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beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I think you're missing the point.  They aren't saying you were breaking confidentiality.  They're saying it was creepy that you were bragging about being there while this guy was dying.  At least that's what I'm reading anyway.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Exactly. Though I still fail to see how her talking about the identity of a patient outside of the hospital is <em>not</em> a violation of HIPAA.

shellydiane820

On the Pooh subject, I can't decide.  Sometimes I like her, sometimes I don't.  The fact her name is "Pooh" kind of bugs me.  I think of those weird sweatshirts you get at Walmart.

As for the Catholic Church/babies thing.  When I told my priest I want to be around 30 when I have kids, he about had a heart attack.  They mean serious business.

bbyckes

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[QUOTE]For exoneration - My SS just PM'd me and apologized and she's sorry and she did send something two times and even told me what she sent and I'm totally cool with it. I was honestly pretty sure that whoever drew my name just hated me and didn't want to play SS with me, but that's not the case. Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

This is the exact reason I was hesitant about getting involved.  Not getting a gift is not good for the ego.  I want to say I've let it go, but it still stings. ::sob::

And I have not gotten a PM telling me anything.  I just figure that it was a random who thought it would've been fun to join in and then bailed prior to.

jasmineh7777

J&K It is just fresh in my mind because I am doing my pre cana. We kind of skirted the question because I likely won't be able to have kids. My internal parentheses added (Nor, do we want them.)

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

TJ, maybe she got your address wrong so it went somewhere else both times she sent it?

squirrly

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[QUOTE]TJ, maybe she got your address wrong so it went somewhere else both times she sent it?
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Like to herself?

jasmineh7777

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[QUOTE]On the Pooh subject, I can't decide.  Sometimes I like her, sometimes I don't.  The fact her name is "Pooh" kind of bugs me.  I think of those weird sweatshirts you get at Walmart. As for the Catholic Church/babies thing.  When I told my priest I want to be around 30 when I have kids, he about had a heart attack.  They mean serious business.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

Did your priest insist upon NFP? (If that is too personal, don't answer).

lilgina64

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Still?  Sorry, my knowledge on getting married in Catholic churches is slim, and my curiosity is now piqued. 
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]


you used to have to get a blood test in order to get married. If you had conflicting blood types then you couldnt have kids (apparently the fathers blood type would attack the fetus? I'm sure theres a better explanation but my doctor told me about it the other week when I asked). So now there is a shot you get when you get pregnant and it protects the fetus from the blood type attacking it or something crazy like that.

the catholic church wants you to promise to raise the children catholic. As long as you say that, they arent going to liek follow up and stalk your children the rest of their lives though. A lot of people say they will and then life gets in the way or their religious views change. It happens. Some people take it to heart and really do raise their kids catholic.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Like to herself?
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

DED.

Morfudd

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[QUOTE] When I told my priest I want to be around 30 when I have kids, he about had a heart attack.  They mean serious business.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

This depends on your priest. Ours was far more interested in making sure that we knew that "Morfudd is a woman, and as such has needs" and that I "can't withhold sex for a year if he forgets your birthday" than in asking us about children... maybe because we live in a big expensive city, and he's tired of the near-heart attacks from people who can't imagine being able to afford children.

JessAndTrav

I would make a terrible catholic.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : you used to have to get a blood test in order to get married. If you had conflicting blood types then you couldnt have kids (apparently the fathers blood type would attack the fetus? I'm sure theres a better explanation but my doctor told me about it the other week when I asked). So now there is a shot you get when you get pregnant and it protects the fetus from the blood type attacking it or something crazy like that. the catholic church wants you to promise to raise the children catholic. As long as you say that, they arent going to liek follow up and stalk your children the rest of their lives though. A lot of people say they will and then life gets in the way or their religious views change. It happens. Some people take it to heart and really do raise their kids catholic.
Posted by lilgina64[/QUOTE]

Makes sense.  Thanks Lil' G!  (And everyone else who chimed in, of course.) 

aMrsin09

J&K, I'm not sure of all the details or how a physical would prove or disprove, but I do know my Great Aunt was excommunicated when she had her tubes tied in the 50s.  The doctor told her if she had another kid she could die.

jasmineh7777

It really does depend on the priest. We did promise to raise our children Catholic. FI had to agree to let me raise them in the Church, get them baptized, etc. because he is not Catholic. If we have children, we intend to do this.
We also had to agree to not invite any other people into our sex lives. I really could have gone an entire lifetime without promising my priest that we won't have threesomes.

temerityjane

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : This, exactly. I wasn't even around for the SS stuff, and this isn't the first, second or even the third time I've seen you mention this. What a weenie.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

<div>Actually, today was only the second time I ever mentioned it. I only mentioned it the first time because salt had said she didn't get anything - I felt like I would look like a gift grabby jerk by complaining about it. I said something the one time salt did, and then to tide privately. Since I only ever mentioned it once, it was just as easy for my SS to think I was a jerk who couldn't say thank you than assume I didn't get it.</div>

shellydiane820

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Did your priest insist upon NFP? (If that is too personal, don't answer).
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

He did.  Then just out of curiosity I asked if we didn't want kids, and kept practicing NFP, is that okay?  He sort of tip toed around that one insinuating that's abusing NFP.

It just sort of bugged me.  I guess because I wasn't raised catholic, I went through RCIA later in life, so there are some things I still have trouble wrapping my head around.

I know I want kids, and so does Nick, but I have things I want to do before I have them.  And Nick would have kids now, if I was ready, so I felt cornered.  It was uncomfortable.

mandybear7

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : This depends on your priest. Ours was far more interested in making sure that we knew that "Morfudd is a woman, and as such has needs" and that I "can't withhold sex for a year if he forgets your birthday" than in asking us about children... maybe because we live in a big expensive city, and he's tired of the near-heart attacks from people who can't imagine being able to afford children.
Posted by Morfudd[/QUOTE]

Same. NFP was totally skimmed over, too.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]It really does depend on the priest. We did promise to raise our children Catholic. FI had to agree to let me raise them in the Church, get them baptized, etc. because he is not Catholic. If we have children, we intend to do this. <strong>We also had to agree to not invite any other people into our sex lives. I really could have gone an entire lifetime without promising my priest that we won't have threesomes.</strong>
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

This is quite possibly the greatest thing I have ever, ever heard in my life.  And I mean no offense to Catholics, or people that enjoy threesomes, or what have you.  Just imagining how that conversation went, in my head, was fabulous. 

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Actually, today was only the second time I ever mentioned it. I only mentioned it the first time because salt had said she didn't get anything - I felt like I would look like a gift grabby jerk by complaining about it. I said something the one time salt did, and then to tide privately. Since I only ever mentioned it once, it was just as easy for my SS to think I was a jerk who couldn't say thank you than assume I didn't get it.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

Perhaps I'm combing you and Salt together. That's probably what it was. :)

At least she took care of it.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : WTF? I can't say that is something that I would ever expect a priest to say.
Posted by lovethebeach16[/QUOTE]

Sounds like that priest has heard a little bit of everything. ;)

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]J&K, I'm not sure of all the details or how a physical would prove or disprove, but I do know <strong>my Great Aunt was excommunicated when she had her tubes tied in the 50s.</strong>  The doctor told her if she had another kid she could die.
Posted by aMrsin09[/QUOTE]

Back then, I think they were far more intense. I know that in the 50's, none of the churches around here would marry my grandparents because he was catholic and she protestant. They finally found a church to do it, but it destroyed my grandfather's faith.He quit believing in God and everything, but we were fortunate that when he was 78 he changed his mind.

jasmineh7777

I blush when I am embarrassed. It was not good. That was after he had us confirm that we are indeed fornicators, since we live together.
I really do like my priest, but I am rather private in regards to that sort of thing.

This is also the priest who quotes Ginsburg during one of his first homilies at our church.

Morfudd

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : WTF? I can't say that is something that I would ever expect a priest to say.
Posted by lovethebeach16[/QUOTE]

I KNOW. But I think the threesome story beat it by a mile.

squirrly

My first engagement was to a Catholic guy who didn't know anything about getting married in the Catholic church.  The priest was really cool, and would wink or something when he asked one of the "I just have to ask this" questions.  Generally, it was only ex-FI who had to answer - I just sat silently.  Will you accept children as a gift from God and raise them in the Catholic church, for example was one I just sat through.

Nebb

Im sorry guys but this whole catholic marriage thing kind of killed the FLAMING vibe of FFF... way to go.

Bubbalub

I was raised Catholic and my Grandmother (mom's mom) wouldn't marry my Grandfather back in the 40's becaue he was Protestant. She just refused. So he converted so they could marry. He goes to mass every Sunday and, for as long as I can remember, she never goes to mass. Weird.

I need to go back and refresh my memory of a couple threads from this week, but I think that chick that said guns should not have regulations in regards to purchasing or owning them is a farking idiot. I'm all for the right to bear arms but to say that anyone should just be able to buy a gun at any time, with no waiting period and no background check is irresponsible and dangerous.

jasmineh7777

I flame my former priest, who got sent away for inappropriate behavior.

Better Nebb?

rhodesign

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : you used to have to get a blood test in order to get married. If you had conflicting blood types then you couldnt have kids (apparently the fathers blood type would attack the fetus? I'm sure theres a better explanation but my doctor told me about it the other week when I asked). So now there is a shot you get when you get pregnant and it protects the fetus from the blood type attacking it or something crazy like that.
Posted by lilgina64[/QUOTE]

I had always heard that blood tests were for STDs like Syphillis and to prove you weren't related.

The Rh incompatability is what you're talking about. If mom is negative and baby is positive, the first time she gets pregnant she may develop antibodies to the Rh. If she does, the next time she's pregnant and has a baby who is positive again, her blood may attack the fetus' blood. They give a shot called rhogam to mom's to prevent that.

[Deleted User]

I think it's beyond shiity that TJ and Capri didn't get their SS gifts.

And ditto whoever said that mrsamyjones was kind of lame.

bbyckes

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[QUOTE]Im sorry guys but this whole catholic marriage thing kind of killed the FLAMING vibe of FFF... way to go.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I just jumped on this bandwagon.