should the WP bring a +1??

mejane123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_should-wp-bring-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:cba76f94-ac71-455c-98ac-6e662a6c2c67Post:90c09019-a97f-46f6-853f-96cc95a588a1">Re: should the WP bring a +1??</a>:
[QUOTE]should we invite +1s for guests who DON'T have SOs??? a couple of my cousins don't have SO's, should we just give them an invite w/o a +1?
Posted by myfattypony[/QUOTE]

<div>Are you talking about all of your guests or just WP?  We're giving all of our WP + 1s, and that's how it's been in the other weddings I've been in.  I think it's nice to do.  But if you're talking about all of your guests getting + 1s (who don't have SOs), that's really up to you and your budget.  SOs should be invited, but you aren't required to give all of your guests +1s.  It's a nice gesture, but not necessary, certainly if you can't afford it.  </div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

This is what our sweetheart table looked like:



The girlfriend of one of our GMs was actually quite nervous that she wouldn't be able to sit with him. The RD the night before was the first time she had met her boyfriend's college friends who were invited tot he wedding (and the first time I had met most of them - they're spreadout all over the country, literally the came from DC, NY, Texas, AZ and Oregon). When the GM asked me about it I told him they'd both be sitting together with the people the GM knew from colelge because, "it would be mean not to, she doesn't know anyone else."

mkrupar

When it comes to SOs for all your guests, yes if they are in a committed relationship they should be invited. It is agains etiquette to separate social units. So if your cousins are over 18 and dating someone, no matter how long that is, then yes, their SOs should be invited. If any of your guests are truly single you do not need to give them a +1. However it's nice to let your guests bring one if A) they won't know anyone at the wedding, and or have travelled from out of ton to attend your wedding.

mica178

I recommend either a sweetheart table or a captain's/king's table.  Either would allow your WP to sit with their dates.

SD3194

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_should-wp-bring-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:cba76f94-ac71-455c-98ac-6e662a6c2c67Post:d638ac38-0079-4b64-a1f5-520cb83c6797">Re: should the WP bring a +1??</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: should the WP bring a +1?? : The only SO that won't know a significant portion of the guest list is my MOH's long-time bf... and he'll still know several other guests, as I intend to invite MOH's family (since I consider them family as well). The only WP member I'd be concerned about a SO for has already told me there will be no SO in attendance, as she is flying in from Canada and will be planning on getting together with a bunch of other guests in attendance to catch up beforehand and she "doesn't want to deal with dragging a boy around" (LOL). I was the guest a WP member, though not a SO, and was not offended at my friend sitting at the head table. It's assumed in our families & circle of friends that there will be a head table. I think a lot depends on region/group of family & friends.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]




Your wedding is more than a year away. How do you know she won't have a SO that she wants to bring by then? 

I get the whole region thing but what if the date isn't in your social circle? What if he thinks that head tables are rude and awkward? I think it's presumptuous to assume how ALL of your guests will think.

MaggieandJake

We are having a head table and I have one BM who's BF doesn't know anyone.  Everyone else's SO is either at the HT or is part of our circle of friends and will be seated with other people they know.  

We are putting all of our ushers and our HT's dates at one table.  We are also inviting all SO to the RD (of course) and in the limo from the ceremony to the reception so that they won't be at the reception/cocktail hour by themselves and will have a chance to get to know the people they will be sitting with at the reception.  In the end, out of an 8 hour day he'll only be by himself for 1 hour (ceremony30min/dinner30min).