Families in different countries - where do we get married?

Kesdra Maikoa

My fiance and I live in the same town as his family in the UK, but I'm from Canada, and all my family live there. I had thought of having a quiet registry office ceremony just the two of us, then having two receptions/parties - one in Canada when we're scheduled to vacation there next summer, and one here in the UK, but, after announcing our engagement to our families, this plan got rather complicated. 
Both fathers seem to be fine with that idea - neither wants to have to travel, but both mothers have said that they really want to be at the ceremony and don't mind traveling, and I know they would be very hurt to be excluded.
The obvious solution would be to have a destination wedding and have everyone travel to be there, but doing that would mean that my fiance and I would have to cancel our plans to go back to Canada next summer because we can't afford to take two trips in the same year.
Do we ignore our mothers' only request and do it the way I first planned, or do I give up the trip home next summer that both my fiance and I want, even though I haven't seen my friends and home for over two years? Can anyone think of other options? I'm painfully stumped by this one.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]My fiance and I live in the same town as his family in the UK, but I'm from Canada, and all my family live there. I had thought of having a quiet registry office ceremony just the two of us, then having two receptions/parties - one in Canada when we're scheduled to vacation there next summer, and one here in the UK, but, after announcing our engagement to our families, this plan got rather complicated.  Both fathers seem to be fine with that idea - neither wants to have to travel, but both mothers have said that they really want to be at the ceremony and don't mind traveling, and I know they would be very hurt to be excluded. The obvious solution would be to have a destination wedding and have everyone travel to be there, but doing that would mean that my fiance and I would have to cancel our plans to go back to Canada next summer because we can't afford to take two trips in the same year. Do we ignore our mothers' only request and do it the way I first planned, or do I give up the trip home next summer that both my fiance and I want, even though I haven't seen my friends and home for over two years? Can anyone think of other options? I'm painfully stumped by this one.
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Do what YOU want, honestly.  If what you want is a quiet, registry office wedding, that's fine.  Invite both of your families and then have a dinner after.  People say they won't travel, but if you push them on it, they will.

aMrsin09

I'm not sure what you C&P'd from, but I can only see about half of each line of text.

I think you are asking how to get married and still go on a vacation?

AmoroAgain

I quoted the whole thing so I could read it. 

aMrsin09

Thank You.

OP, yeah, what Amoro said.

[Deleted User]

Most definitely. Do what you and your FI want. People with either be there or they won't.

tldh

OP - when you post a question on more than one board, please put XP in front of the title.  I answered this already on the ceremony ideas board.

Kristin789

1.  Have the quiet ceremony with you and FI, and invite your parents to fly over from Canada, and invite FI's family to come too.

2.  Then have a UK reception WHILE your parents are still there.

2.  Have the Canada trip and reception/party just as you planned, but invite FI's parents to come over and participate in the Canada reception too.  They probably won't, but they might...

emilyinchile

I'm sorry, I fail to see the issue. Both mothers are happy to travel. You want to go to Canda at some point next year.

Umm, either have the wedding in the UK and invite everyone from Canada, then take a vacation to Canada, or have the wedding in Canada and invite everyone from the UK. Why is one of those not the obvious solution?