invitation drama

caketime

Oh Chelsea I am so sorry for you.  Your dad needs to buck up and be an adult.  You could always throw "tradition" back in his face and say how traditionally the father of the bride paid for everything.As for who should walk you down the aisle I don't think you should concede on this point. In a couple of years you may regret it.  My parents, Jewish tradition, walked me down the aisle and I was so glad to have both of them there.

cvl105

I wanted to say to him "Traditionally, the brides parents weren't divorced".  I refrained. I did mention to him that Jewish tradition is for both parents to walk you down (I'm not Jewish, but thought I'd put it out there).  He proceeds to tell me he was at a wedding this summer for his friends daugther who is Jewish and his friend walked her down, not both parents. And you're so right about traditionally the FOB pays for everything. hahahaha...Wonder how he'd feel if I told him that.

DandT1206

ugh, sorry to hear this chelsea.  you do what you think is right.  if you want both mom and dad to walk you down the aisle, then go for it.  you're the bride and you should be able to go bridezilla on this one

kpeteley

Aww Chels - i just saw this.  I am so sorry you are in the middle of a tug-o-war between your parents.  I wouldn't change a thing about your invites, your Dad has to get over his pride.Regarding walking down the aisle, tell your Dad that he may not mean to hurt your feelings etc, but he has.  Tell him that whatever issues he and your Mom have need to be dealt with without you.  Let him know that you want them both to walk you down the aisle and to please respect that.  He has the father-daughter dance ( I am assuming?) to have his special moment with you.  Why is it soo often that when we grow up it becomes clear that our parents still haven't??  I am glad that your Mom gave you the option to walk down with your Dad alone  

HBear19

Really sorry that you have to go through this. I can imagine how you must feel, my parents have been divorced and remarried since I could barely walk! As far as walking down the aisle, I agree with pp that ou should do what YOU want. My mom originally said she wanted to walk me down with my dad since she mostly raised me. I calmly explained that I felt funny having them BOTH walk me down since they weren't a couple. I told her I would like to see her walk with her husband, my brother would escort my stepmom, and dad would walk with me. But that's just me. My mom totally went for it though, since it sounded like I had given it thought. If you really want your mom and dad, then that's what you should do. But it was really great of your mom to say it was ok if you didn't want them both. We can all see who is being ther bigger person here... Cheer up and good luck!

melissa82

I'm so sorry. =( I am getting angry for you! I would tell him when invitations went out, your mom and stepdad were paying for the reception alone and are hosting. If he wanted to be a part of that, he should have spoke up sooner.I'd also say that who you walk down the aisle with is YOUR choice, not his. His choices are to either walk with you and your mom or not walk at all. End of story.If he throws out the "tradition" line again, I'd definitely say he is "traditionally" supposed to pay for it all, too. And since that's being handled in a more "modern" way, so is everything else. Get with the times, Dad!