FI and I want to have a unity candle as part of our ceremony. We love fire, candles, and this symbol of becoming one. But, we are really unsure about what procedure to use in lighting the two side candles.
The unity candle set is a basic traditional one - two tall tapers and one middle pillar candle. We plan to use the tapers to light the middle pillar, during the ceremony - simple. But when are the two tapers supposed to be lit, and by whom? I have seen it done in other weddings by the parents, by just the mothers, and by the candlelighters (if there are other candlabras on stage, which there will be). I have seen it done before the seating of the parents/grandparents, during the seating, and right after the seating. So I have no idea what to do!
FI's parents are divorced, and they are not on good terms, so we probably could not do the two sets of parents together lighting it. But my mom is uncomfortable with the idea of the just her and his mom lighting it, she prefers my dad to go up with her. I can have the candlelighters do it, or I can have them already lit prior to the seating of any guests... but I just don't know.