Addressing an invite question

peaches85

My mom has a friend (about 50 years old) who still lives with her father and never goes out on dates or anything.  Her mother recently passed away so there's not even a question that she would want to bring someone with her besides her dad.

Should I address the STD and invitation to:
Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Smith

Or is there some other way to deal with this type of invite situation?  I'd really prefer not to send out two separate STDs and invitations because I feel like it'd be a waste.

Thoughts?

cvl105

I had a similar situation.  I would do it this way:

Mr. John Smith

Ms. Jane Smith

5 Smith Rd

Newark, NJ

peaches85

Great!  Thanks so much!! 

DandT1206

exactly what Chelsea said

I think writing Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Smith makes it look like they are a couple.  writing the names on separate lines seems more appropriate

peaches85

Gotcha!  And that's what you do with kids, too, right?  You put the parents on top and the kids underneath?

DandT1206

if the kids were under 16, I just wrote "and family" on the outer envelope.  if i had an inner envelope I would have written out their names.

DandT1206

unless it's just one kid, then you can write it below the parents.... one of my cousins has 4 kids under 16 so I wasn't writing out all their names on the envelope

uppereastgirl

Personally, I'd send them two separate invitations (and that's what we did in a few very similar situations).  I mean, I'd assume that they'll give you two different gifts.  I think it is a closer call if you're dealing with a 22 year old living at home, but it is maybe a bit demeaning to treat her as her father's kid just to save the cost of one more invitation?

I think you can get away with one save the date, but I wouldn't do it with the invitations themselves.

When we sent out moving announcements last year my MIL insisted that my husband's two uncles who live together get separate ones.  I thought it was silly (particularly because we've never received mail or a visit from either, so it isn't like either was clamoring to get our new address), but upon reflection I think it was the right thing to do.  Someone who is a grown-up adult and single and living with a relative probably isn't too excited about his/her station in life, and may be sensitive about the little things like that.