Rehearsal Dinner Invitation with No RSVP

cherbein

This is mainly just sharing my amusement...

My FMIL is, well, let's just say interesting.  She declared that she was going to host the rehearsal dinner which is great.  Then she picked a wierd restaurant with a Canadian Lodge theme, lots of antelers and where if it's your birthday they make you kiss a moose (no big deal, this part is her party and at least the food good there), but the funny part was she didn't want to go talk to them.  I think her initial plan was just to show up with 30 people.  I was compared to a nervous cat and informed that back in her day things were more relaxed when I asked if she needed any information for the rehearsal dinner.  I sent her names and addresses for the bridal party, but then was asked for a head count.  My assumption at this point was, okay we're going very informal here and she's not sending out invitations.  Seemed a bit strange to me, but hardly worth a fight when I can just e-mail everyone.

To my great surprise, I actually got an invite to the rehearsal dinner in the mail today and on the RSVP line it says my FI's parents names.  The amusing part is that they forgot to put any contact information for people to RSVP!  I guess they could use the return address on the envelope, but I still thought it was funny.

I'll give the crazy FMIL credit for effort and get ehr a head count from my e-mail.

mica178

You've gotta love the quirky inlaws.

My MIL has butt-dialed me about 5 times in the last week.  Often at 8am her time (5am my time).  The woman hasn't learned how to lock her iPhone.  I just call her charming. 

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I agree with your FMIL. Weddings are so much more than they ought to be half the time these days.

And as far as the mistake on the rsvp goes, oh well. Since the RD is just pretty much your WP and immediate family, they should be able to get in contact with your or your FI so you can let FMIL know the head count to give to the venue. Not a huge deal.

cherbein

Missy Sue,

It's absolutely not a huge deal!  I just found it kind of amusing.  She's a bit quirky and back and forth on things.  She asked my mom for information about the rehearsal at my shower, but then implied that any planning was crazy.

I appreciate any and all effort and will happily kiss the moose if this venue makes FMIL happy and keeps peace.

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Oh, I wasn't trying to be mean. I think it is pretty funny, too and glad that you are not getting upset and bent out of shape like some ladies would. Congrats on your upcoming wedding.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Honestly? It's probably not a mistake. She's "old school" and expects people to RSVP to her address. Right? I mean, back in the day, you wouldn't have had someone RSVP to you by phone.

ootmother2

I assume she expects people to rsvp by mail.

Real mail isn't a sin, you know

lindsaynewbride10

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-invitation-rsvp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:cc0e99a6-a11e-429f-91ad-d7fb25db6cfePost:31c06e28-ffbe-475d-ae63-b8b049ee487f">Re: Rehearsal Dinner Invitation with No RSVP</a>:
[QUOTE]Sorry for any uproar!  I thought if you expected people to RSVP by mail you put in response cards, but perhaps not.  All these have is the barely legible return address on the envelope that the Post Office partially stamped over to try and make out where you can RSVP to and there's no date of when to RSVP by either. I thought it was kind of a funny/cute oversight that they just put their names and no other info for the RSVP EDIT: FI was actually worried that they forgot the info so he called his mom to RSVP and let her know.  Her response was that people weren't supposed to get back to her she is <strong>"just going to count noses when we get there"
</strong>Posted by cherbein[/QUOTE]

Wow you were right, she is from the old school! I hope everything goes smoothly!