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Celles

Calypso/Jasmineh -- I'm in the "cute, but unnecessary" camp when it comes to bathroom baskets.  But I know I'd be annoyed if the little toiletries I'd put out to see my guests through any mid-wedding emergencies were mysteriously finding their way en masse into your travel bag.  It's not a capital offense, but it is lame.

I'm glad you have a sense of humor about it, though.  I do like you for that. 

(I know, I know, I'm doing it wrong!)

Emily -- I don't think believing in ghosts is any more or less strange than believing in gods and demons.  That said, I'm an atheist. 

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : If the bride is requiring specific shoes and jewelry, then she should pay. Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE So, if I don't care what shoes they wear, I don't have to pay for them? This is really boggling my mind. I'm not paying for the dresses and we picked those together. I'm not really picking their shoes either. I'm just asking for a certain color.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]



I gave my BM's a color and they picked their own style of whatever they wanted and paid for them on their own.  Cute picture by the way Courtney. 

ohwhynot

I have to flame MissCourtney for being generally annoying but mostly for suggesting that a couple say "Wishing Well Reception" to get the message across that they only want money. 

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]I flame Sagenhaft for being friends with someone who is open about having sex with his cat. I'm sorry, but who you choose to associate with says something about who you are. I also flame her for not thinking it's abuse because the cat isn't suffering psychological harm. Did the cat tell her this?
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]
 um. WHAT?

Calypso1977

yes, my knot is slow too.  thought it was my computer, and rebooted, and no luck.

georgia_bride09

[QUOTE] So, if I don't care what shoes they wear, I don't have to pay for them? This is really boggling my mind. I'm not paying for the dresses and we picked those together. I'm not really picking their shoes either. I'm just asking for a certain color.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

When you agree to be a Bm, you basically sign up to buy a dress. But not all the other stupid crap that a Bridezilla could think of.

Why do you care what color shoes thay wear? Because your pictures will be ruined if they wear different colors? I'm confused why people care about shoes at all. This is also in reference to shannon's friend, the cowboy boot girl.

september's bride

Yes, the knot is taking its sweet ass time today.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]That is what I meant, Mery.  But I was joking.  Totally joking. 
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

<div>Were you, Tide? Because last time I saw you, you definitely weren't wearing underwear.  ;-)</div>

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]When you agree to be a Bm, you basically sign up to buy a dress. But not all the other stupid crap that a Bridezilla could think of. Why do you care what color shoes thay wear? Because your pictures will be ruined if they wear different colors? I'm confused why people care about shoes at all. This is also in reference to shannon's friend, the cowboy boot girl.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

Totally agree.....some of the stuff bride's require is strange especially if they aren't willing to pay for it themselves.

Moneypenny424

I just assumed most people suggested a color shoe for BMs.  I don't think that is out of bounds or wrong (and not just because I did it).  I do however, think it should be a normal color that people have or would want:  black, silver, gold. 

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]When you agree to be a Bm, you basically sign up to buy a dress. But not all the other stupid crap that a Bridezilla could think of. Why do you care what color shoes thay wear? Because your pictures will be ruined if they wear different colors? I'm confused why people care about shoes at all. This is also in reference to shannon's friend, the cowboy boot girl.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

I was actually going to say that I agree with this for so many other reasons! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

eastunder1

I thought Mandys thread trying to call out Sucrets for making a comment about her was super f*cking lame.  Why not put it in the thread where the original comment occurred?  What Sucrets said was sort of redonk, but making some drama llama thread about it far eclipsed the original offense.   It was also funny that Sucrets and her "brigade" didn't even bother to respond to it, which made the whole thing that much more stupid. 

laladypoet

I just want to go on record and say that the people who have sex with animals? I hope they die. that kind of sickness need not be around.

laladypoet

and in which thread is femlin a bad friend? or whatever?

ohwhynot

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[QUOTE]I thought Mandys thread trying to call out Sucrets for making a comment about her was super f*cking lame.  Why not put it in the thread where the original comment occurred?  What Sucrets said was sort of redonk, but making some drama llama thread about it far eclipsed the original offense.   It was also funny that Sucrets and her "brigade" didn't even bother to respond to it, which made the whole thing seems that much more stupid. 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

I have to agree with this one. 

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I would be completely irritated if that was the only "gift" I received from a bride.  BECAUSE ITS NOT A GIFT.  It's a photo prop for getting ready pictures.  Thats no different then trying to pass off the wedding jewelry as a gift to me.  If you want to get me a gift, that's great and I will be appreciative.  But if you're going to give me something YOU (you being bride) want and try to act like it's for me as a token of your thanks, I'd prefer you just didn't bother.   Just have them there and call it what it is.  Also - Is the knot running at a turtle crawl for anyone else?
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

I'm always curious about the jewelry question because I think being given stunning pieces of jewelry is such a gift.  I've received some of my favorite pieces some of the times I've been a bridesmaid such as topaz earrings, sapphire toe ring, etc.  I'm just asking because I have snowflake sterling silver made with flecks of diamonds for my bridesmaids.  I don't think that's a bad gift or not being giving enough. 

shannonalise

I think it's okay for a bride to say she wants a particular color, though I didn't - I just told my BMs to wear whatever they thought would look best/be most comfortable (but we also had floor-length dresses..) but for a bride to dictate a particular item beyond the dress (cowboy boots! particular jewelry, etc.) and not offer to pay for it is in poor taste, IMO.

eastunder1

I flame Lala for not being here enough.  Whats the sh*t all about, lala?!

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]I also feel like my wardrobe is still way smaller than other people's due to having a uniform for 7 years in middle/high school. I just never caught up to the sheer amount of stuff that everyone else has.<strong>I also now flame a whole bunch of people in the ouija board thread who believe not only in ghosts but that something that is basically a board game has magical powers to talk to said ghosts. I just don't see how normal, smart people believe in things like that (although apparently they do?).
</strong>Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

Well, I don't believe how seemingly normal, smart people believe that an invisible man lives in the clouds, fathered a son with a mortal who died and then came back to life, and supposedly cares about what us mortals do with our life on Earth.  But, they do.  And I don't judge them for their beliefs.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I don't like to wear skirts because my thighs chafe. I get around it by wearing biker shorts, basically, but I prefer pants because of that.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

I do hear that, and I have some tricks for that as well. I wouldn't wear a skirt if I were running a 5k. But I have a desk job, so my mobility is fairly limited in the day time. If I have to walk somewhere for lunch, I'm more likely to wear flats vs. heels than pants vs. and skirt, though. Depending on the day.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]I thought Mandys thread trying to call out Sucrets for making a comment about her was super f*cking lame.  Why not put it in the thread where the original comment occurred?  What Sucrets said was sort of redonk, but making some drama llama thread about it far eclipsed the original offense.   It was also funny that Sucrets and her "brigade" didn't even bother to respond to it, which made the whole thing seems that much more stupid. 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]
where?

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Were you, Tide? Because last time I saw you, you definitely weren't wearing underwear.  ;-)
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

WELL HELL MANDA.  That's the last time I let you see me when I get out of the shower.  Hrumph. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I'm always curious about the jewelry question because I think being given stunning pieces of jewelry is such a gift.  I've received some of my favorite pieces some of the times I've been a bridesmaid such as topaz earrings, sapphire toe ring, etc.  I'm just asking because I have snowflake sterling silver made with flecks of diamonds for my bridesmaids.  I don't think that's a bad gift or not being giving enough. 
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

It depends on your BMs, though. I personally don't wear much jewelry. I have a few necklaces I wear (maybe once every 2 weeks) because they were given as gifts and they match some of my clothes. If the rewearability is high and they like jewelry, fine. If it's costume jewelry in your wedding colors, no thanks.

I trust my BMs to accessorize themselves. They're wearing cocktail length dresses and I still dont' care what shoes they wear. I also think my 5'8" BM will wear heels and my 5' 3" BM will wear flats. Don't care!

mandysmear

Any excuse to flame me hey east?  Haha. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I thought Mandys thread trying to call out Sucrets for making a comment about her was super f*cking lame.  Why not put it in the thread where the original comment occurred?  What Sucrets said was sort of redonk, but making some drama llama thread about it far eclipsed the original offense.   It was also funny that Sucrets and her "brigade" didn't even bother to respond to it, which made the whole thing that much more stupid. 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

Count me on this bandwagon. Sucrets didn't even really call out Mandy specifically. Holy overreaction.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : WELL HELL MANDA.  That's the last time I let you see me when I get out of the shower.  Hrumph. 
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

<div>Aw maaaaaan! But... but I brought you cupcakes and everything!</div>

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It depends on your BMs, though. I personally don't wear much jewelry. I have a few necklaces I wear (maybe once every 2 weeks) because they were given as gifts and they match some of my clothes. If the rewearability is high and they like jewelry, fine. If it's costume jewelry in your wedding colors, no thanks. I trust my BMs to accessorize themselves. They're wearing cocktail length dresses and I still dont' care what shoes they wear. I also think my 5'8" BM will wear heels and my 5' 3" BM will wear flats. Don't care!
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

I guess this makes sense.  Maybe the jewelry thing didn't occur to me cause all of my girls love jewelry too.  I'll never get the shoe thing.  I asked them to just have something on their feet in a color that didn't clash with the dress.  Who is going to look at their feet??

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]I flame Lala for not being here enough.  Whats the sh*t all about, lala?!
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]
I'VE BEEN HANDLING GROWN-FOLKSES BIDNESS!
not really,but I've been busy.

AdeleDazeem

I know this is from another board, but I have to flame it anyway.  It's just too good.  Or bad.  Or just freaking hilarious.

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[QUOTE]I had a similar situation where a person I asked to be a BM didn't really act like a friend let alone a BM.  What happened was I said <strong>"What I need for this one event in my life is for people in my wedding party to be all about me.  That means making an effort to see me, call me, ask about the wedding, ask if there is anything you can do to help, purchase your attire, and seem excited.  If you can't do this for whatever reason, then I totally understand.  But I need this from all my bridesmaids and I deserve to have what I want on my wedding day."</strong>  She ended up stepping down and not being a BM but came as a guest.  I was relieved but I think she regretted it because the WP had a ton more fun and her decision definitely did affect our friendship.  Hope this helps.
Posted by <a href="http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/user/default.aspx?membershipid=6466770533692669&plckUserId=6466770533692669" target="_blank" class="username_knot">aschabes</a>[/QUOTE]

JessAndTrav

I honestly didn't think that the boot request was that big of a deal, possibly because I'm from Texas, but it's not like I have cowboy boots in my closet.

But someone managed to fine $30 boots at Target, and IMO, that's not any more than what you would pay for regular BM shoes that you probably wouldn't wear again anyway, so I don't know why it's still an issue.