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RSVP vs. Headcount
Posted on Food board, but then realized the board didn't appear to get much traffic.
Needing to turn in "final headcount" for catering this week. There are many RSVPs not submitted yet, though most of those I can make a fairly-accurate educated guess on if they will be able to make it. For a buffet meal, did you turn in exactly what you anticipated? Or slighly higher to accommodate those who may show up but did not RSVP?
There are so many variables (small children who won't be eating, people who don't come at the last minute, etc), I'd be interested to hear what you all did and how it worked out. I'd hate to run out- but don't want to grossly over pay, either!
TIA!
Needing to turn in "final headcount" for catering this week. There are many RSVPs not submitted yet, though most of those I can make a fairly-accurate educated guess on if they will be able to make it. For a buffet meal, did you turn in exactly what you anticipated? Or slighly higher to accommodate those who may show up but did not RSVP?
There are so many variables (small children who won't be eating, people who don't come at the last minute, etc), I'd be interested to hear what you all did and how it worked out. I'd hate to run out- but don't want to grossly over pay, either!
TIA!
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Re: RSVP vs. Headcount
I've heard to say count children as 1/2, etc, for more accurate count.
[QUOTE]I have called my friends/family. There is a bit of resistance to contact "other" guests, fearful of appearing pushy (but NOT fearful that FI and I will overpay... GRRRR). I've heard to say count children as 1/2, etc, for more accurate count.
Posted by BizWiz4[/QUOTE]
Tell your caterer how many adults and how many children and let them decide on food amounts.
Is it <em>after </em>the RSVP date? If it's after the RSVP date (assuming it's not insanely early and more than a month before the wedding) and close to final headcount deadline, you need to be pushy. Call them.
If you're still a ways off from your headcount date, just wait a while longer. And then call them.
[QUOTE]I called people who didn't RSVP so I had a hard number. I suggest you do the same to avoid either over-paying or not having enough food.
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]
This. You need to call and get hard numbers. Guesstimating is not safe!
June 2012 Bride!
[QUOTE]Start callling. Ask your mom and FMIL if they could help by calling their relatives, etc.
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]
Disagree. It's her wedding. If she and FI are adult enough to get married, they are adult enough to call their wedding guests.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: RSVP vs. Headcount : No, whoever is telling you that is ridiculous; you just have to call them. It's not pushy of you to want a response, it's rude of them not to respond in a timely fashion. Let the caterer know "84 adults, 12 kids" or whatever, and they plan accordingly.
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]
I agree. I feel like people rarely understand or remember how expensive and stressful wedding planning is. It's not at all pushy for you to expect an answer from someone you invited to your wedding.