My friend is getting married in two weeks and two days. I was asked to buy a special dress that was not cheap because she wanted me to be a special attendant (not a bridesmaid) with another girl. I was not given a role nor was I invited to the large, everyone is invited paid for by the inlaw rehearsal party as the other special attendant.
I was also asked to be MC at this wedding and my own wedding is two weeks after hers so taking on this role is really a favour on my part but she said she could not find anyone else. I was told she wanted the MC part to be a big show: lots of jokes, funny stories and I would have a co-male MC. There will be lots of guests and lots of speeches so its not your just stand up and introduce people.
I have called her, texted, facebook, emailed and even to her work email multiple times over the past several weeks asking her to please send me the information for the MC: the contact for the other MC, order of speeches, the usual stuff an MC needs to know. At first she told me she would get it to me by X Date. This girl is really organized an event planner by trade with a huge spreadsheet and everything with set deadlines. That date passed, then it was yeah, you’ll get it, then it was LOL I keep forgetting and now its silence. I keep telling her that I really want time so I can do my best job for her and that is true. I am also planning my own wedding so time is short for me and if I have to work with another MC then even harder.
The last email I again told her that I wanted to do a good job and also asked what other roles she wanted me to play as special attendant. I also sent her a link to an etsy shop she was interested in that I use. She sent me multiple texts about the etsy shop but silence on the MC part or attendant bit.
I really don’t know what to do at this point. I think her behaviour at this point is plain rude. I could not for the life of me imagine asking someone to be an MC and when they ask for the material so they could work on it…just ignore them. I figure she may have someone new for the MCing and that is fine with me but I don’t know anything…and nothing on my special it required me to buy a special dress role.
Should I a) just wait it out and anything she sends me work with what I have or if she sends me nothing assume I am not an MC or b) call and write and tell her that I need it by X date or I cannot do it. I don’t want to be hostile but her behaviour is frustrating and just plain rude to me.