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Whats the worst thing your parents have ever done to you?

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  • My parents have been fantastic to me. I guess the worst thing was having my dad tell me that he would pay for my Master's degree, then not following through. And in the larger scheme of things, I do realize just how lucky I am.
  • My grandad remarried after my grandma died when I was 8. I became really close to my new grandma, I think I was more willing to accept her than other folks in my family.

    She was diagnosed with liver cancer when I was 16 and actually died about a month after my grandad. Before she died, she asked me to take care of her cat. She was hugely attached to this cat, she had had it for 13 years or something.

    After my grandma died we brought the cat to the house and my parents made me keep it in the basement b/c it was having incontinence issues. About a week after Patches came home with us, I came home from school and he was gone. My parents took him to the shelter or had him put down (I'm not sure which) and didn't tell me in advance what they were doing.

    We already had 2 cats, and a few weeks after this, my mom spent $300 on a six-week old himalayan kitten.

    It's the one thing I've never forgiven them for.
  • I broke my wrist once while diving at a meet out of state.  My mom didn't believe that it really did hurt because the next event I had she knew I liked the least, so she made me compete in two more events the next day with a broken wrist.  Driving home she woke me up to ask why my hand was purple.  UMMMMM DUH - my wrist hurts. 

    She drove me to the hospital when we got back into town and felt awful she hadn't believed me. 
  • My mom told me that my friend had died over email while I was at college.  The email read: "Sorry to tell you this, but Jan died last night."

    In her defense, my grandmother was dying of cancer at the time, and died the next day, so she was distraught, but it was a horrible way to find out.
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  • My mom's never done anything that bad.  The worst would probably be making me buy Depends for my grandmother when she was going downhill because "she's 'fat' and at least since they're size Large, people will know you're not buying them for yourself".

    My dad?  Sat me outside alone on his porch at 2am to wait for my mom to pick me up when I was, like, 8 years old because I got homesick in the middle of the night.

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  • My dad threw a sandwich at me once.  Got mayo all over my shirt. 
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    [QUOTE]My dad?  Sat me outside alone on his porch at 2am to wait for my mom to pick me up when I was, like, 8 years old because I got homesick in the middle of the night.
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
    Your dad is a fucking bastard. Who DOES that shiit to their own child?!?
  • They put me in a reed basket and floated me down the river.

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  • Depends on how you look at it. Could have been the worst thing, probably was the best thing. My mom went to work one night and when my dad, sister and I went to pick her up, she had left with a truck driver. Never to be heard from again. I eventually met her again. She trashed talked my dad. Haven't spoken to her since.
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  • One time when my sister and I were little, we had been naughty.  I don't remember why, probably just bickering with each other.  My mom made us each eat a spoonfull of this nasty meat (ham maybe?) sandwich spread that was in the fridge that we both had decided we hated.

    It was the most disgusting thing I've ever eaten, and still shudder when I see it in the deli case at grocery stores.
  • I hit my head on a rim once and I was crying but my mom said I was faking it. But on the other hand, My dad was home and he told me I needed stitches, but since I cried and told him I didn't want any, he never made me go.

    When I was little, I got off the bus and noone was home, my dad forgot what time I got off the bus and it was the middle of winter, so I sat there crying. The neat part is that, we used to have two german shepards and they sat on either side of me until someone picked me up.
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  • My parents really are truly awesome, and I love them dearly. I've never been able to let this go though. One time my mom and dad were having a knock down drag out fight right before we were supposed to leave to go to my grandmother's (4 hours away) for Thanksgiving. My brother and I were taking a seperate car from my parents. I somehow managed to piss my mom off while she was already pissed at my dad. My brother and I were getting ready to walk out the door, and in my mom's rage, she yelled "I hope you both die in a car wreck." I had to read Hamlet over Thanksgiving break, so I had a copy of The Complete Works of Shakespeare in my hand. I threw it at her. It hit the wall right above her head and made a huge dent in the wall. I made my fucking point though.

    That's the only really awful thing my mom ever said to me.
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  • My parents haven't really done anything that bad to me, at least on purpose.  I mean, they've definitely done some things that I didn't agree with, but their intentions have always been good.  Except for when I was 3 years old and my dad grabbed my balloon and let it fly away at Disney World and then laughed about it while I cried.  He always says that he doesn't remember (and that I couldn't remember either because of my age), but that if he did that then there must have been germs on it or something.  Yeah right, Dad.  Yeah right.
  • My parents refused to help with my college tuition, but are happily paying for my sister's six years at one of the priciest schools in the country. It turned out fine, and life would be a lot different if I'd gone to my dream school instead of a state school, but I just don't get the double standard. Mom's argument was that I'd be an engineer when I got out and be able to pay back my own loans.

    My sister is in pharmacy school. How is it that she wouldn't be able to pay back her loans?
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    I had a pretty good childhood growing up, so nothing really sticks out in my mind. 

    My parent's got divorced after being married 25 years.  Dad remarried to a great lady with 2 grown daughters (both married and with kids).  Whenever Dad and stepmom plan a big dinner for holidays/birthdays/etc., they spend months getting their schedules in check with her daughters, then my sister and I would get a phone call saying that we are "more than welcome to come."

    Really?  I'm "more than welcome to come" to a Father's Day dinner at MY house that I grew up in?  Thanks.

    They have gotten better over the past year, but it still hurts.
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  • I could write a novel about the awful things my mom has said to me.  She says the most hurtful, insulting things out of anger that I can't imagine a mother saying to a child.
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  • My parents never did anything that comes to mind.  The only thing I can think of that was traumatizing then was this: I was around 8 or 9 and saw an unmarked bowl on the table that looked like whip cream.  I asked if I could have a spoonful and my mom said yes (knowing very well I thought it was whip cream and it wasn't).  It was sour cream.  I hated it then and still can't go near it now. 
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    [QUOTE]My parents never did anything that comes to mind.  The only thing I can think of that was traumatizing then was this: I was around 8 or 9 and saw an unmarked bowl on the table that looked like whip cream.  I asked if I could have a spoonful and my mom said yes (knowing very well I thought it was whip cream and it wasn't).  It was sour cream.  I hated it then and still can't go near it now. 
    Posted by andressfrank[/QUOTE]

    My mom did that to me, but with unsweetened chocolate.  YUCK.
  • When I was 16, my mom and I got into an arguement over my having received an "incomplete" in my French class on my report card after having missed a test while out of town on a family vacation.

    In all of my mom's glory (and mine too, I suppose) she made the comment to me while I was attempting to defend myself that she was going to smack me if I didn't stop being a brat. So, I told her to hit me instead of threatening me. And she did. She backhanded me across the face--giving me a black eye, leaving three finger black and blue marks on the side of my face, and busting my lip. I went to hit her back, and before I could, my dad grabbed me and held me down while my mom continued to hit me more. Needless to say, when I went to school the next day, it only took 3 class periods before I was removed from school because of the bruises, and my mom was arrested. I had to stay with my aunt for a week before I was allowed to go home again.

    It took years before my mom and I were at a place where we were okay with each other again.


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  • Hmm.  Let's see.  I got kicked out of the house when I was 15 because I hid a box of tampons in my room because it was the only way I could get them to buy enough for me. 

    I got kicked out of the house again when I was 17 because one of my friends drove his SUV through our yard.  My father also tried to get that kid in trouble by calling his mom and lying to her and telling her that he was driving past 9PM with a limited license, and he was mad that I didn't call the mom to back up his lie. 

    I was grounded "for a year" because some of my guy friends came over and came in through the basement door so as not to have to deal with my psychotic father. 

    One night when I was 16, my parents never came home from work.  I called them and waited around the house for several hours.  It was Friday night, and I wasn't staying at home just because my idiot parents couldn't be reached, so I left them a note telling them I was going to town with my boyfriend.  I came home, an hour before curfew, to my seething father.  He forbid me to see my boyfriend and made me "break up" with him because I hadn't left a detailed enough note letting them know where I was.  Meanwhile, they had gone out after work and not bothered to call and tell their children where they were or when they would be home.

    My dad also tried to make me quit my job one time as punishment for something horrible I did (made an A- on a test?  Not picking up his cigs on my way home from school?  who knows).  Then he realized that that would mean he might have to give me lunch money or buy school supplies and he quickly changed his mind.

  • When I was a junior in high school, I asked to have my best friend spend the night.  I was so excited about having her over.  I was also really nervous, because my dad is crazy (just likes to make a spectacle).  I was hoping he would just be normal for one night.  Turns out my fears were justified.  He went off on this yelling rampage in front of her.  I was mortified.  So embarrassing and sad.  I think she went home after that.  I think he did it on purpose.

    Anyway, that about about 19 years ago.  Typing it out still makes me queasy.  I haven't shared that story with many people and my friend never mentioned it.  I saw her recently and the subject of my dad came up.  I asked her, "do you remember that time...", she had no clue what I was talking about.  Made me feel a little better.

    That probably seems minor, but it really scarred me for awhile.
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    [QUOTE]My parents never did anything that comes to mind.  The only thing I can think of that was traumatizing then was this: I was around 8 or 9 and saw an unmarked bowl on the table that looked like whip cream.  I asked if I could have a spoonful and my mom said yes (knowing very well I thought it was whip cream and it wasn't).  It was sour cream.  I hated it then and still can't go near it now. 
    Posted by andressfrank[/QUOTE]

    My mother made me eat a clove once. A whole clove. Just to try it. I won't cook with cloves to this day.

    You know, I think her cooking was pretty much chemical warfare all-around. There are so many foods I'm just now discovering aren't horrible.
  • I'm going to say the BEST things my parents have ever done for me:

    They supported me through school (Catholic k-12 and college) but I had to have a full-time job, and they were NOT helicopter parents. They didn't even know where I was for most of my young childhood and so I ran free on the farm and was creative and imaginative and resourceful. It was very good parenting in the long run although people would scoff at it now as unsafe.

    Sorry to change subjects, I just think these things end up being a competition for who had it worse and that's NMS! Go on!
  • Oh, he grounded my sister for a year one time because her car ran out of gas.  Why did her car run out of gas?  Because my asshole father had driven around in it until it was empty.  She didn't realize it was out of gas until she was in the car on her way to school.  And she really was literally grounded for a year.
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    [QUOTE]I'm going to say the BEST things my parents have ever done for me: They supported me through school (Catholic k-12 and college) but I had to have a full-time job, and they were NOT helicopter parents. They didn't even know where I was for most of my young childhood and so I ran free on the farm and was creative and imaginative and resourceful. It was very good parenting in the long run although people would scoff at it now as unsafe. Sorry to change subjects, I just think these things end up being a competition for who had it worse and that's NMS! Go on!
    Posted by evabee[/QUOTE]

    I don't know. Maybe some folks view it as a competition. For me as an expectant parent this stuff is actually interesting to read. The clearly abusive stuff is obviously just sad, but some of the other stuff is surprising. It's wild to hear what sticks with people, like cocoreo's balloon story or the sour cream tasting...I'd never imagine that sticking with a kid as a traumatic event. It makes me reflect on what kind of parent I want to be.
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    [QUOTE]Oh, he grounded my sister for a year one time because her car ran out of gas.  Why did her car run out of gas?  Because my asshole father had driven around in it until it was empty.  She didn't realize it was out of gas until she was in the car on her way to school.  And she really was literally grounded for a year.
    Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

    Your parents make mine look high-class. Wow.
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  • evabee- you just made my hang over worse.   If my parents had made me go to Catholic school for 15 years, I would be listing it in this thread as one of the worst things they did to me.  Congrats, you won this competition of who had it worst.
  • My mom wouldn't let me play with my toys as a kid because she had them organized in a particular way in the toy box.  Sometimes I could sneak out one of the ones on top, but if she found out she'd scream at me.
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  • Hmm, see I grew up with a mother who is actually crazy. Like, diagnosable crazy- not just you're-annoying-me crazy. She had me because she was a single mom with two kids and she needed to marry my dad for his money but he wanted a third kid. So... I was part of a business deal, essentially. The truly sick part is that I know this because she used to tell me all the time when I was growing up. This is in addition to the frequent throwing things at my head (a ceramic bell comes to mind) and the time she pushed me down the stairs when I was 15? 16? I left her house the moment I graduated High School and never went back. Amazingly, I still talk to her. Our relationship is a bazillion times better now that I don't live near her and I can hang up on her whenever I need to.
  • Sorry to change subjects, I just think these things end up being a competition for who had it worse and that's NMS! Go on!

    Then why did you reply? I've got no parent horror stories either, and I was rasied much the same way you were, so I just read this thread and didn't post. Start a "Best thing your parents ever did for you" post if you don't like this one.
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