Bride believes reception = fancy drunk fest???

AlePeezy2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bride-believes-reception-fancy-drunk-fest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:cf7a63c1-6f59-43e2-856f-7eb76aa0240aPost:37065944-771d-4a21-8877-ef35174eaf3e">Bride believes reception = fancy drunk fest???</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, not so much etiquette, but I don't know if I'm nuts or not. The bride in this situation, who is marrying my brother, has little intention on her wedding day to do anything other than get married, eat, and get sh!tfaced drunk. Am I way out of line for reminding her that she may not want to get wasted, since she a) will want to remember the day, b) probably doesn't want the entire family to see her drunk c) it's not a kegger... Example, I asked her why she wanted to be smashed on the night of her wedding, and she responded "Because it's a party? And I'm 25. That's what we do?" Am I way out of line, or old (I'm only 29!), or boring for thinking this is totally immature and ridiculous. I understand wanting to have a blast with your friends/family, but setting out to get wasted intentionally sounds pathetic to me... thoughts?
Posted by mandi195[/QUOTE]

<div>I have read most of the responses and I feel bad that everyone's coming at you this way. Another lesson in how you should take these forums with a grain of salt. I will tell you one thing, not along the lines of it's none of your business, but more this will definitely affect your relationship with SIL. </div><div>
</div><div>My FSIL, has been awful to me. Ignored me when I walked into rooms, would call me as an absolute last resort to organize things for my FSS, such as movie outings with his aunt. She would snub me every chance she got. The weird part was she and I have the same friends from HS and went out for a mutual friends birthday when FI and I were first dating. FI was NOT there. We had a great time. I told her her brother was just the guy for me, and blah blah. However we were at bars, and then walked to a friends house. At the bar, a friend made some comment about me and the FI (who were newly dating and all twitterpated). I had the audactiy to blush and giggle. TWO years later this stuck in FSIL's mind and she has treated me like crap since then. WItohut confronting me, or just giving me the benefit of the doubt. </div><div>
</div><div>Two years later I find out that's why she's been terrible, and unbearable to be around. Let me tell you now, let it go. It is not her job to make you comfortable. Do what you do at weddings, and let them do what they do, and do not judge her. She will notice one way or another. </div><div>
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Miss_2010

You go get married and stay sober at your wedding.  Let your FSIL get trashed at hers.  Everybody is happy. 

itschelsea

I don't think anyone's really mentioned this, but most of the elderly family that you don't want to be drunk around leave after the cake cutting. At least for all the weddings I've been to, the real drinking happens with a select group of people later on in the evening, after the relatives have gone home.

Doesn't really seem like this girl is planning on getting hammered before the first dance.

Jen4948

I agree that getting so drunk that you black out on your wedding night is tacky, stupid, and immature (among other things), but I don't know of anything you could say that 1) your FSIL would listen to and 2) would go over well with your brother.

So if you're not going to, I'd stick to that.  Let them have to deal with the consequences of her choice.