This co-worker probably thinks she's getting an invite... She's wrong

luvvtoobeme

I work in a small office with 2 other people.  I plan on inviting one but not the other.  The thing is, truthfully, I really can't stand "the other".  She is rude, fake, and constantly talks behind my back but is always "pleasant" to my face but I know its not sincere.  Other than the "I simply don't like her" reason, is the fact that she's 85 years old!!! (Don't ask me why she's still working... I'll never understand it)  We would NEVER be friends outside of work and my husband-to-be and I agreed that we only want to be surrounded by REAL friends and family that whole-heartedly love and care for us. 

Bottom line: She is not invited.

I already know it will be drama once she realizes the date is approaching and she hasn't received an invite.  There's a girl all of us know, but that she's not even remotely close to that got married earlier this year, and when she realized she wasn't invited she went on and on about it for weeks and even cried... CRIED!!!

Although I do not like her, I keep my relationship with her professional especially because we have to work so closely.  My dilemma is she keeps asking me for details to my wedding.  My dress, the venue, the date, the colors, blah blah, blah.  I don't want to discuss anything regarding the wedding with her because I think its tacky to yak about it with someone I have no intentions on inviting.  When she asks me questions what can I say?  Keep in mind I am a horrible liar, so I find it difficult to just answer "Oh, I don't know" with a convincing expression.  What would be the proper way to handle this?

whitsy

I don't have a lot of spine when it comes to stuff like this, so honestly, I'd just invite her. If it's going to cause THIS much drama, invite her. If your wedding is large, I promise you you will not see her more than the five seconds it takes to thank her for coming.

If she continues to ask you questions about the wedding, I would answer them, but then change the subject. "My colors are blush and bashful, have you finished that report yet?"

whitsy

Oh also, as to why she's working and you just don't understand why rubs me the wrong way. Maybe she loves to have a job to go to instead of being at home today. Maybe she needs the money. Maybe she needs the healthcare.

I have no idea why that bothered me, but it does. I guess because my 80 year old grandparents never dreamed they would need to work at 80ish, but the rising cost of healthcare forced them to take on menial jobs for medical benefits.

Kate61487

I'm with Whitsy in that the comment about her age really pissed me off.  Who are you to judge how she chooses to spend her time / her financial standing?

To answer your question, however, do as Whitsy said and just answer the question and move on.  But I too would just give it up and invite her to keep the peace.

luvvtoobeme

Thanks for the reply and I'm sorry... I didn't mean to rub you the wrong way.  To explain why I'll never understand why she is still working is because she is currently collecting 2 pensions as well as social security... in addition to her salary (And her 95 year old husband also collects his pension and social security).  She openly tells any and everyone that she puts all of her salary into her 401k until it reaches its cap each year. Trust me its not for the money or for health care.  

I could go on and on about her for hours, but I'd never waste that much time over the subject.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]I work in a small office with 2 other people.  I plan on inviting one but not the other.  The thing is, truthfully, I really can't stand "the other".  She is rude, fake, and constantly talks behind my back but is always "pleasant" to my face but I know its not sincere.  Other than the "I simply don't like her" reason, is the fact that she's 85 years old!!! (Don't ask me why she's still working... I'll never understand it)  We would NEVER be friends outside of work and my husband-to-be and I agreed that we only want to be surrounded by REAL friends and family that whole-heartedly love and care for us.  Bottom line: She is not invited. I already know it will be drama once she realizes the date is approaching and she hasn't received an invite.  There's a girl all of us know, but that she's not even remotely close to that got married earlier this year, and when she realized she wasn't invited she went on and on about it for weeks and even cried... CRIED!!! Although I do not like her, I keep my relationship with her professional especially because we have to work so closely.  My dilemma is she keeps asking me for details to my wedding.  My dress, the venue, the date, the colors, blah blah, blah.  I don't want to discuss anything regarding the wedding with her because I think its tacky to yak about it with someone I have no intentions on inviting.  When she asks me questions what can I say?  Keep in mind I am a horrible liar, so I find it difficult to just answer "Oh, I don't know" with a convincing expression.  What would be the proper way to handle this?
Posted by luvvtoobeme[/QUOTE]
You need to either get better at lying or invite her.

staceycaine

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[QUOTE]<strong>I'm with Whitsy in that the comment about her age really pissed me off.</strong>  Who are you to judge how she chooses to spend her time / her financial standing? To answer your question, however, do as Whitsy said and just answer the question and move on.  But I too would just give it up and invite her to keep the peace.
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

Samesies.

sherrbearr22

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[QUOTE]Oh also, as to why she's working and you just don't understand why rubs me the wrong way. Maybe she loves to have a job to go to instead of being at home today. Maybe she needs the money. Maybe she needs the healthcare. I have no idea why that bothered me, but it does. I guess because my 80 year old grandparents never dreamed they would need to work at 80ish, but the rising cost of healthcare forced them to take on menial jobs for medical benefits.
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]


All of this except I do know why it bothers me.  It's really judgemental and I feel bad that she still has to work and cannot enjoy retirement.  It's happening so much more and more these days.  You can't possibly know her financial situation and health care in this country is crap.  That's why my mom has to keep working.  But if she is working because she likes it, that's cool too and not something to pass judgement on.  Maybe you're having trouble seeing all of this clearly all the way up there on your high horse, op.

whitsy

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[QUOTE]Thanks for the reply and I'm sorry... I didn't mean to rub you the wrong way.  To explain why I'll never understand why she is still working is because she is currently collecting 2 pensions as well as social security... in addition to her salary (And her 95 year old husband also collects his pension and social security).  She openly tells any and everyone that she puts all of her salary into her 401k until it reaches its cap each year. Trust me its not for the money or for health care.   I could go on and on about her for hours, but I'd never waste that much time over the subject.
Posted by luvvtoobeme[/QUOTE]

Good for her that she doesn't need the money (and I'm confused how you know she doesn't need the health care) but still. If she's able bodies and enjoys coming to work (at least, not sitting at the house all day) who are you to judge?  It was just a really unnecessary part of your post, and just by this update, you're still not getting that it's not cool.

luvvtoobeme

Ummm... Kate I am nobody to judge how she choose to spend her time, nor did I judge.  All I said is don't ask me why she's still working... I'll never understand it.  I know if I were 85 and had as much money as she had I'd be spending many of my days on a cruise ship somewhere.  

Relax.

luvvtoobeme

Oh good grief! She says herself that she doesn't need to work!  You guys are coming at me saying I'm being judgmental.... what are you being calling me things and don't even know or understand the whole situation.  Let's see... Pot calling the kettle black. 

whitsy

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[QUOTE]Oh good grief! She says herself that she doesn't need to work!  You guys are coming at me saying I'm being judgmental.... what are you being calling me things and don't even know or understand the whole situation.  Let's see... Pot calling the kettle black. 
Posted by luvvtoobeme[/QUOTE]

Ok. Good luck with your situation.

luvvtoobeme

Yeah... right... thanks

tenofcups4me

Let's see...you're going to invite only one of two co-workers, even though you know the other--your 85-year-old co-worker, with whom you say you have a "pleasant" relationship--will probably cry over not being invited. Charming.

Kristin789

>> What would be the proper way to handle this?

Look, I would invite her.  But since you asked, here's your answer:

"Oh, Mrs. Jones, I want you to know that I am really excited to start my married life with Rob.  But my parents are hosting the wedding.  So they have made decisions regarding the guest list and other details.  i don't want you to think that I'm ungrateful but the guest list, for example, includes my parents' business associates and distant relatives and not all of my own friends and professional colleagues."

And if she pushes or cries or says she can pay for her own dinner or some other weird thing, say this:

"Well, my dad is home every night except Tuesdays after 6:30.  You could call him then."

luvvtoobeme

Never said I have a "pleasant" relationship with her.  I have a professional relationship with her. You might want to take a second to reread what was written before attempting to quote it.  I can't and won't invite everyone I have a professional relationship with to a wedding because they might cry if not invited.  My budget won't allow that.  My sincere apologies if that's not charming enough for you

luvvtoobeme

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[QUOTE] />> What would be the proper way to handle this? Look, I would invite her.  But since you asked, here's your answer: "Oh, Mrs. Jones, I want you to know that I am really excited to start my married life with Rob.  But my parents are hosting the wedding.  So they have made decisions regarding the guest list and other details.  i don't want you to think that I'm ungrateful but the guest list, for example, includes my parents' business associates and distant relatives and not all of my own friends and professional colleagues." And if she pushes or cries or says she can pay for her own dinner or some other weird thing, say this: "Well, my dad is home every night except Tuesdays after 6:30.  You could call him then."
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thank you Kristen. I appreciate your helpful advise on the actual issue.

</div>

whitsy

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[QUOTE]I don't have a lot of spine when it comes to stuff like this, so honestly, I'd just invite her. If it's going to cause THIS much drama, invite her. If your wedding is large, I promise you you will not see her more than the five seconds it takes to thank her for coming. If she continues to ask you questions about the wedding, I would answer them, but then change the subject. "My colors are blush and bashful, have you finished that report yet?"
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]

^^ I and other posters gave you advice on the "actual issue."

luvvtoobeme

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This co-worker probably thinks she's getting an invite... She's wrong : ^^ I and other posters gave you advice on the "actual issue."
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]

<div>If you recall, I thanked you for your reply already.  It was the first words of my initial reply to you.  But thanks again whitsy... Thanks.</div>

RaptorSLH

The age thing bothered me because OP pretty much said "Oh, I could never actually like her.  She's old."  Also, while she could just be working because she enjoys it, it's also possible she's lying about her financial stability to save face.  Even if she has expensive clothes or an expensive car, that could mean credit card debt, or she could be helping a family member, or medical troubles could have eaten her savings.  There seem to be lots of reasons to dislike this woman; age shouldn't be one of them.

As to the actual question, it may be time to bite the bullet and tell her that you appreciate the interest, but you're afraid you weren't able to invite everyone you wanted. Which is probably true, it's just that list never included her.  Would "everyone important to us" be better?  She's important, just not the way she wants to be.  It's not actually lying, it's diplomatic misdirection.

If you don't want to be that direct, it's time to get good at changing the subject.  "Oh, preparations are going fine, but I don't want to talk about me.  How about work related issue #67?" 

Either way, sounds like there's going to be some drama.  The choice seems to be over exactly when it erupts.

tenofcups4me

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[QUOTE]Never said I have a "pleasant" relationship with her.  I have a professional relationship with her. You might want to take a second to reread what was written before attempting to quote it.  I can't and won't invite everyone I have a professional relationship with to a wedding because they might cry if not invited.  My budget won't allow that.  My sincere apologies if that's not charming enough for you
Posted by luvvtoobeme[/QUOTE]

I didn't quote you before but I will now: "She is rude, fake, and constantly talks behind my back but is always "pleasant" to my face but I know its not sincere."

Look, you're doing something that you know is intentionally cruel. If that's what you want do, go ahead. But I certainly won't help you do it.

batfacepattermonth

It's cruel to not invite someone you don't like, and who isn't nice behind your back, to your wedding?

Luvv,  I think if you just act uncomfortable every time she brings it up, that will do the trick. When she makes a big deal and cries that she's not invited, just apologize that you couldn't invite everyone. It'll be rough to deal with her, but you don't have to invite someone you're not friends with. Good luck!

kmmssg

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[QUOTE] />> What would be the proper way to handle this? Look, I would invite her.  But since you asked, here's your answer: "Oh, Mrs. Jones, I want you to know that I am really excited to start my married life with Rob.  But my parents are hosting the wedding.  So they have made decisions regarding the guest list and other details.  i don't want you to think that I'm ungrateful but the guest list, for example, includes my parents' business associates and distant relatives and not all of my own friends and professional colleagues." And if she pushes or cries or says she can pay for her own dinner or some other weird thing, say this: "Well, my dad is home every night except Tuesdays after 6:30.  You could call him then."
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

Gosh, maybe tellinga white lie would be the right thing to do....not.  Kristin - for pete sakes - that is such bull from your timewarp.  I have never in my life met a bride who didn't have some control over her guest list and had to use her parents as scapegoats. 

susanv85

I dunno, I kind of feel like if you're in a small group at work, and you're inviting the majority of them, then you have to invite all of them.  I would just invite her to keep the peace, say hello during the night, and htat's it. How would you know if she would even say yes?

redheadfsu

OP, Kristen is a poster most people understand gives bad 1950's advice. Please don't tell that woman that crap excuse she gave you. FFS, she told you to tell the woman to call your father. Next time the co-worker asks a question answer it quickly and then, " I really appreciate all your interest, but I just wanted to let you know that we can't invite everyone we want to because of budget and space. I hope you can understand." However since you are inviting the one co-worker you are making it clear that you dislike her, so I would look for another job if you refuse to invite her. As work is going to be horrible from this point on.

StephBeanWed61502

So, as others have said, I do think you should suck it up and invite her, unless you have a significantly more extensive relationship outside of work with the other co-worker than you do with her (example: I have a co-worker who has become one of my best friends, and we hang out on the weekends at least once a month, as well as during and after work pretty frequently - it's obvious to all involved that we have a different relationship with each other than we do with any other coworker) that would justify including the other co-worker but not this elderly person.  To me, this is like saying "oh, I have this one cousin that I hate, so I'm not inviting her, but I am inviting this other cousin, because I don't hate him."  I get that these people are co-workers and not relatives, but to me, it always seems more polite to invite people in levels (i.e. - all the cousins, all the immediate co-workers, etc.).

That said, if you're set on excluding the elderly co-worker, why not a simple "Oh thanks for asking, but I'd rather not talk about wedding stuff at work."  If she pushes, you can always use "Well, we're getting married at XYZ location, but we're really focusing on keeping the wedding small - just family and a few close friends."  (Oh, and don't say that second 1 if your wedding is more than 100 or so people, unless you and your FI happen to have very, very large families.)

Mrs.B6302007

Maybe she's working because she enjoys the social interaction.  Maybe it keeps her busy and gives her something to do.  Maybe it keeps it from DYING.

ETA:  If giving an 80+ year old woman an invitation to your wedding will make her happy and bring her some enjoyment, then why not be gracious and do it?  For real, it could be one of the last nice evenings out in her life.

luvvtoobeme

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This co-worker probably thinks she's getting an invite... She's wrong : I didn't quote you before but I will now: "She is rude, fake, and constantly talks behind my back but is always "pleasant" to my face but I know its not sincere." Look, you're doing something that you know is intentionally cruel. If that's what you want do, go ahead. But I certainly won't help you do it.
Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]



Great quote! Good job. She IS rude and she IS fake. The truth is there have been several instances where I was on the verge of quitting because of things she's said and/or done. A lot of you seem to be hopped up on the fact that she's 85... As if that makes her some kind of saint. The truth is regardless of age she is not a nice person (she fakes it a lot but doesn't do such a great job.... Because almost everyone that works with her dislikes her for the same reason).
I'm not intentionally trying to hurt her. As much as I don't like her I would never do that. The bottom line is that she doesn't like me and I don't like her. I know she'd love to go so she could have a whole lot to gossip and talk about the Monday after the wedding, but that's not what I'm paying x amount of dollars per plate for. If we don't like each other why would I invite her to something so intimate to me???
And about me not being friends with her outside of work is not because I hate old people. I actually had to laugh at that. I have several elderly family members that I love dearly that will be in attendance. The point I was making was that outside of work we would not be in the same circle of friends and she's not related to me, so there's no reason we'd even know each other or be close.

redheadfsu

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This co-worker probably thinks she's getting an invite... She's wrong : Great quote! Good job. She IS rude and she IS fake. The truth is there have been several instances where I was on the verge of quitting because of things she's said and/or done. A lot of you seem to be hopped up on the fact that she's 85... As if that makes her some kind of saint. The truth is regardless of age she is not a nice person (she fakes it a lot but doesn't do such a great job.... Because almost everyone that works with her dislikes her for the same reason). I'm not intentionally trying to hurt her. As much as I don't like her I would never do that. The bottom line is that she doesn't like me and I don't like her. I know she'd love to go so she could have a whole lot to gossip and talk about the Monday after the wedding, but that's not what I'm paying x amount of dollars per plate for. If we don't like each other why would I invite her to something so intimate to me??? And about me not being friends with her outside of work is not because I hate old people. I actually had to laugh at that. I have several elderly family members that I love dearly that will be in attendance. The point I was making was that outside of work we would not be in the same circle of friends and she's not related to me, so there's no reason we'd even know each other or be close.
Posted by luvvtoobeme[/QUOTE]

That's fine and all, but you ONLY have two co-workers that you work closely with. You are choosing to invite one of them. The other one will of course know you hate her & cause drama, especially if she is a drama llama already. I don't care about her age, but seriously you only have two co-workers? Either invite both or neither.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This co-worker probably thinks she's getting an invite... She's wrong : Great quote! Good job. She IS rude and she IS fake. The truth is there have been several instances where I was on the verge of quitting because of things she's said and/or done. <strong>A lot of you seem to be hopped up on the fact that she's 85... As if that makes her some kind of saint.</strong> The truth is regardless of age she is not a nice person (she fakes it a lot but doesn't do such a great job.... Because almost everyone that works with her dislikes her for the same reason). I'm not intentionally trying to hurt her. As much as I don't like her I would never do that. The bottom line is that she doesn't like me and I don't like her. I know she'd love to go so she could have a whole lot to gossip and talk about the Monday after the wedding, but that's not what I'm paying x amount of dollars per plate for. If we don't like each other why would I invite her to something so intimate to me??? And about me not being friends with her outside of work is not because I hate old people. I actually had to laugh at that. I have several elderly family members that I love dearly that will be in attendance. The point I was making was that outside of work we would not be in the same circle of friends and she's not related to me, so there's no reason we'd even know each other or be close.
Posted by luvvtoobeme[/QUOTE]


Her age doesn't make her a saint but it does earn her respect.  To invite one coworker and not the other in a close proximity office is rude because the wedding discussions will come up.  If you wanted to invite 1 person out of a 25 person office, that's different.  If you don't want to invite her then you probably shouldn't invite the other CW either.

luvvtoobeme

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This co-worker probably thinks she's getting an invite... She's wrong : Her age doesn't make her a saint but it does earn her respect.  To invite one coworker and not the other in a close proximity office is rude because the wedding discussions will come up.  If you wanted to invite 1 person out of a 25 person office, that's different.  If you don't want to invite her then you probably shouldn't invite the other CW either.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]



But the coworker that's invited, she and I are very close even outside of work. We talk on the phone and see each other socially. Not being invited to a wedding is not being disrespected. Its life. My father is not Daddy Warbucks. I'm already not inviting friends and family that I actually want to be there because we have to slim down the guestlist.... I guess I'm disrespecting them too huh? C'mon.