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What to expect?

KLastmanisBackKLastmanisBack
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So a few weeks or so ago, I was a MOH in my friends wedding, but was kicked out after a falling out that was not my fault.

I still get details about the wedding from mutual friends and I know she hasn't chosen a new MOH yet. Should I expect to hear from her soon to come back? Should I continue with planning? Should I continue looking for my dress? Also, should I begin contacting the other BMs again?
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  • brilibby4brilibby4 member
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    Yikes.  If she kicked you out, why would you want to be back in?  It sounds like she isn't a very good friend.
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  • pkontkpkontk member
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    I'm sorry you were kicked out, I'd be livid in your position and not caring at all if there was another MOH named.  However, the bride really shouldn't be 'replacing' you, that is rude both to you and to the 'replacement', since she would know she was second choice.
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    Uh... you were kicked out.  I don't understand why would you assume you would be asked back.

    And in fact, even if you WERE asked back, I don't understand why you would WANT to.

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  • JessAndTravJessAndTrav member
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    Was she fillming for Bridezillas or something? That's the only time I've ever heard of someone actually getting kicked out of the WP.
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  • cookie0803cookie0803 member
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    Are you the same klastman that stalked the bride and then came here and flipped out? If so, I doubt she'll be asking you to come back to the WP.
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    Ditto the others on not getting it.  I would be telling the other BMs "I'm no longer a part of the wedding party.  Please remove me from your email list" and go on about my life without the worry of the cost of being in a wedding.
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  • barrelbabe004barrelbabe004
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    I was kicked out of a WP once and was supposed to be the MOH as well.  Honestly, the last thing I wanted to do was still be involved in her wedding let alone in her life.  It ruined our friendship forever.

    I would move on.
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  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    She'd have to dish out one hell of an apology for me to even consider continuing to be a part of the wedding party. Why are you not more upset with her?
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  • Meegles4Meegles4 member
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    Are you the crazy MOH who got kicked out after her friend/the bride came on here and found out how crazy you were b/c you were stalking her?!

    No. She's not going to ask you back. Move on with your life.
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  • KLastmanisBackKLastmanisBack
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    She is my friend even if she has lost site of that and I want to be there for her on this special day!
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  • Meegles4Meegles4 member
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    If you're still friends you'll be a guest at the wedding, which is just as nice (and way less work) than being in the wedding. Please stop trying to take over her wedding.

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  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-expect?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec734c64-d1d9-4d89-a501-f7cde01cb267Post:e71f9b3f-0f7a-408d-808f-26575b7b2d4b">Re: What to expect?</a>:
    [QUOTE]She is my friend even if she has lost site of that and I want to be there for her on this special day!
    Posted by KLastmanisBack[/QUOTE]

    Then prepare to be walked all over for the rest of your life.

    Regardless, there doesn't appear to be any indication at this point that she even wants you back in the wedding party.

    You're sounding a little ... nutty.
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  • mari0225mari0225
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    Geez if you are the same person and I think you are, then get over it and move on!
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  • runpipparunrunpipparun member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-expect?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec734c64-d1d9-4d89-a501-f7cde01cb267Post:e71f9b3f-0f7a-408d-808f-26575b7b2d4b">Re: What to expect?</a>:
    [QUOTE]She is my friend even if she has lost site of that and <strong>I want to be there for her on this special day!</strong>
    Posted by KLastmanisBack[/QUOTE]

    <div>What you want and what she wants are two different things. You can't force your MOH ambitions on her.</div>
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  • KellyBrian2013KellyBrian2013
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-expect?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec734c64-d1d9-4d89-a501-f7cde01cb267Post:a99597ed-235f-4c09-a37c-2cc173d08950">Re: What to expect?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was kicked out of a WP once and was supposed to be the MOH as well.  Honestly, the last thing I wanted to do was still be involved in her wedding let alone in her life.  It ruined our friendship forever. I would move on.
    Posted by barrelbabe004[/QUOTE]

    Are we the same person? This, exactly.

    Though others have a much better name recognition/memory than I do. I remember the cray-cray self-appointed MOH but I didn't remember her user name... if OP is THAT person, then yeah, I'd be steering clear lest you want to end up in jail for stalking/violating an order of protection.
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  • brilibby4brilibby4 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-expect?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec734c64-d1d9-4d89-a501-f7cde01cb267Post:e71f9b3f-0f7a-408d-808f-26575b7b2d4b">Re: What to expect?</a>:
    [QUOTE]She is my friend even if she has lost site of that and I want to be there for her on this special day!
    Posted by KLastmanisBack[/QUOTE]

    She isn't your friend anymore.
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    [QUOTE]She is my friend even if she has lost site of that and I want to be there for her on this special day!
    Posted by KLastmanisBack[/QUOTE]


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    Well then.  You're either crazy, or a far better person than I.  Good luck.

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  • mari0225mari0225
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    http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_trying-to-help-the-bride_.0

    Looks like it's the same person.
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  • crash2729crash2729 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-expect?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec734c64-d1d9-4d89-a501-f7cde01cb267Post:6c81c085-4a44-45d5-87ab-dc48de7305fb">Re: What to expect?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Uh... you were kicked out.  I don't understand why would you assume you would be asked back. And in fact, even if you WERE asked back, I don't understand why you would WANT to.
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
    This. 100%. 
    You may think that the falling out was not your fault. But the bride obviously thinks that it was, she may not be planning to replace you at all. Do not expect to be asked back.<div>
    </div><div>ETA: Also, if you are not invited..don't go to the wedding. Don't contact her or the BMs anymore. Sounds to me like she may think you are a little cray-cray. Don't prove her correct.</div>
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  • VeggieLove1022VeggieLove1022
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    The bride needs a restraining order against you. You're seriously crazy. 
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  • mari0225mari0225
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    There were other posts from the bride but I couldn't find them.
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    oh yeah, if this is that cray cray BM, you need to back the eff off and leave that girl alone.  Actually, regardless of who you are, the bride has made her feelings about your friendship clear.  Move one.
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  • cookie0803cookie0803 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-expect?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec734c64-d1d9-4d89-a501-f7cde01cb267Post:4fbc7cca-548e-4c80-a2f8-0fa0782b7daa">Re: What to expect?</a>:
    [QUOTE]There were other posts from the bride but I couldn't find them.
    Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

    <div><a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_self-appointed-moh-burns-out-bride">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_self-appointed-moh-burns-out-bride</a></div><div>
    </div><div><a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_update-on-moh-from-hell">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_update-on-moh-from-hell</a></div>
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  • KLastmanisBackKLastmanisBack
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    You all are AWFUL! I have come back as a new poster and I should be treated as such! NOT have my past indiscretions put on blast!!!
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  • crash2729crash2729 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-expect?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec734c64-d1d9-4d89-a501-f7cde01cb267Post:a53d4f32-169d-42b1-95c7-70b0e7e046e0">Re: What to expect?</a>:
    [QUOTE]You all are AWFUL! I have come back as a new poster and I should be treated as such! NOT have my past indiscretions put on blast!!!
    Posted by KLastmanisBack[/QUOTE]
    Then don't make your new screen name be your old screen name is back. 
    That's a little silly if you didn't want anyone to know who you were.
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-expect?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec734c64-d1d9-4d89-a501-f7cde01cb267Post:a53d4f32-169d-42b1-95c7-70b0e7e046e0">Re: What to expect?</a>:
    [QUOTE]You all are AWFUL! I have come back as a new poster and I should be treated as such! NOT have my past indiscretions put on blast!!!
    Posted by KLastmanisBack[/QUOTE]

    You can't come BACK as a NEW poster.  Being new is mutually exclusive of coming back.

    You could say you've come back with a new SN.  But....your SN even suggests that this is exactly what you wanted.  If you truly wanted a clean slate, you would have come up with a completely different SN.

    Or maybe I'm giving you far too much credit and you're even more stupid that I thought.  I guess that's possible.

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  • VeggieLove1022VeggieLove1022
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    This entire shindig has to be MUD. At least I hope so.
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    Doesn't matter if you came back with a new screen name.  You came back.  You.  Not the screen name.  You.  Stop stalking the bride and go find a life.
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    Veggie, I was just thinking that.
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  • North8North8
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    I retract my post for being upset with my MOH earlier.  I want to go throw my arms around her and thank her for being as wonderful as she is!!!! 
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