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Bridesmaid Luncheon

Am I supposed ot have one for my bridesmaids?  When should I have this?  What did you do?

Re: Bridesmaid Luncheon

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    alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    you're not required to do anything; but sure, that would be nice.  i didn't.  some of us went to get our nails done together and then grabbed brunch which i paid for, but it wasn't like an event.
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    mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    You're not "supposed to" have it ... I never heard of this before the Knot, and it seems like one of those things that the bridal industry keeps plugging to get people to spend more money. So I would only do it if you really want to, not out of guilt or obligation.I told my BMs that I'd buy lunch/dinner on whatever day we go out shopping for their dresses. And I imagine that I'll pay for bagels or sandwiches or something on the day of the wedding when we're all getting ready together. I don't plan to have some elaborate luncheon with them, especially because I only have two of them.
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think there is any rule saying you are "supposed" to...But if you want...if they all go bridesmaid dressing shopping with you, maybe take them all out for lunch after?In one wedding I was in, the gift to the BMs was that the bride took us all to Diva nails in the city a month before the wedding for manis and pedis and she catered sandwiches and drinks for us.
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    uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I took them out to dinner when we were in Miami for my bachelorette party-- that was my "bridesmaid luncheon."  My sister had a destination wedding, so she had hers the day of the rehearsal dinner because everyone was in town already (my bridesmaids were not all in town at that point when my wedding rolled around or else I would have considered that).  My best friend, who is from NJ, lives in London AND was having a destination wedding (and a destination bachelorette party that not everyone could go to) took us out for dinner and drinks in the city after her shower (which was in NJ). But I've also been in a few weddings where there was no bridesmaid luncheon.  I don't think they're all that popular anymore? 
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    edited December 2011
    i've been in about 9 weddings and only one bride has done the bridesmaid luncheon.
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think it's necessary and certainly doesn’t' t need to be formal or even titled 'BM luncheon'. Maybe if you're all getting your nails done the day before you can take them out to lunch afterwards. Or like MB said take them to lunch when you going looking for their dresses. Just a little gesture to say thanks but nothing over the top. IMO, once you start getting into huge luncheons, big elaborate thank you gifts that total the cost of the dress, it's like you might as well just paid for the dress instead of shelling out all this cash for things they may or may not even want.
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    Partymixx27Partymixx27 member
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    edited December 2011
    Not necessary at all.  It's nice if you do, but you dont' have to.  I am going out with my BMs to get our manis/pedis the day before, and that night is our RD, so I doubt we'll do much that day.  But the next Friday, the Friday before my wedding, I'll probably wind up getting together with them just to relax and celebrate the upcoming day.
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    edited December 2011
    I had one about 6 months in to the engagement.  It was more to have everyone come together and meet since they come from a lot of different part of my life.   It was simple an nice, reserved the Tasting Room at The Tabor Road Tavern, simple lunch and great conversations.  It went so well and everyone had a great time.
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