Reception toasts

katehar01

So now that we're inside 3 mos, we're trying to really figure out all the details we need to think about. I've seen a couple places that the groom traditionally makes a toast, which I had never heard of in my life. I thought it was usually fob and honor attendants (not that anyone's required to give one). If we did do this, we'd probably give a joint toast - FI is shy and it doesn't seem fair that just he would have to do it - but honestly, we dont really want to. We'll give a short toast at the rehearsal dinner, but we weren't really planning on it for the wedding. There are so many toasts/dances to sit through already. Are you and/or your FIs giving a toast at the wedding? Will it be a snub to our guests if we don't do this? I definitely don't want to be rude so I knew this was the place to ask!

mica178

I have seen it every way.  Traditionally, the welcome toast is done by the host of the reception. If you and your FI are hosting, then you do the welcome toast.  If you aren't hosting, then the toast you do at the RD is sufficient, and you can let the host (your parents or his parents) do the toast, if that's your preference.

jessicabessica

My dad did the toast with my mom standing with him--they were hosting--and that was it.  As long as you personally greet all your guests, either through table visits (which I prefer) or a receiving line, I don't think guests will feel snubbed.

katehar01

Thanks ladies! We are contributing some but I'm considering my parents the hosts since they're paying the bulk. That's what I thought but I just wanted to dbl check!

bonge

I have never been to a wedding where the bride & groom didn't thank everyone so i am kind of surprised that it is not the norm it seems. 

brilibby4

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[QUOTE]I have never been to a wedding where the bride & groom didn't thank everyone so i am kind of surprised that it is not the norm it seems. 
Posted by bonge[/QUOTE]

I've never been to a wedding where the bride and/or groom gave a toast.

littleluckypenny

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reception toasts : I've never been to a wedding where the bride and/or groom gave a toast.
Posted by brilibby4[/QUOTE]

This.  Since FI and I are hosting, does that mean I have to say something at the wedding?  I was planning on a short speech at the rehearsal dinner, and table visits to greet each guest at the reception.

Sorry to hijack your post OP ;)

Carla1019

FI and I are paying for everything, but the MOH & Best Man are giving the toasts.

futuremrsbruno

Parents are paying for reception, we're paying for everything else. FOB is making toast, followed by BM and MOH.

I've also been to weddings where the groom did do the toast, but the bride and groom paid for the entire wedding themselves.

LDubHawksFan

I think it's just a nice touch to stand up and thank all of the people for coming and sharing your day.  It doesn't have to be long, but even if your parents do a toast, it will most likely be talking about you two as a couple.  I like when the couple at least acknowledges it.  I don't like public speaking either, but my FI and I will be doing this.

julib33

I'm certain my FI and I will give a small toast/thanks during the reception. I honestly don't care if anyone does or does not want to give a toast other than that. If my dad, mom, MOH, or his parents or BM want to make a toast, great! If no one wants to, great!

Although, we will be doing a fairly laid back wedding and reception.