier in the day, although I'm personally also having an evening wedding. I'm also having mine on a holiday weekend, though not as big of a holiday as July 4th.
Some people won't be able to come, perhaps, especially if you have a lot of OOT guests. But no, it isn't rude.
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[QUOTE]It's July 4, so it's a federal holiday. Everyone who works a 9-5, Monday-Friday schedule has that day off. People with unpreditable schedules will have unpredictable schedules anyway, you know? I'm having a Sunday wedding. You can do it earlier in the day, although I'm personally also having an evening wedding. I'm also having mine on a holiday weekend, though not as big of a holiday as July 4th. Some people won't be able to come, perhaps, especially if you have a lot of OOT guests. But no, it isn't rude.
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This. Mine's on Sunday Memorial Day Weekend. All the same reasoning as Mery.
It's certainly not rude.
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Don't over-think it.
SUN weddings:
1) the atmosphere tends to be more laid back - there is usually less dancing and drinking, and more mingling. This can actually be a good thing if you're concerned about your budget, because the alcohol consumption is usually lower.
2) They tend to end earlier than a SAT wedding if you hold it at night, because people that don't take off of work on MON will leave early, and some OOT guests will leave early to prepare for their trip home the next day. A good option is to have the reception in the late afternoon, and scheduled to end early evening.
Holiday weekends:
1) it is often assumed that having a wedding on a holiday weekend is better for the guests because they have an extra day off. This is true for those people who work a regular M-F job, but not everyone gets that extra day off, so know your crowd.
2) Travel and hotel costs tend to be higher on holiday weekends than at other times throughout the year.
3) Depending on the hoilday, you may be asking guests to break long-standing traditions. This may negatively affect your guest count.
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We initally wanted to get married over the Labor Day weekend b/c 85% of our guest will be coming from OOT. But the costs for hotels would be almost twice as high that weekend, which we felt was defeating the purpose. We decided to go for the weekend after, but that Saturday was 9/11 and our decision was not to get married on that day so we opted for the day after, Sunday. I knew quite a few OOT family members couldn't attend no matter when it was b/c of health issues so the day didn't affect our numbers any. We're getting better deals w/ our vendors b/c it's on a Sunday plus it's not during a holiday weekend AND it's not peak season anymore (getting married at the beach). Like a PP said, if your OOT guests were coming in for a Sat wedding they'd have to take Friday off so for a Sunday wedding they'll just take Monday off. No harm done.
Good luck w/ your planning.
Try not to stress too much, just deal w/ one thing at a time so you don't get overwhelmed instead of trying to figure out the whole picture all at once.
I say go for it.
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