Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth??

LuluP82

I'd like to add, my dad got married at a consumption-only venue, so after cocktail hour, it switched to beer and wine only. They purchased certain number of cases of wine and bottles of beer from the venue, and that's what was served.

I'd check if you can do that so you have some control over the price.

Since you haven't sent out invites, you have options. YOu can find a cheaper venue, swtich to a luncheon reception, or cut your list. You cannot charge your guests for their drinks. Especially not non-alcoholic drinks!

aragx6

I seriously think that if I were at a wedding, ordered a sprite and was told it was $1.50 I would leave. Immediately.

I went to a party for my niece at a roller skating rink last month and they gave me free soda. This is a wedding.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : You can't be serious, right? 
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

Why wouldn't I be serious? She said her guests like to drink. Thus, she should provide things they would have, as a matter of course, at a fancy dinner, which might be a glass of wine or a cocktail, etc. If she was hosting a more casual party or her crowd weren't drinkers, my answer might be different (and hint: it wouldn't be that a cash bar is okay).

booboo1978

It's saving us about $5000 to not host full booze all night. Knowing what tabs have been like at other weddings, it's definitely saving money for us.  I did talk to the coordinator, and I asked if the RSVP list is lower, could we host beer and wine all night, and she said fine, the decision can be made the day before.  We're planning on hosting non-alcholic drinks at the bar all night anyways (coffee, waters, and teas are included with the contract, but are served at the tables).  We're having a sunday afternoon-evening ceremony reception, people have to get up and work the next day, so I'm guessing the alcohol won't be a huge draw after a certain hour, but I could be surprised. 

Calypso1977

Have a daytime wedding, switch venues, downgrade your flowers, cut out the chair covers, skip the favors, wear old shoes, or cut your list down. 

i agree with this, but even when you make these cuts a cash bar isnt always possible depending on your budget or your crowd (heavy drinkers).

but i do think beverages should be provided in terms of non-alcoholic. 

The Mel and Todd Show

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[QUOTE]Have a daytime wedding, switch venues, downgrade your flowers, cut out the chair covers, skip the favors, wear old shoes, or cut your list down.  i agree with this, but even when you make these cuts a cash bar isnt always possible depending on your budget or your crowd (heavy drinkers). but i do think beverages should be provided in terms of non-alcoholic. 
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

Then she needs to downgrade even more things.  Used dress, do her own makeup, etc.  As a host, you don't get all of the things that YOU want at the expense of your guests.  You figure out your guest list, you determine how to propely host your entire guest list (properly=pay for everything, not just some things) and then you move on to ornaments such as flowers, bands, dresses, jewelry.  Your guests are going to remember how you treated them, not the flowers in your bouquet or the label inside your dress which they cannot even see. 

redheadfsu

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[QUOTE]Have a daytime wedding, switch venues, downgrade your flowers, cut out the chair covers, skip the favors, wear old shoes, or cut your list down.  i agree with this, but even when you make these cuts a cash bar isnt always possible depending on your budget or your crowd (heavy drinkers). but i do think beverages should be provided in terms of non-alcoholic. 
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

Yes, but if your crowd are drinkers, then you know that some type of alcohol should be provided. No one says that it must be a true open bar. Just host something (even just beer or just wine). Even at my causal Saturday night party, the alcohol is provided. So one should plan well. You don't have to have the expensive stuff, but something is necessary when people expect it and you are having an evening wedding. It makes me mad when I go to a wedding and everything is fancy & then I have to buy my drinks. Really? That is just silly & horrible planning.

caseyhaynes429

Jeez! I said "probably" bc yes my wedding is over a year away and honestly it hasnt been put in the budget yet, but I dont assume that will be a big expense. I wouldnt charge people for diet cokes...I should have mentioned that.

Thank you for the nice responses! I was really looking for an answer to whether they should go on invites or not, and I have decided I will just use word of mouth. It really wasnt part of my question to have a cash bar or not.. but thanks for all your opinions (although some pretty nasty) on how I will host my wedding!

Also, Im getting married in a Catholic church so the ceremony has to be at 5:30 on Saturday so I cant switch the time of day, but that would be good advice.

mica178

Calypso (and OP) -- I make these suggestions with the knowledge that the OP has more than a year until her wedding.  She has time to rearrange things so that she can afford to provide wine and beer if she wants to.  If OP had three months until her wedding, was already having a bare-bones wedding, and was talking about a cash bar, I might not be making these suggestions, I'd just tell her to spread the information by word of mouth and be done.  But because I believe that she has time to change things, I think she should if she wants to be a good hostess. 

The Mel and Todd Show

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[QUOTE]Jeez! I said "probably" bc yes my wedding is over a year away and honestly it hasnt been put in the budget yet, but I dont assume that will be a big expense. I wouldnt charge people for diet cokes...I should have mentioned that. Thank you for the nice responses! I was really looking for an answer to whether they should go on invites or not, and I have decided I will just use word of mouth. It really wasnt part of my question to have a cash bar or not<strong>.. but thanks for all your opinions (although some pretty nasty)</strong> on how I will host my wedding! Also, Im getting married in a Catholic church so the ceremony has to be at 5:30 on Saturday so I cant switch the time of day, but that would be good advice.
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

I have it on good authority that I am both helpful and funny.  Another poster just told me so.  So since you're only going to take the advice that validates you, I'm only going to listen to the poster that flatters me.  Even Steven. 

jrkjpf

Will your venue allow you to bring in your own drinks?
If so, buy a few bottles a week or every other week.

If you have already signed an agreement, you may be stuck as for your venue. But at least hosting cocktail hour. Or I was recently at a wedding where they had 2 different kinds of beer, 2 different kinds of wine, and 1 mixed drink option.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Correct. But if I travel, get dressed up, buy a gift, & spend my time to come celebrate with you...then you should host me while I'm there. I get to buy a new dress, pay for a hotel, buy a gift, and also buy my drinks. That stinks and I would judge you if you spent money on a designer dress, pretty invites, etc. OP can find a cheaper venue or have the party during the day. But if she expects people to get dressed up, travel, and party all night, then she should host them. She choose to book a venue that she can't afford. So she needs to figure it out
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

Why does everyone assume that every guest has to travel?  95% of our guests are local, they don't need to pay for flights or a hotel.  I've never heard of anyone forcing you to buy a new dress or a gift either.  Also, no one forces you to buy drinks.  If you don't want to pay for your drinks, then drink the non-alcoholic ones that are available.  And...not every wedding with a cash bar has a designer dress or fancy invites.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to find a way to host something, but I really don't think it's the end of the world if you don't.  Hopefully your friends and family aren't so judgemental that they'll deem your marriage a failure because they didn't get their free bloody mary at your wedding....

sarahsaturday2701

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[QUOTE]Can't you at least offer beer & wine only? * A cash bar is rude. It sounds like your circle of friends & family expects you to have an open bar, so you need to figure out something in your price range. But if you refuse to be a good host, at least spread by word of mouth that people should bring cash. * edit: spelling. Doubt anyone wants a bear at a wedding.
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

I personally think a bear at a wedding would be an interesting way to shake things up :)  Seriously though I agree with this.  I feel cash bars are rude- these people are after all showing up to celebrate your marriage and likely will bring gifts.  Is there nothing else that can be cut from your budget that will allow you to at least do beer and wine?

caseyhaynes429

There will be safe transportation home-it's at a hotel.

jrkjpf

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Why does everyone assume that every guest has to travel?  95% of our guests are local, they don't need to pay for flights or a hotel.  I've never heard of anyone forcing you to buy a new dress or a gift either.  Also, no one forces you to buy drinks.  <strong>If you don't want to pay for your drinks, then drink the non-alcoholic ones that are available</strong>.  And...not every wedding with a cash bar has a designer dress or fancy invites. I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to find a way to host something, but I really don't think it's the end of the world if you don't.  Hopefully your friends and family aren't so judgemental that they'll deem your marriage a failure because they didn't get their free bloody mary at your wedding....
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

Most guests don't notice this, but i have noticed in many weddings that a large majority of guests bring their own flasks, even if beer and wine are offered. Not by any means saying to tell your guests to bring their own drinks, but I have noticed it happens a great deal.

redheadfsu

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : <strong>Why does everyone assume that every guest has to travel?  </strong>95% of our guests are local, they don't need to pay for flights or a hotel.  I've never heard of anyone forcing you to buy a new dress or a gift either.  Also, no one forces you to buy drinks.  If you don't want to pay for your drinks, then drink the non-alcoholic ones that are available.  And...not every wedding with a cash bar has a designer dress or fancy invites. I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to find a way to host something, but I really don't think it's the end of the world if you don't.  Hopefully your friends and family aren't so judgemental that they'll deem your marriage a failure because they didn't get their free bloody mary at your wedding....
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

Because<strong> I</strong> have had to travel to a lot of weddings. Sorry... I spend money on my friends so I expect them to at least host me. No, it isn't the end of the world. But I think they were bad planners & I didn't have much fun & left early. We are still friends with them, but now I know they are cheap.

caseyhaynes429

I am so glad I dont have any friends like you redhead..

cbratthauer

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Because I have had to travel to a lot of weddings. Sorry... I spend money on my friends so I expect them to at least host me. No, it isn't the end of the world. But I think they were bad planners & I didn't have much fun & left early. We are still friends with them, but now I know they are cheap.
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

I travelled 2 1/2 hours to my best friends wedding. It was her second wedding, he has 1 child, she has 1 child, and they have 1 child together. They both work low-income jobs and do not make a lot of money. They struggle just to pay their bills. They had a small wedding and hosted it at the private club she works for. It was cash bar, but I don't think she's cheap. I try not to think bad things about my friends, in the hopes that if they're true friends they won't think ill of me either. I'd rather not be friends with somebody who thinks bad of me.

The Mel and Todd Show

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[QUOTE]I am so glad I dont have any friends like you redhead..
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

You should feel sorry for her husband, too. 

aragx6

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[QUOTE]I am so glad I dont have any friends like you redhead..
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

I can hear the collective "right back atcha" chant from all of us.

amys325

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Correct. But if I travel, get dressed up, buy a gift, & spend my time to come celebrate with you...then you should host me while I'm there. I get to buy a new dress, pay for a hotel, buy a gift, and also buy my drinks. That stinks and I would judge you if you spent money on a designer dress, pretty invites, etc. OP can find a cheaper venue or have the party during the day. But if she expects people to get dressed up, travel, and party all night, then she should host them. She choose to book a venue that she can't afford. So she needs to figure it out
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

All the OP was asking was if she should put "Cash Bar" on the invitation. 

But since you are so opinionated about it, here is my advice to you.  If someone you know takes the "Cash Bar" route, when you see that's it's cash bar or you are told that it's cash bar, just don't go.  You have a CHOICE.  Stay home with your bad attitude because it doesn't belong at a celebration of a marriage.

The Mel and Todd Show

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : I travelled 2 1/2 hours to my best friends wedding. It was her second wedding, he has 1 child, she has 1 child, and they have 1 child together. They both work low-income jobs and do not make a lot of money. They struggle just to pay their bills. They had a small wedding and hosted it at the private club she works for. It was cash bar, but I don't think she's cheap. I try not to think bad things about my friends, in the hopes that if they're true friends they won't think ill of me either. I'd rather not be friends with somebody who thinks bad of me.
Posted by cbratthauer[/QUOTE]

Don't be ridiculous (Balki!)  My best friend never sent her wedding thank you cards.  Just because she's my best friend doesn't mean I don't cringe at her breach of etiquette.  Asking your guests to pay at a hosted event is a breach of etiquette.  Friends aren't infallible, we just tolerate them a bit better than others when they're acting horribly. 

aragx6

I simply don't get it. You come to a forum about wedding etiquette. You ask and then receive answers to your question. Even though the answers are correct with regards to etiquette, you turn and attack. I don't get it.

redheadfsu

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : I travelled 2 1/2 hours to my best friends wedding. It was her second wedding, he has 1 child, she has 1 child, and they have 1 child together. They both work low-income jobs and do not make a lot of money. <strong>They struggle just to pay their bills</strong>. They had a small wedding and hosted it at the private club she works for. It was cash bar, but I don't think she's cheap. I try not to think bad things about my friends, in the hopes that if they're true friends they won't think ill of me either. I'd rather not be friends with somebody who thinks bad of me.
Posted by cbratthauer[/QUOTE]

Oh FFS. Seriously? Come on now.

Did she have an expensive dress & tons of showers? Doubt it. I am talking about people who choose to not host their guests because of bad planning or not wanting to save the money. Not someone who can't even pay the electric bill.

MissKate2011

If you're doing word of mouth I would make sure it reaches everyone. 

Nothing worse then having to "surprise" pay for things you weren't expecting to have to pay for.

cbratthauer

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[QUOTE]I simply don't get it. You come to a forum about wedding etiquette. You ask and then receive answers to your question. Even though the answers are correct with regards to etiquette , you turn and attack. I don't get it.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

She wasn't asking if it was etiquette to have a cash bar, she was asking if she should put this on the invites or spread by word of mouth. Maybe that's why she's upset?

aragx6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : All the OP was asking was if she should put "Cash Bar" on the invitation.  But since you are so opinionated about it, here is my advice to you.  If someone you know takes the "Cash Bar" route, when you see that's it's cash bar or you are told that it's cash bar, just don't go.  You have a CHOICE.  Stay home with your bad attitude because it doesn't belong at a celebration of a marriage.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

That's exactly what I would do, as I'm sure would others. If it was someone important to me I would probably attend the ceremony and then leave. Wouldn't you and/or the OP feel bad if people you cared about didn't come to your wedding because you had done something rude and offended them to the point of choosing not to come? That would bum me out for surez.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Because I have had to travel to a lot of weddings. Sorry... I spend money on my friends so I expect them to at least host me. No, it isn't the end of the world. But I think they were bad planners & I didn't have much fun & left early. We are still friends with them, but now I know they are cheap.
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

Did they pay for your meal?  Did they provide entertainment?  Did they provide non-alcoholic beverages?  Then they DID host you.  Maybe not to your tastes, but that certainly doesn't make them cheap...it just makes you shallow.

Maybe you shouldn't waste your money traveling for your "friends" unless they guarentee you ahead of time that there will be an open bar....since that's all you seem to care about.

annakb8

Redhead isn't the only one who has to travel for weddings. I have literally never been to a wedding I didn't have to travel for. The weddings I'm going to this year are in Gainesville, Tallahassee, Birmingham, and Jacksonville. These are not cheap places to fly to. I am going to be very upset if I have to pay for my own booze. If I have to pay for my own Diet Coke I might end the friendship.

cbratthauer

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Oh FFS. Seriously? Come on now. Did she have an expensive dress & tons of showers? Doubt it. I am talking about people who choose to not host their guests because of bad planning or not wanting to save the money. Not someone who can't even pay the electric bill.
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

Do you know the OP's financial situation? I read on here when people are attacking others for judging, but it seems to me that is what everybody is doing to the OP. All she wanted to know was if she should put cash bar on the invite.