What tackier when it comes to the food.

OwningAHome1981

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[QUOTE]My Fi wants to do a buffett he likes the idea of more options for our guest. Generally speaking I don't mind this, however there is a problem. The venue we have chosen doesnt have enough space in the room for the dance floor and the food. The event director explained that with most weddings one of the sets of doors is open and the buffett is out side it. I think its horribly tacky for our guests to leave the room for their food and then return. I would prefer to do a plated dinner. The trouble with this is we have to know what each guest wants if we want to offer more then one option. This is something you would include on your RSVP card if they hadn't already been printed (we recieved a discount for ordering them at the same time as the save the dates) Our soloution to this problem was to have everybody have the chicken however my mom says that is also tacky. So here are our three options:  1. Buffet with guests having to leave room and return with food.  2. Everyone eats the same meal (chicken so that anyone who doesn't eat red meat will be apeased)  3. We make a seperate card to include with the RSVP cards that read chicken or steak.  I think three is the least tacky although maybe its odd to have to have it on seperate cards?
Posted by handheld[/QUOTE]

You can't force people to eat chicken... what if they are vegetarians or kosher? You have to provide more thajn option to eat at least. So I would definitely not do #2. I would also not do chicken OR steak.. again, vegetarians.

lahlah12bk

As to the vegetarian/kosher thing: I assumed (perhaps incorrectly) that those would be available with any option you listed. At every wedding i have been to and at every venue I looked at, this was the case.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]In Response to What tackier when it comes to the food. : You can't force people to eat chicken... what if they are vegetarians or kosher? You have to provide more thajn option to eat at least. So I would definitely not do #2. I would also not do chicken OR steak.. again, vegetarians.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

I think she was just giving us an example that she would give her guests options and then they choose one.  I don't think she was actually saying that the only choices are chicken or steak.

brommel

For your particular circumstance, I would say #1 ... although plating a two-item plate would be great, it may not be in your budget.  Plenty of buffets are set up outside, most of the conferences and seminars with buffet lines have it set up in the foyer or outside of the room, with easier access to and from the kitchen for refills, cleaning up spills, etc.  So there is nothing wrong with that.

And having it on the dance floor is an option, but you would have to coordinate with your intro.  There might be some difficulty wheeling the buffets in after you do your first dance or grand entrances, if everyone is already seated.

Separate cards would also work, or if there's a way to attach the card to your existing RSVP card, you could also do it like that.  

TheVirginians

Well, I learned something new today about giving a wedding. Thank you all who corrected me. We need to rethink our plan!

OP, #1.

sarahsaturday2701

My suggestion would be 3

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[QUOTE]My Fi wants to do a buffett he likes the idea of more options for our guest. Generally speaking I don't mind this, however there is a problem. The venue we have chosen doesnt have enough space in the room for the dance floor and the food. The event director explained that with most weddings one of the sets of doors is open and the buffett is out side it. I think its horribly tacky for our guests to leave the room for their food and then return. I would prefer to do a plated dinner. The trouble with this is we have to know what each guest wants if we want to offer more then one option. This is something you would include on your RSVP card if they hadn't already been printed (we recieved a discount for ordering them at the same time as the save the dates) Our soloution to this problem was to have everybody have the chicken however my mom says that is also tacky. So here are our three options:  1. Buffet with guests having to leave room and return with food.  2. Everyone eats the same meal (chicken so that anyone who doesn't eat red meat will be apeased)  3. We make a seperate card to include with the RSVP cards that read chicken or steak.  I think three is the least tacky although maybe its odd to have to have it on seperate cards?
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