Brad's at it again!

mrs.spunky1508

RE: http://talk.theknot.com/boards/ShowPost.aspx?PostID=62444777 Brad, what the hell is wrong with you? So she had a lot of As BIG FLUCKING DEAL! She had a good wedding, she was happy. Maybe she had low standards (doubt it!), maybe she is a worrier and was afraid of a few possible glitches that never happened. Maybe she just chose good vendors. We should all be so lucky! Ugh! You are so frustrating and downright annoying. Although I hate to do this, I will say something that's a "cliche" around here: I feel bad for your FI! I honestly wonder if you are a happy, decent person because you are never pleased with anything. Nothing is ever good enough for you! "too many As", don't want this or that, incredibly complex ideas you want for cheap, just plain as day will NOT listen to suggestions or help, always take take take (like with recs for instance) but never give anything constructive back. I am thisclose to blocking you but I have to admit your inane responses entertain me from time to time, although they usually just infuriate me. I should just be done with you.

tvlirene

Amen sista!

Lola Minnie

That is a reason we research vendors or ask others for rec's so that we are confident and feel comfortable in our choices. A's are a good thing that means you are happy in your decision.  Really... I'm waiting to see his reviews. But oh wait... we don't even know when he's getting married.

mscutieri

I agree. Brad, if someone's vendor "grades" are not satisfactory to you, just shut up and keep it to yourself. You are such a rude and ignorant person.ig·no·rant  (ĭg'nər-ənt)  adj. Lacking education or knowledge. Showing or arising from a lack of education or knowledge: an ignorant mistake. Unaware or uninformed.

Mye

What does he think? That you research the vendors, meet with them, then book them, and on the the day of the wedding they are just going to do a shitty_ job! What a total douche_

mrs.spunky1508

Oh no, we do. It's September 2010. I know it is not the 11th although that date was open, it might be the weekend after that, or the weekend after THAT. I guess I just wonder why he is here if he isn't willing to GIVE as well as take, if. when we help, he shuts down whatever we say. It just doesn't make any sense. I also wonder why so many As BOTHER him. It's not HIS wedding. Unless they're his vendors he shouldn't care. You do not hire someone you can't trust to do a good job. That just isn't smart. I am very happy PartyMixx gave her venue an A. I had my wedding there and IMO it furthers their good reputation and validates in my mind that 1. If hers was good then maybe my thoughts of it being good means it actually WAS good and 2. they're still doing a good job and me continuing to give them as a rec on here is still a good idea.

jen629

thats because Brad is an A

Lola Minnie

How the heck do you know his wedding is Sept 2010? I thought it was a mystery..

mrs.spunky1508

LOL I've been here a long time... he said his date once. I happen to have a memory like flypaper. Unless it is all a ploy and he told us when it was to confuse us, LOL

Lola Minnie

Maybe it is the truth.. He probably was honest before he thought we were all out to get him and his fi LOL.  They are very private people, don't forget.

brad1431

a review is meaningless unless it is objective, if everyone gets an A just dont even bother writing a review.  Your review should be helpful to others.  I suspect most just write reviews to make them self feel like they had the perfect dream wedding, but it is absolutely meaningless unless it is objective, and if everyone gets an "A", it isnt objective, and is worthless.

yusi196

He always makes the same comment with all reviews: "that is a lot of A's" I dont pay attention to it anymore because honestly, who is he? An academy award expert on weddings?I can't wait to see HIS reviews....I'll say to him:"that is a lot of D's" lmao!

brad1431

the problem is that there is no system for reviews, she even stated in one reviews the ceremony they screwed up a song, but got an A.A is ABSOLUTE perfection, if someone screwed something up that is automatic C or D.  B or C is just doing the job as you expected. A is giong way above and beyond throwing stuff in for free that costs money, giving you something extra that is unexpected, etc....

cvl105

If I remember correctly, she didn't have all A's brad. A "C" is not an average grade imo, it is below average performance.

jen629

who are you kidding he wont give any reviews...lol

Lola Minnie

Geez, you are a broken record.  zzZZZZzzz

caketime

That is you opinion what the grade stands for.  She explained it all out in her reviews so her grades and explanations make sense for her.Why do you feel the need to ruin everyone's day?  Do you not realize that no matter what your day will not be perfect?  That something, even minor will automatically go wrong?And again, do not complain about reviews when you are not willing to post them yourself.

mrs.spunky1508

If an explanation is given, it is not meaningless. It gives insight to the person's expectations and thought processes. If someone says, "the limo company was late, there was no champagne, and no glasses, the limo was dirty and the guy was dressed like a slob", and the grade is an A, then yes that is meaningless. But if someone says "oh well here were some very minor, teeny tiny things that didn't go my way, or with my "vision", but didn't screw up anything that affected our guests, or our good time, and no one knew about them but me" and they get an A, then that is certainly objective and meaningful. I am a picky mofo, trust me, and there were things "wrong" that happened at my wedding, but I attribute their good grade (to those I gave good grades to) to my pickiness (realizing not everyone is like me), and the overall feeling and outcome of the event.

yusi196

Ok, I can't believe I'm going to waste my breath here but Brad, how is this NOT objective? Photographer – John Gallino: A- (pending albums)They’re beautiful and photojournalistic, although not quite as artsy as some of the more experienced photographers. And he doesn’t yet (at least at the time of my wedding) have liability insurance, the reason for the minus. Our venue was tolerant of that, but others may not beShe is giving helpful and important information here. She gave him an A because she wanted to give him an A, period. At the end of the day what matters is the information included in the review not a grade......When I read reviews I dont even look at the grades. I simply look at the experience and information that might be helpful to me or other bride I know.

brad1431

chelsea, since there are normally 5 letter grades, A B C D F, C is the average.  You have to think of it like your review at work, just doing what is expected is a C, and it is not enough.

brad1431

how is it not objective?? just not having the proper insurance alone is worth a C or worse, plus you havent even seen his work and you are giving him an A?  How is that objective, you are assuming perfection by giving him an A, actually you are assuming more than perfection cause just not having insurance already brings him down, so he has to be more than perfect to get an A, which is impossible.

yusi196

Brad, how would you grade your FI?  

caketime

Brad - again the inevitable question.  Do you plan on doing reviews?  For her insurance was not a big deal.  If it is for you that's one thing but for her it was not.  That is why explanations are meaningful.

ffbride_0813

I was pissed when I got C's in college.  I dont think any of my employers would find me worthy of hiring if I had a C average.  Thats all i am going to say. 

mrs.spunky1508

But it is all about interpretation. I mean, admittedly, I sit on the internet all day and chat with you all, and with people on the nest, check my bank account & fiddle with my budget, go on facebook, etc. If I were to rate my own performance, I'd give myself a C+ or B-. I don't go too far out of my way to do "extra" work, to do all my filing every day, and other stuff like that. However, my boss must think I'm doing better than "C+" work because I got a 6% raise on Friday that shocked me. My H has never, without a promotion, gotten anything more than 3%. My position didn't change, I have no more work than before, I'm still sitting here and typing this... and I have a raise. So my interpretation is X, my boss's is Y, even though the actual output is the same.

cher1980

oh dear - and just to throw into this mess, all my vendors got A++++++++++ for me! And they all thru in EXTRAs and went way above and beyond what i had asked from them...i can list examples from every one!yes girls get their DREAM weddings! I did! And lots of other knotties did too and im so happy for all of them!Brad - What do you tell your guy friends about theknot? I mean seriously, why are you on here? I cant get over that a guy is on here. What joy do you get from logging on here everyday? Please enlighten us!

Lola Minnie

Mrs. Spunky, congrats on the raise, girl! That's great especially in this economy.

yusi196

plus you havent even seen his work and you are giving him an A?Right after her reviews post, she made another post with a link to her PRO pics. So, she obviously saw his work. In her eyes, she was happy with what she paid and what she got, so she gave him an A.

brad1431

you are missing the point, getting what you paid for is as expected and average, so it is a C, then add that he didnt have insurance, so probably C-, and you havent even seen the final product, so really no grade for now. And the ceremony music, they effed up a song, that is probably a D, how is it an A?  They effed up.  A is for perfection

caketime

And like a broken record - that is your point of view for grades, not hers.  AND since you are not going to do reviews you have no right to offer any opinion on them.  So why don't you just shut up and actually read/listen to what we are saying for once!?   I have to agree with Mrs. Spunky I feel sorry for your FI because you are just such a miserable human being.

mrs.spunky1508

An A=/= 100% An A, as I remember it, is a 90-100% Hell, in college, I had some classes where an A was an 85%+