Late Announcements

ap517

hi everyone,
Not sure the best place for this but I'll give this a whirl....I was married in June and went on a very long "honeymoon" and just got back recently.  I had planned to send out announcements before we left but just had too much stuff going on that I forgot to send them out.  Is it too late to send announcements at this point, 3 months after the fact?  I made them myself so it's not like I had them done professionally, and I just have to print them out.  We had a wedding of about 100 and didn't invite many long distance friends.  The majority of the people that we would send announcements knew we were married by word of mouth, facebook, but I do feel bad that we couldn't include them in our guestlist.  I feel like I will lose all touch with these people if I don't send out a announcement, but at this point I feel like I'm rubbing it in that they weren't invited since I haven't heard from them since the date.  I know that at least 4 couldn't attend due to school/work commitments, but 2 might have been able to attend...

michaelandjulie2

If they know you are married, because of facebook or whatever, I would not send announcements. I don't think sending an announcement in the mail will make them feel more included. They probably understand you were unable to invite everyone you know, and sending an announcement is unnecessary if they already know.

[Deleted User]

I don't think I would send them. IMO, it sounds like you are just asking for a gift. If the people that you didn't invite to the wedding still mean a lot to you, then you need to make other plans to catch up with them by doing something together, going to lunch/dinner, having them over, etc.

opalsky007

I would skip it. The important people already know, in one way or another. I would find it odd and probably gift grabby if I got one this late.

Catwoman708

Announcements are for those who need to know but were not invited to your wedding.  It's not necessary to send them to everyone you know, more like close friends and family.  If you send announcements 3 months after your wedding to people who already know you are married, it might look like a hint for a gift.

So in your case, they don't seem necessary at all.  Maybe include a photo of you and your new husband in with your Christmas or holiday cards.

heyimbren

I don't really understand marriage announcements personally.

I also don't get why you think you'll lose touch with these people if you don't send announcements? If you're going to lose touch with them that easily, I just wouldn't bother to send an announcement. You can keep in touch without sending them a marriage announcement.

bellebride116

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_late-announcements?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fc13f123-9f95-49a0-ac8d-529e4d0146eaPost:8ab05600-c4b7-4795-a67d-9871ada8771c">Re: Late Announcements</a>:
[QUOTE]I would skip it. The important people already know, in one way or another. I would find it odd and probably gift grabby if I got one this late.
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto. </div>

Kristin789

Send your holiday cards at Tgiving, and include "we got married!" and your new address in the holiday card.

that way, it's not gift grabby like an announcement would be.

Mrs.B6302007

skip

samscsi

Did you live together before you got married?  If not, you could send out change of address announcements that include a note saying you got married.  That avoids the gift grabby issue, but still makes the announcement.  Plus it helps other people stay updated with your address, which is nice.  Otherwise, I like the holiday card idea.