Proper way to state...

MrsCoopDawg3467

I'm working on our wedding website and I want to tell people that we are going for a elegant classy look and would prefer no holes in jeans (some of my family will only wear jeans), no cut offs etc.  We want people to dress nicely

How do I state this? Politely.  

kcscejal

There isn't really a polite way to tell people how to dress.

MissKate2011

Etiquette wise, there's no proper way to say this.  If you decide to do it, then it's considered rude.

annakb8

I doubt the people who think cut-off shorts and ripped jeans are appropriate wedding attire will change their opinion about that just because you posted a note on your wedding website. Just don't say anything, by doing so you only risk offending people who do know how to dress for a wedding by implying they need instructions.

ahhhitsshannyn

There should be no need to state this. These people are adults, they should know how to dress themselves. People are going to wear what they want to wear whether they are told to or not. Your invites should have determined the formality of the wedding, so people will just take their cue from those.

The only way you can state "black tie" or any kind of dress code is if your venue has a dress code, but you should not tell people that they have to wear a certain style just because you want them to.

hlq2011

Everything MilkDuds said.  Plus, you'll be busy enough the day of that you probably won't even notice.

MrsCoopDawg3467

Good to know!!!!  Thanks!  

LaceyCharles

Our wedding is at a golf course, so collared shirts are def required, however, since we want a really formal wedding (we love to dress up nice) we are putting "black tie prefered" on our invite.

mary1217

At my friends' wedding the makeup artist and her boyfriend were invited to the wedding (they were not friends so I don't know why they were). So about an hour into the reception the makeup artist's boyfriend left to change and came back wearing basically gym shorts and a FL Gators shirt, oh yeah and he caught the garter, lol.

Calypso1977

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[QUOTE]I'm working on our wedding website and I want to tell people that we are going for a elegant classy look and would prefer no holes in jeans (some of my family will only wear jeans), no cut offs etc.  We want people to dress nicely How do I state this? Politely.  
Posted by MrsCoopDawg3467[/QUOTE]

you cant tell folks how to dress.  typically, your invitaton dictates the formality of the event.

sadly, most do dress rather sloppy these days.  but that's a reflection on THEM not YOU.

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]Our wedding is at a golf course, so collared shirts are def required, however, since we want a really formal wedding (we love to dress up nice) we are putting "black tie prefered" on our invite.
Posted by LaceyCharles[/QUOTE]

Yeah, you should only put black tie required if it is in fact black tie and not just a formal event. You can have a formal wedding and it not be black tie. I think you're setting yourself up for some confused guests. I would just put what the country club dress code and leave it at that. Collared shirt does not necessarily mean black tie. You would be needlessly causing your guests to have to purchase black tie attire even though the venue doesn't require it.