Helloooo.... oooo....oooo...

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Helloooo.... oooo....oooo... : Agreed!  What kind of collar? 
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]


Well from what I can tell, it looks kinda bronzy- blingy?  I don't know.  He said if I don't like it he can return it, but I'm sure it's fine.

Only problem is obviously now with the new collar, she needs a new tag.  So I will have to get on that tomorrow.

baystateapple

Yeah, no, Angel.  Name calling is bullshit.

Loopyseven

Have fun Poke!

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]Poke - You put the rim on yourself?? I'm impressed! Loopy - He kind of has been... I guess because of stress. I was annoyed that I hadn't heard from him all day (I've been waiting for today to get here so I could finally talk to him) and I sent him a text saying that, and he was basically a huge asshole when he texted me back. He said he was sleeping and to leave him be, and I basically said that I was lonely and that I'd been looking forward to seeing him today and he should understand that. I was probably being annoying and he's understandably exhausted, <strong>but then he called me names, <u>which automatically puts him in the wrong, IMO</u></strong>. Rachers - He could defintely use a good butt-kicking, go ahead and get on that ;)
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

Uuuuhhhhh.  Yeah.  Not okay.

polichik

In Response to Re:Helloooo.... oooo....oooo...:[QUOTE]Poke You put the rim on yourself?? I'm impressed!Loopy He kind of has been... I guess because of stress. I was annoyed that I hadn't heard from him all day I've been waiting for today to get here so I could finally talk to him and I sent him a text saying that, and he was basically a huge asshole when he texted me back. He said he was sleeping and to leave him be, and I basically said that I was lonely and that I'd been looking forward to seeing him today and he should understand that. I was probably being annoying and he's understandably exhausted, but then he called me names, which automatically puts him in the wrong, IMO. Rachers He could defintely use a good buttkicking, go ahead and get on that ; Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]Hold the phone. He called you names? What the hell?

Loopyseven

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Helloooo.... oooo....oooo... : Hehe. He did send a picture but his phone camera is not the best.  AAAAH I'M DYING. <strong>I really like small potatoes.  Little ones roasted with olive oil and maybe some sea salt.  nom nom.</strong>
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>Me too.. I just Pinned a recipe to toss them in italian seasoning and top with parmesan... YUM!</div>

kcscejal

Angel, if I were you I would be having a serious chat with your FI.  I get being stressed and exhausted, but name calling is disrespectful and not ok.

pokepoke27

Angel - Don't be impressed, I had it done at the used tire place haha. Only $10 to change it out though, so that was cool! And FI needs a slap, I understand that he wants to rest after all the stress but he does have someone other than himself to think about. And there is no need for name calling. *hugs*

Okay, going for real this time!

angelstar975

Have fun, Poke! I'm jealous... it's rainy and cloudy here and it's only in the 70s. I want to swim.

AATB - Blingy sounds pretty! I love when dogs have stylish collars as opposed to plain ones, I think it's so cute.

HockeyFan4

I'm exhausted...who wants to make me dinner?

Loopyseven

AATB - speaking of blingy - thanks for the P-badge  Gotta love TK IT.

polichik

Ok, I have to go back to work, but Angel, I really hope he pulls his head out of his butt. Name calling in unacceptable. Not just not ok, or disrespectful, but straight up unacceptable.

musicalsunlight

Finals are ridiculously stressful but it doesn't warrant name calling. I'm probably not the most pleasant person to be around right now, but you gotta know the limits. I think your FI needs to figure out a way to de-stress with a shorter temper. For me, that involves knotting breaks & finding funny things online with my mom. 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

My ex would get really pissy with me during law school finals.  Or even just law school.  He never called me names, but one night I was having drinks with a girlfriend and called him for a ride at 11pm.  I wasn't even drunk, just didn't feel right about driving.  He yelled at me the entire way home about how I was taking away his time to get adequate rest for his classes tomorrow.  Yeah, so then when he dropped me off I told him I wouldn't ever bother him for a favor again - or perhaps he would rather I just get shitfaced drunk and call him at 3am not knowing where I was.  Then he could search the gutters for me or something.

At any rate, I am not with that doucher now, and I really don't think school stress is an excuse to be a douche to someone.

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]What kinds of names, Angel?  That sounds pretty harsh to me.  :(
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

"Heartless, selfish bother" and "ASSHOLE" (Yes, it was all in caps.) I've been called worse (not by him, by my ex) but still, it's not cool. I have no desire to talk to him now but we'll have to talk about it later. I can be a biitch to him sometimes, but I don't call him names.

And Rachers, that's exactly what I thought... In my head, I was like, "Really? You're going on 27 and you still think name calling is appropriate in an argument?"

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]AATB - speaking of blingy - thanks for the P-badge :)  Gotta love TK IT.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]


Oh you are most welcome, lady!  lol.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Omg, angel.  That leaves a seriously bad taste in my mouth.

ETA - for real, that is upsetting.  If my husband ever said things like that to me I would probably cry, a lot.

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Helloooo.... oooo....oooo... : "Heartless, selfish bother" and "ASSHOLE" (Yes, it was all in caps.) I've been called worse (not by him, by my ex) but still, it's not cool. I have no desire to talk to him now but we'll have to talk about it later. I can be a biitch to him sometimes, but I don't call him names. And Rachers, that's exactly what I thought... In my head, I was like, "Really? You're going on 27 and you still think name calling is appropriate in an argument?"
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

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That is pretty unacceptable.  I'm glad that you recognize it, but he needs to know that, too.  I know that stuff can be taken out of context, but I don't know what context ASSHOLE belongs in that can be overlooked.

HockeyFan4

angel

*hugs*

mica178

We'd have serious issues if H ever called me an ASSHOLE.  And I am sort of one to him sometimes.

kcscejal

I have been a total asshole at times, but I cannot imagine H ever coming remotely close to calling me one.  That really is just unacceptable.

baystateapple

Jeezum.  My H is no saint (obviously), but he has never called me names.  That's rough, Angel.  I'd suggest a come-to-Jesus meeting and make it clear that that is unacceptable, finals or no
ETA: back in a bit, dinner just came out of the oven.

angelstar975

MP, the text was "I CAN'T SLEEP NOW, YOU ASSHOLE. YOU WOKE ME UP LIKE TEN TIMES. THANKS."

AATB, I did cry... which is unusual, I rarely cry becuase of him. He usually doesn't do things to make me cry.

Like I said, I can be annoying as fuuck sometimes and a little needy, so I can understand him getting frustrated, but there's an acceptable way to express frustration and that isn't it.

If I wasn't looking forward to a girls night tonight before, I definltey am now.

musicalsunlight

Yeah, that is not ok. Especially since he should be theoretically thrilled that he's done, even if he is tired! Come to Jesus talk is most definitely necessary. I hope he realizes how hurtful that was to you. I would've cried a lot too in that situation. 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I mean that is just stupid, angel - how the fluck were you supposed to know he was trying to sleep?  You can't read minds or see things, you're not fucking clairvoyant.  People get upset with each other sometimes but he did not handle that very well.  I mean, he could have just said "I know, I'm sorry - I will try to talk to you soon.  I just really need some rest now."  He doesn't have to make you feel like shiit.

Loopyseven

Yeah, I probably would have cried too.  And thrown something.  I like to throw things when I get really pissed.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]MP, the text was "I CAN'T SLEEP NOW, YOU ASSHOLE. YOU WOKE ME UP LIKE TEN TIMES. THANKS." AATB, I did cry... which is unusual, I rarely cry becuase of him. He usually doesn't do things to make me cry. Like I said,<strong> I can be annoying as fuuck sometimes and a little needy, so I can understand him getting frustrated, </strong>but there's an acceptable way to express frustration and that isn't it. If I wasn't looking forward to a girls night tonight before, I definltey am now.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

Also, please don't make excuses for his less-than-excusable behavior.  He needs to be accountable and make things right, pronto.

angelstar975

Thanks, MuSu, I hope realizes it too. I will definitely talk to him later, but I'm too hurt and pissed now.

AATB - Exactly, I didn't know he was sleeping and only sent him one or two texts after he told me he was, in response to what he said. I hope he apologizes on his own, but I don't know if he knows how much he hurt me.

Loopy- Throwing something at his head would have been nice

Sorry to kind of hijack the thread with my problems, anybody else doing something fun tonight?

musicalsunlight

Also, J has said that I'm being selfish before, but not in a "you are a heartless selfish bother" kind of way. More just when we're having an argument and he's telling me how he feels about what I'm saying/doing/etc. And I usually appreciate the honesty. Sometime he acts selfish too and i call him out on it. But the accusatory way he's texting you like that is not cool. 

MattsPenguin

Don't worry about hijacking.  This sounds like it could be a major problem.  I was waiting for you to say that he called you the "B" word!  Then I was going to become a "B" for you!