Michelle Duggar Miscarries

Birdie1483

At the u/s to find out the sex of the baby, the doc couldn't find a heartbeat and informed them she had miscarried. I know I talked crap about this pregnancy, but my heart really goes out to them.

http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20552173,00.html

ahhhitsshannyn

Aw That is so sad. I feel so bad for them.

Loopyseven

That's so sad for them.  So unexpected that late in the pregnancy.

Megbo2012

That's terrible.

She's really at risk for her age, isn't she?

aleighk1

I feel really bad for the family but hopefully after this and what happened with Josie theyll stop having kids.

Birdie1483

I think I read she's 45. At this point in the pregnancy, does she have to actually deliver?

annakb8

That is sad. She's 45? The same thing happened to my mom when she was 45ish. It was not fun. 

Birdie1483

I honestly think they won't stop having (or not TTA) kids until she goes into menopause.

eorea

That is terrible. I feel so bad for them. 

annakb8

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_michelle-duggar-miscarries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f26d46d0-ae21-4d84-9bda-34da38145af5Post:c7493220-8b9d-47c1-aeb2-6f7a4287185c">Re: Michelle Duggar Miscarries</a>:
[QUOTE]I think I read she's 45. At this point in the pregnancy, does she have to actually deliver?
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

<div>I think you can have a D&C or opt to induce labor and deliver. My mom opted to deliver when it happened to her. She is really super ultra pro-life and didn't want to do anything resembling abortion, even though she obviously wouldn't be hurting the baby. I wouldn't be surprised if Michelle Duggar made a similar decision. </div>

strlzfan11

There comes a certain point (not sure when, but sometime into the 2nd trimester) when you are induced and have to go through L&D if the baby dies in utero.  My heart aches for them, as nobody should have to go through this.

eorea

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_michelle-duggar-miscarries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f26d46d0-ae21-4d84-9bda-34da38145af5Post:59f97e36-6ad1-4415-8070-f828a739d0e2">Re: Michelle Duggar Miscarries</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel really bad for the family but hopefully after this and what happened with Josie theyll stop having kids.
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't watch the show. I only read about it or hear about it on t.v. </div><div>
</div><div>What happened with Josie? Is that another kid they had? </div>

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_michelle-duggar-miscarries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f26d46d0-ae21-4d84-9bda-34da38145af5Post:9f8c5519-2360-487a-aa57-f6b7ea61b7be">Re: Michelle Duggar Miscarries</a>:
[QUOTE]I honestly think they won't stop having (or not TTA) kids until she goes into menopause.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

<div>I think so too, and that's why it's scary because their belief is not necessarily to keep trying, but to not prevent it. I just wouldn't want to put myself and my family through that with all the risks.  Especially after what happened with poor Josie. </div>

ahhhitsshannyn

I highly doubt they will quit. They have said a thousand times that God gives them these children.

Birdie1483

Josie was their 19th child. She was born super prematurely, at like 24 weeks or something, when Michelle had gallbladder troubles.

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_michelle-duggar-miscarries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f26d46d0-ae21-4d84-9bda-34da38145af5Post:61706635-9609-4f5b-b25e-d48d1640f757">Re: Michelle Duggar Miscarries</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Michelle Duggar Miscarries : I don't watch the show. I only read about it or hear about it on t.v.  What happened with Josie? Is that another kid they had? 
Posted by eorea[/QUOTE]

<div>Josie was super premature and had dozens of complications which required the enitre family to temporarily relocate.  If I remember correctly, Michelle was actually alone for awhile, too. </div>

eorea

Wow. Yea, they should definitely stop. I don't think they will but they should. 

aragx6

How hard this must be for them and I can only imagine there are idiots on the internet saying awful awful things. I don't agree with their baby-making strategy, but would never wish them ill.

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_michelle-duggar-miscarries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f26d46d0-ae21-4d84-9bda-34da38145af5Post:edf9f18d-3c3e-4b40-b64b-f602f50f8079">Re: Michelle Duggar Miscarries</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow. Yea, they should definitely stop. I don't think they will but they should. 
Posted by eorea[/QUOTE]

<div>It's one of those dilemmas that are brought upon because of their beliefs.  If they take the necessarily precautions, they are going against everything that they have stood for and taught their children the last 25 years or so.  If they continue on, they might continue to have these problems and devastations.  </div>

sleblanc72

My heart definitely goes out to that family, that is so sad.

I do wonder what course their life will take in terms of future pregnancies after Josie being born so early and now the miscarriage.

eorea

I honestly think they should just stop having sex then. No more problems and they can keep their beliefs. I really do feel bad for them. I can't imagine how they feel right now but it might be time to put it on hold until she can't have kids anymore. 

Birdie1483

I feel like if they actively stopped having sex, they would see that as actively abstaining. It's just crazy.

eorea

You are probably right, Birdie. It really is crazy. Hopefully, this won't be an issue for much longer. 

barbie92

Wow. I feel really bad for them

Mrs.B6302007

So sad.

For as many pregnancies as she's had, she's actually done pretty well statistically for only having 2 miscarriages.

baystateapple

That's so incredibly sad. 

mari0225

Awww I that's sad, I do feel for them. No one should experience a loss of a baby.

tidetravel

I also wondered what would happen with the next pregnancy(ies) after Josie's birth.  As far as I understand it, once a woman develops pre-e during a pregnancy, she's at high risk for having it on subsequent pregnancies.  IMO, it's irresponsible for them to continue to get pregnant, based on the risk to Michelle, alone.  Unfortunately, I don't think they will stop until she naturally stops having viable pregancies, or she dies from complications.

musicalsunlight

That is really sad. Regardless of how controversial their lifestyle is, they really do seem like honest and sweet people. Michelle is so nice and caring, I feel very badly for this family. At least they have a huge support system to lean on in each other.

SarahPLiz

I hate that this happened to them, and that they have to greive publically. They seem like a strong family, but this is devastating and I wish they didn't have to announce on national television, you know? 

Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_michelle-duggar-miscarries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f26d46d0-ae21-4d84-9bda-34da38145af5Post:1fed73a5-0171-488e-bf98-9bd655e631b5">Re: Michelle Duggar Miscarries</a>:
[QUOTE]I also wondered what would happen with the next pregnancy(ies) after Josie's birth.  As far as I understand it, once a woman develops pre-e during a pregnancy, she's at high risk for having it on subsequent pregnancies.  IMO, it's irresponsible for them to continue to get pregnant, based on the risk to Michelle, alone.  Unfortunately, I don't think they will stop until she naturally stops having viable pregancies, or she dies from complications.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]


I've thought about this often, too.  While I completely respect their decision and their religious beliefs as well as support their right to have as many children as they want, I do have to wonder about the fact that she could die and leave JB on his own.  I mean, I know people would step up to help but still.  I wonder if they've ever felt torn on that very concern.  I know that their answer is that they leave everything up to God, but as a human being wouldn't you naturally have a fear of leaving the kids w/o a mother? I would be interested in knowing the details of THAT conversation.