Inconsiderate neice

L-Bride

For the love of God, you don't get an entire season to get married. We has 5 weddings in FI's family last year. Since there are only 4 seasons in a year, do you think one of them should have waited until this year to get married?
Really, I'm curious.

salt78

I have a Facebook. Does that make me a child?

I hate when I get to the batshitcrazy ones too late. 

jonchrissy

I guess I'm a horrible cousin since I'm getting married a month after him and he announced his date about a year before I did.

Moneypenny424

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[QUOTE]I guess I'm a horrible cousin since I'm getting married a month after him and he announced his date about a year before I did.
Posted by jonchrissy[/QUOTE]

I can't believe you.  That's HIS season.

jonchrissy

I know I'm EVIL! He probably hated me before that since I was born during his season and his name is Christopher and mines Christina, he probably thinks I stole that as well...but what can you do.

colsta

I like this new rule. My cousin is getting married on Sept 24th and the first day of Autumn is the 23rd. I can now get married on the 22nd and still not be asking our families to travel twice in one season. Cool.

maratea

Good grief, i before e, except after c or in words that sound like 'a' as in neighbor or weigh (and a few other oddballs). FFS. I don't normally pick on spelling, but this just makes me crazy.

hugz415

Ok. I get that you may be annoyed.  I would probably be annoyed too.  But there is definitely nothing you can do about it.  She didn't do anything wrong besides annoy you. 

jesibel14

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Inconsiderate neice : My guess is one month older than her neice. Neice's wedding date is just payback for robbing her of her birthmonth!
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

This made me crack up!

And OP, not that you need another person telling you...but....yeah you are wrong.  It's not your season. or month. or week rather.  You get one day - get over it.

Kristin&eric

well there isnt really anything you can do, so all that you can do is pick up your big girl panties and put a smile on your face and be happy for your future niece. Maybe that month is sentimental to her. i think a month apart is ok. Like other have said it could be worse. Or if she is planning on getting married this august maybe she preggos and doesnt want to wait that long to get married? who knows just fous on your big day

goheels05

My big girl panties are in the laundry today.  I had to wear these instead:

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]That is the considerations....all of the family having to travel now to not just one....but two weddings within 30 days.....plus the costs to the families, etc....not just that I do feel that she should have waited....I find that the family should be considered....a wedding isn't JUST about the bride..it's a family affair and all should be considered.  I think one wedding, per family, per season should be the etiquette (unless eloping of course)
Posted by Heatherdawnyoung[/QUOTE]

Well, since the family's known about your wedding for a while now, hopefully they've already booked travel, and that's the one they'll choose to go to.

laladypoet

I'ma pray for you.

frenchy730

Well, she is 18, and she can pretty much decide with her fiance when they want to get married, and they don't need to ask anyone, especially not an uncle's fiancee for permission to do so. She definitely does not have to check her wedding date to make sure it's okay with you.  Your wedding is one day... so is hers.  And nope, she does not have to ask you if she can invite certain people to her own wedding.  She's not doing you any wrong as far as I can tell.

wadingmoose

Also, you should probably not use your full name as your screenname.

tidetravel

Let's call a spade a spade,  You don't give 2 shiits about the "burden" two weddings will put on his on his family/guests.  ( except if it impacts their ability to pay for or plan your wedding.)  You just don't want your thunder stolen.

She may be 18, but you're the child.  Grow up.


 

andy71781

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[QUOTE]A month is not bad at all, she could have picked the same date! What would you do then!
Posted by jonchrissy[/QUOTE]
That's what my cousin did!  Be happy she's a month before.  But seriously - my sister just had her wedding last weekend (it was wonderful).  Basically the planning just keeps rolling along and people don't mind.  It will be fine.  All people will want to talk about with you at her wedding is how excited they are for yours.

missy68

bless your heart....

WhatawagSBNy

One per season per family? In  families with lots of kids, like ours, we would have 6 and 10 year engagements waiting our turn.  Get real.

A month is pretty reasonable spacing.

squirrly

I went to a wedding in March that is the first this year of FOUR (last one is in September).  The connection?  They're all siblings.  Three boys and a girl (hers is the last one). 

By your rule at least two of them should have put their lives on hold because somebody else bought a ring before they did.  Ridiculous.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Inconsiderate neice : NO! What?! No. No way. omg I can not believe it. Does she not know that month is yours?! Wow!
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

=) I needed the humor....