Confessions/irritations (rational or otherwise) or whatever...

mari0225

Ugh another irritation, since CW isn't coming she wants me to take a binder and other stuff to her boss (My boss's boss) what am I a pack mule? I'm going to the Cheesecake Factory to enjoy myself not talk about work or bring binders and crap!

Loopyseven

RRW - I can see how that could have evolved.  And was probably over before your poor FI even knew what was happening.

angelstar975

Loopy, I haven't, because in the past, I've found jobs pretty quickly. Since I'm not quite ready to move on, it wouldn't make much sense to apply to jobs just yet. I know I can get another job, but I've really never bonded to any of the kids like I have with these kids, so that's a last resort. I'm going to see where things are in about 2 weeks and then make a decision about what I have to do.

ErinG93

I will probably DD this, but I'm really irritated with my cousin.

She's been living with us since the beginning of May. She is SO messy. I don't know if I expect too much, but I'm going insane with her messes. She'll watch me pick up her stuff, put away her makeup, do her dishes, etc. and does nothing. I don't know if she just doesn't understand what it means to have a clean house, or if she's lazy.

mari0225

RW-Ugh that really sucks, your FI didn't even know what hit him. Yeah I can see how now it's too late to really say anything especially with your FMIL knowing and agreeing that they should be going as well.

mica178

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[QUOTE]You okay, Mica?
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm okay.  I had lunch with the chief of my division yesterday, and she told me not to worry at all.  I have lunch with my department chair tomorrow.  And the CEO of one of my clinics is asking if I want to leave the university and work just for this one building on campus that has a lot of outside funding.  </div><div>
</div><div>But... I don't know what to do.  Healthcare is changing rapidly, Florida is going broke, and in the last week, one of the people in my division quit, and another was FIRED for not billing enough.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't know if you know much about medicine, but doctors don't get fired unless they do something irresponsible or illegal.  They can get reduced pay if they don't see enough patients, but they don't get FIRED.  And especially not in academic medicine at a state university.  These jobs are supposed to be ridiculously stable.  So while everyone tells me that I shouldn't worry because I'm part of a program the dean of the medical school likes to brag about, I worry, rational or not.  Because even if I have a job, things about the job will change in ways that will make my life less comfortable and that could jeopardize the quality of the care I give my patients.  :/</div>

ootmother2

erin, ask her if she's willing to contribute for a cleaning lady or does she want to pick up after herself
There she has a choice

MyUserName1

Erin- can you just start piling all of her schitt on her bed instead of cleaning it up?  Cleaning it up for her just ensures she'll never do it herself.

Mica- that sucks.  a lot.  Are there any cons to switching to the clinic with the cash?

angelstar975

Erin, I definitely don't think you're expecting too much from her... she should know to pick up after herself in someone else's home. How old is she? How long is she going to be there?

MyUserName1

SM- that's how I gain weight too.  It's fucking irritating.  It's why I wear dresses 90% of the time.  

P.S. we always referred to SMs as S&Ms instead.  because I'm twelve.

mica178

Oh, also, I feel irrationally irritated at my MIL.  She pressured H and I to move to Tampa to be near her, and I took a huge paycut to come here.  H hates his job, and my job is changing with the stupid state budget issues and healthcare overhaul.  I sort of feel like I'd be in a happier, better place at my old job (that I hated but paid well and had me in an area of the country that I loved).  At least H loved his job in CA.

I love MIL, but when she drops by to give me her discarded furniture (unsolicited) or bugs H and me to visit when we're exhausted, all I can think is that she is the reason why we're at our current crappy jobs.  Even though I know that H and I are adults and moved to FL on our own accord.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]Hi B!!  How've you been?  Are you off for the summer yet?
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]


Yep, been officially off since Tuesday.  Am working on ELL classes online though.

mari0225

Ranch, ugh that's just ridiculous!

mica178

I don't think my fancy clinic can support all my patients' needs without the university's support.  And if I spend all my time in the fancy clinic, the university won't give that support.  

Also, part of what makes my job worth the crappy pay is being able to teach and do research.  My fancy clinic would want me to see patients full time on the same salary (which is much lower than I'd make in private practice working full time).  If I was going to see patients full time, I would rather leave the university and start making a grown-up salary again.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/irritations (rational or otherwise) or whatever... : That is balls! At least I'm not the only one.  I've finally resigned myself to having each type of wardrobe in two sizes: casual, dressy, business, comfy/pajamas.  Maybe I'll look for some good dresses today.  I've never owned many because I've never had a job where it was practical to wear them before this one. 
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>It's a compliment.  a twisted compliment, but one none the less. </div>

rsanna

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[QUOTE]Here's another WR irritation. Imagine me taking a phone call. R: "Good afternoon this is Rachers" Weirdo: "Hi I'm looking to speak to BossMan" R: "I'm sorry, he's on another call, may I take a message for you?" Weirdo: "Well how long is he going to be on the phone?" How TF am I supposed to know how long a damn phone call takes? People do that all the time when I say BossMan is in a meeting. How longs the meeting? ONE MIIIIIIIILLLION YEARS.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

I'm not surprised by this.  I work reception and I have people ask me that all the time.  I've had people ask me to get up and go interrupt one of my CW's calls and tell him/her that so-and-so is on the line and needs to talk to you right now.

I also love when someone has gone to lunch or isn't at their desk and people ask me when they will be back or where are they.  Umm, I am sitting at a desk in a 3-story building.  I don't have x-ray vision to see and know where the specific person you want to talk to is right now. 

MyUserName1

Mica, that's a bummer.  Are you in Tampa or near Tampa?  My dad is a head honcho in emergency medicine in Pinellas. 

ErinG93

I wish I could pile the stuff on her bed, but I have a feeling it would just stay there and stink.

She has a lease on an apartment that started June 1, so I'm hoping she's slowly moving out? Maybe? We'll see. 

tracym77

I've got tons (2nd ultra crappy day in a row) but here are the top ones:

Rational irritation: the local dealer quoting us $850 to replace my windshield. I paid less than $500 at the dealer in CA when my car was brand new. H even replaced a windshield on his mom's Range Rover for $400. He got some other nondealer quotes for $200-350 so we'll go with that. H literally laughed at the guy when he said $850. Wtf is so special about your glass or labor, dude? Such an obvious ripoff.

FB irritation 1: H's friend's wife. The one who posted every single time she threw up...she just posted a video of her big bare belly moving from the baby. Make it stop!

FB irritation 2: Couples who have joint accounts. Like John N Jane Doe. Why? I'm seeing them everywhere. Joint email accounts bug me too.

Confession: Nature sounds here creep me out. Cicadas almost made me cry the other day. H had to tell me what that "weird noise" was. Lol. Frogs croaking also give me the willies.

mica178

MUN1 -- I'm in Tampa.  I have a standing job offer in Pinellas county, if I want to give up my teaching, which I'm not yet ready to do, at least not without talking with H.

MyUserName1

ITA your FB irritations.  I had a high school friend's wife who turned his account into their joint FB account and deleted all of his female friends. Biiitch.

MyUserName1

Pinellas is superior to Tampa :P

If you need an in with the Medical Director's office, I'm your girl.

misshart00

I have an irritation. H's 13 year old brother has been getting in trouble at school and finally got expelled. So H's mom keeps asking him if we would let brother come stay with us for the summer. Um, no. Not our responsibility. And we're newlyweds. And she was asking before we moved out of the 600 square feet apartment. Now she goes on about how we have an extra bedroom since we bought a three bedroom house and he can just come stay with us for several weeks. Ugh. I'm so frustrated!

amyb140

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[QUOTE]Mica, that's a bummer.  Are you in Tampa or near Tampa?  My dad is a head honcho in emergency medicine in Pinellas. 
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
My dad's the same, but in southern Indiana.  Does your dad ever come to Chicago for conferences?  Mine's here about 4 times a year - I see him more here than I do at home!

Lizzieyounce

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[QUOTE]I confess that I have a huge sweet tooth. I've been doing well with the eating healthy & trying to lose weight. But, aunt flow is right around the corner and I just had a meltdown. I scavanged my fridge & pantry until I found 2 boston cream pie toaster strudels. Yeah, I'm not proud.
Posted by SkettiHeadie[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Sometimes, you just have to feed aunt flo...this is why I keep truffles around.</div><div>
</div><div>
</div>

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]I confess that I have a huge sweet tooth. I've been doing well with the eating healthy & trying to lose weight. But, aunt flow is right around the corner and I just had a meltdown. I scavanged my fridge & pantry until I found 2 boston cream pie toaster strudels. Yeah, I'm not proud.
Posted by SkettiHeadie[/QUOTE]

<div>You can come sit on my sofa. </div>

starrynight84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/irritations (rational or otherwise) or whatever... : Well, I used to.  I was the Production SM for a regional theatre when I joined TK many moons ago.  Now, I am the business manager for the Theatre dept at the state's flagship University. Much better hours and better pay, but I feel very very old some days.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I bet the hours are way better, especially since you don't have to have tech weeks! Do you ever miss stage managing?</div>

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/irritations (rational or otherwise) or whatever... : My dad's the same, but in southern Indiana.  Does your dad ever come to Chicago for conferences?  Mine's here about 4 times a year - I see him more here than I do at home!
Posted by amyb140[/QUOTE]

<div>Honestly, I don't know for sure, but I doubt it.  He usually sticks to the ones in FL as far as I know.</div>

ErinG93

I'm also irritated with my allergies. Usually if I take my singulair in the morning I'm good to go. Today I have watery eyes, sniffles, and feel so out of it. I blame the little piece of cotton fluff that blew into my eye at lunch.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/irritations (rational or otherwise) or whatever... : How on earth does she expect to monitor everything he says to them and catch him whoring around if he doesn't have a private FB account with his female friends on it for her to hack? And with that, I have to actually do some work so I can go buy my fat pants.  Be back later, y;all!
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I know, right?  idiot girl.</div>