Rudest invitation you've received

riverjib

Just for fun...anyone have a rudest invite story? I got this one from a friend and former coworker via Facebook less than two weeks before the nuptuals (notice the location, too):

Dear XXXX

Sorry for this E-invitation , please treat this as my personal Invitation due to time constraints.

I take my utmost pleasure in Inviting you on the occasion of My Marriage

With
XXXX XXXX

Spare a day with us
On Wednesday , 2nd December 2009

At
XXXX, XXXX, XXXX
XXXX, West Bengal, India
From 6.30 p.m Onwards

Reception
On Sunday 6th December , 2009 from 8.00 p.m
XXXX, XXXX, XXXX, India

Regards
XXXX

Obviously I deleted any pertinent info that might somehow identify them, though I doubt either of them consulted with the Knot. I didn't send a gift. I might have even considered doing so, but there was no return address :-)

Kristin&eric

well it wasnt for a wedding it was for a party and she asked for us to get in contact of what we wanted to bring and that if everyone brought something it would help out a lot. thein a week later i got a txt asking us to bring decorations, hula hoops(its a hawiian themed) and a bunch of different stuff, hot dogs, salad. i just thought if you hosted it you bought it but i guess i was wrong

emarston1

That's just past the point of insulting and on to ridiculous.  But seriously, India?!?

I would have sent them one of those stupid $1 facebook gifts.

angel2210

I got a mass FB event invite and they actually said on the page that they were doing it that way because they didn't WANT to spend the money on invitations.

I went anyway. I can't help it, I love my tacky-ass friend.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I got an invitation to an Indian wedding about a month before the wedding. Honestly, I would have gone if I could. I mean, hello, it's India! However, it's my understanding that in Indian culture you invite pretty much everyone you've ever met (the invitation we got was from FI's coworker and she handed them out at work). 

It was similar to your invitation, but, you know, a real invitation. And there weren't any other inserts. Just their website where you could RSVP if you were coming.

MeaghanandMichael

In cases like this, is it cool to ask if the B&G can pay for your flight and hotel? Yes? No? I think so!

mushE

FI and his grad school buddies still (5 years later) talk about this nonvitation email they got from a classmate that basically said he was getting married in Jamaica the next day, and he's 'so sorry you all can't be there' with them.  Um, you never told us you were getting married in Jamaica, and since we all just graduated, we would have loved to join you!

riverjib

LOL!!! I wasn't insulted. I know this guy, and his bride might have been horrified if she realized he did this. It was adressed to me personally. He's one of those engineering types who's clueless about etiquette in general, and probably really DID hope I'd attend. But he invited me a week before the wedding TO INDIA!!! Not only was it finals week, but I'm a student...I would have had to save for months just for airfare!! If I got the invitation months in advance and it was after finals and the holidays, I would have saved up...

I just thought it was funny. And I thought (correctly) that other Knotties would have similar stories. Sometimes even good intentions go terribly wrong!!

cqbride

I recently got invited to a wedding where we were obviously b-listed. We have lots of mutual friends so it was abundantly clear. She addressed the invite to Mr. and Mrs. H's firstname  my lastname (since I kept my maiden name and even though she's known both of us for 7-8 years I guess couldn't be bothered to figure out how to address the thing correctly). Just to put the icing on the cake, she immediately began pestering me for a response by text message even though the RSVP date was 2 weeks away. I'm sure she just wanted to cram in more b-listers. Needless to say, I was not amused.

SparrowSong

Isn't this exactly what happens in the Seinfeld episode? Elaine receives an invitation to a wedding in India like a week before. She and Jerry declare it to be an "un-vitation" since it's ridiculous to think someone could plan to go last minute like that. So since it appears they don't really want her there, of course Elaine decides she has to go, "and is taking all her stupid friends with her."

JennandJoel2010

A semi-good friend of mine sent me an invitation and labeled it "Jenn and guest." She was present with FI and I got engaged, so needless to say I was a little pissed. Another friend got an invite to the same wedding in which the bride wrote "Savannah and guest," but misspelled guest the first time, crossed it out, and re-wrote it in. I died right then and there when I saw it.

japow1984

Last year I received a wedding invitation with a card in it that said "Because we've been blessed in our life together, we would prefer monetary gifts so we can take a nice honeymoon". It was so horribly tacky I didn't go to the wedding or send a gift. I prefer to give money for a wedding gift, but geez don't put a tacky card in there and actually ask for it. It still makes me cringe.

JMN2010

Everyone should check out "Ask Amy" from today. I don't know how to post a link but I know you can access it from the Washington Post. There is a wedding ettiquette question and I can't believe anyone would actually send an invite like that.

Here is the link - no idea if it will work.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/05/27/AR2010052704952.html

psichick

i'm reading miss manner's book at the moment about etiquette. and omfg some of the questions she gets asked, i can't believe that people actually do this stuff. my mind is bottled. 

ARod22

Okay ladies, are you ready??

My friend and I had an acquaintance who was getting married.  We were not invited to the wedding but not surprised by this since we aren't close.  But THEN, we got an invitation to the bridal shower.  Neither of us knew what to make of this, but we got her gifts (honestly, the least expensive things on her registry... this was when we were in college) and went to her shower, saying nothing about the awkwardness of it.

At the shower, her mother made an uncomfortable comment about us going to the wedding, thinking that we were invited.  We sat there unsure of how to respond, when the bride awkwardly looked at her mom and said "uh, they aren't invited."  After a very uncomfortable silence, everyone just resumed the party and said nothing else.

A day or two later, I got an INSTANT MESSAGE from the bride, which said "do you want to come to my wedding?"  By the way, her wedding was about 2 weeks later... on Christmas.  (She is an Orthodox Jew so this wasn't really an issue for her or her family)  And by the way, I lived out of town when college wasn't in session, so by the time finals were over and Christmas break had started, I was going to be 1,000 miles away from the wedding.  Going to her wedding would have meant booking a last minute round trip flight (and potentially hotel) ON CHRISTMAS EVE!  I'm Jewish too so I didn't care about it being on the holiday, but the cost of travel would have been tremendous--and for someone who didn't even want me there!  I told her I'd look into it, so she sent me an invitation.  Needless to say, however, there was no way that I could make it, not that I cared very much at this point!

Wanna hear the icing on the cake?  About a month after her wedding, some friends and I met up for pizza, and she and her husband came, too.  I forget how this came up, but she said something to me and my other uninvited friend (who also--shocker!--couldn't go) about how her mom "made her invite us."  Thanks, girlfriend, we really like you too!

 And that is by far the rudest invitation I've ever received

skippylouwho

psichick - having one's mind bottled might be a good thing but I'm guessing you meant boggled???

Not trying to nitpick but just in case you didn't know and you used that again with other people they might think less of you for not spelling it correctly.


On the other hand - I'm thinking having my mind bottled - I'm picturing contents of beer bottles doing the bottling, not my brain in a bottle - would be a good thing right about now.

goheels05

A coworker of mine invited a bunch of people from work to her wedding.  Rather than mailing us invitations, she used interoffice mail.  She didn't even put the invitations in each person's mailbox herself; she put her whole stack of invitations in the inbox and made the mailroom employees deliver them.  When I opened the envelope, five registry cards fell out.  One of them was a honeymoon registry. 

Her wedding was at 5 on a Friday.  A lot of people left early to go to it.  She got married about 4 months before I did, and frankly I was a little insulted that people went to her wedding and not mine and Mr. Heels' wedding.  Granted, hers was closer, but mine wasn't a crappy tack fest. 

goheels05

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rudest-invitation-youve-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ea5976d8-1389-4700-8fb6-80e57f5b0764Post:fcf61adb-8d34-426d-944c-3c0bcac34666">Re: Rudest invitation you've received</a>:
[QUOTE]psichick - having one's mind bottled might be a good thing but I'm guessing you meant boggled??? Not trying to nitpick but just in case you didn't know and you used that again with other people they might think less of you for not spelling it correctly. On the other hand - I'm thinking having my mind bottled - I'm picturing contents of beer bottles doing the bottling, not my brain in a bottle - would be a good thing right about now.
Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]


Pretty sure that "mind bottled" is a long-standing knot joke and that she said it intentionally. 

zippityb

When I was pledging my sorority, our pledge class got an email from an alumna inviting us to "work" her wedding. We would have to go and set up and serve people and stuff. For free. She put a line at the bottom saying under no circumstances were we to drink or get drunk.

And a few people actually took her up on her offer.

zobogo

i was invited to a wedding shower (thrown by the MOG), brought my gift along, helped setup, serve food, & clean up.  afterwards when we were loading gifts into the car, MOG asks me if i got a hotel room yet for the wedding - i said no i don't know where the wedding is being held yet.  MOG's response "you mean she didn't invite you to the wedding & let me invite you & help out with the shower" - needless to say she was pissed!  i didn't realize wedding invites had already gone out or i wouldn't have attended the shower - (although they did serve lobster so maybe i would have attended anyways).
here's the kicker - 2 days before the wedding the bride has the groom's sister ask me over the phone if i want to come to the wedding because she had over 70 declined invites.  ummm....seriously, no thanks!

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I'm loving reading these.  The nerve of these people.

I am Facebook friends with this girl I went to high school with - we graduated in 2002, and I don't think I've even seen her since then.  But she uses Facebook to advertise and talk about her wedding pretty much 24/7.

She "invited" me to her wedding, an entire year in advance, through an event she set up on Facebook.  She also did the same thing recently with her bachelorette party; when I declined to go to her bach party 56 people had said they were going to be there.  For her freaking bachelorette party! 

I don't really know how you invite people to your own bachelorette party but I really don't know how you can get 56 people to saying that yes, in fact, they will be there - especially when you're so insanely tacky and bizarre.