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Bachelor Party

Kelly&TimothyKelly&Timothy member
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Do you know what FI is doing? (or already did) Did you care where the guys went? I've heard this can often be the cause of arguements. What's the best way to approach this situation?
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Re: Bachelor Party

  • Rosie24Rosie24
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    edited December 2011
    I think they are planning to take FI to AC like nxt weekend. I don't care and would like him to stay the whole weekend. We went to the Bahamas for a long weekend for my bachlorette. It's only fair for him!
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    His friends mentioned something about Atlantic City. No concrete plans yet to my knowledge. I don't care where they go or what they do, as long as they're all safe and as long as FI keeps it in his pants.
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  • jaimelodyjaimelody
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    edited December 2011
    They want to go to Las Vegas. I'll believe it when I see it.
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  • MisoHappyMisoHappy member
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    edited December 2011
    FI's going on a cruise with 10 of his friends. I anticipate they will eat like pigs, drink like fish, and gamble like a bunch of maniacs. All fine with me.  I didn't care where he went or what they planned because I trust that he won't do anything disrespectful.
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  • misskris927misskris927
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    edited December 2011
    DH went to AC for the wknd- I didn't care what he/they did as long as he had a good time and was safe. I went to a spa and then down the shore for the wknd. We both had a great time doing our own thing. I can only see this causing arguments if there are jealousy/trust issues, or if something inappropriate happens during the bachelor/bachelorette party.
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  • Kelly&TimothyKelly&Timothy member
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    edited December 2011
    keeping it in his pants - hahahaha! yes this is a must!i think what concerns me is not FI being disrepectful but more along the lines of his married friends wanting to use it as an excuse to go super crazy. 
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    I can see some of FI's friends doing that as well, but I trust FI not to let himself get carried away ... "My friends made me do it" is no excuse. If his friends want to get trashed to the point of barfing, or hook up with strippers, or whatever, then that's on them. The only way I'd be pissed is if drunk driving was involved.
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  • melissa721melissa721 member
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    edited December 2011
    They took him to AC but since BIL was the BM (well, one of them) of course nothing was planned because he is completey irresponsible. The other BM (MH best friend) didn't want to step on BIL's toes and just plan what he wanted to do. So needless to say, they went there with no agenda and didn't have the wild, insane bparty experience. Honestly, I would've have liked for him to have that experience because that's what I had at my b-party. And I trust him so that's not an issue. I told all the GM that I didn't care what they did. I just wanted him to have a good time. But, being who he is, MH has a very tame, relaxed b party.
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    They went out in Philly for the night. I didn't care what they did. Is this really often a cause of arguments? My only "rule" was no strippers in the hotel room, everything else was fair game (within reason).
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  • SLC0787SLC0787 member
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    edited December 2011
    My FI went to AC for the weekend. There was one argument between us and that's because he told me he would call me when he woke up, and he never did. I got worried because one of his friends that left the first morning told his g/f who then told me that he passed out in some cabana at 7AM, so I was nervous when it was going on 4PM, and I still haven't heard from him. I guess it's different with us because we have two kids, so I worried more LOL!
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    The only way I'd be pissed is if drunk driving was involved.Let me clarify ... the only way I'd be pissed at his friends would be if they drove while drunk. Otherwise it's not really my concern as to what they do on their own time. That's between them and their own wives and girlfriends and their own consciences. But as far as them "forcing" FI to do something, the only way that FI would be forced into something is if someone's holding a gun to his head. If he lets them talk him into something shady, or lets himself get so drunk that he can no longer control his actions, then that's still FI's fault for allowing it to get to that point. I can't hold FI's friends responsible for FI's actions. I'm not going to hold a grudge against his buddies for something that was ultimately his decision.
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    He went to Montreal.  I didn't care what he did.  I trust him completely, and know he isn't one to do anything stupid.
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